I've been best friends with this girl for 13 years almost. and i love her to death. she is my absoloute best friend. But some times i want to smack her in the face. We don't talk as much as we used to because she has made new friends, as have i. But i can only assume that that is normal to happen as u get older. But the only thing is, is she acts like i'm the one who doesn't "chill" with he anymore. But she is way to busy smoking weed and poping E to hang with me (btw i'm not into that kinda stuff at all, which is one of the reasons i kinda "back away" from her). And all shes interested in is doing drugs, having sex, and fighting with people. I don't want to drop her as a friend because i love her so much, but at the same time i want to be respected and not treated like crap by someone who is suppoesed to be there for me. Any suggestions on what i should do?
2007-03-22 15:22:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Been there. Actually I am still sorta there. My best friend and I were friends for 15 years. She was pretty much a sister. My family was hers and hers was mine. The thing is people grow up though and they change tremendously when they do. She ended up getting a boyfriend and new friends as well and we just grew apart. We talk still from time to time and I still say she is my best friend, but sometimes I do think it is just out of habbit since we really aren't nearly as close anymore as we used to be. In your situation I have to say that it is very very responsible of you to back away when she started to do things like drugs or whatever. You best friend can have major impact on your life and you didn't let the bad stuff get through wich is very good.
Anyway, the answer is no. She isn't a bad friend she isn't a very resposible person and she hasn't been very respectful of your feelings lately and maybe it is just time for you to both go your seperate ways. Sometimes it is better to end it like that than to end it on a bad note ya know? I mean you don't have to stop talking to her all together, but maybe hanging out a lot or talking a lot really isn't something you should do. Find your own thing. Get some new friends too. Don't dwell over the change, because as you grow up you will realize that no matter what everything changes. Nothing ever stays the same. Good luck.
2007-03-22 15:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex?Drugs? And you STILL love her? She obviously has no respect for you and is throwing away her life. You are totally right to "back away" from her. She is a bad influence on you and others. The weed- she needs serious help, and immediatley. http://abovetheinfluence.com/
She gained the pot, but should be losing you. She has no right to treat you this way.
2007-03-22 15:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are definately not a good friend! You two have drifted apart and it doesn't sound like there is reason to be best friends anymore. You're probably worried about her but don't let her blame you or drag you along in her lifestyle.
2007-03-22 15:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes in life u reach a point where ur friends and u have a split, where each other choose a different lifestyles, so maybe it is time for u to find another friend who has interests similar too urs and u can still be friends with ur other friend good luck
2007-03-22 15:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by cemlkd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sort of understand your situation. Friends fade away and new people come along sometimes you have a longing for the old memories and will undoubtly always remember them. There are people out there who have the potential to become your new best friend......it will take time and it wont come quick but trust me new friends will come along someday
2007-03-22 15:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sephiroth~The One Winged Angel~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it.
be like "I really don't like to see you on drugs, for they're life threatening. it hurts me to see you on them,"
something that really comes from your heart, and tell her that you like the 'old her' better.
you should be able to tell her that, for she's your best friend.
obviously she is, since she's been your friend for 13 years.
if you have to, send an anonymous letter to the guidance counseler asking for a meeting with the two. it could help, because your friend REALLY needs to get off the drugs.
they're terrible.
they might even end up killing her.
if you love her that much, do what's right.
2007-03-22 15:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by Ellers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her - she will drag you down-
People change - especially when you are young. Don't hang around with people - even if they used to be best friends when they do things that could ruin your life.
2007-03-22 15:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by desdemonadeville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the nearest rehab center. If still she will not change, then you must stay away from her. You have done your part as a friend.
You have your own life to look after.
2007-03-22 15:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by september 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time for you to move on to your new and decent friends and try to get this supposedly good friend to see a drug counselor before she does something really bad or gets some kind of sexually transmitted disease....
2007-03-22 15:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i think is just do what you and your heart tells you:
Do i really want to be her friend?
If friend, best?!
does she respect me and treat me right?
does she ignore me, or look at me?
does she See right through me or still see ?
Just ask yourself these.. you may get an idea
2007-03-22 15:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mimí..ツ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋