I called an old friend today and I had to tell her my maiden name for her to understand who I was. I started thinking about my old name and who I was. That person, (myself with my maiden name) seems to be more of a really close friend that I grew up with but not myself. I can't even imagine being that person or that name anymore. Has anyone else thought or felt this way too?
2007-03-22 15:17:58 · 23 answers · asked by Peggy Pirate 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no. see, the old me was more secure and funny and lively...the new me is depressed and not self assured....
2007-03-22 15:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny- I had the same thought when I took my passport out- The name is so remote- The connection is gone. I amercanized my first name and when I saw my original name after 11 years I couldn't even imagine that that person once was me.
Sometimes old friends from long long ago call me by my real name and I feel so strange. Guess that happens to quite a lot of people. Some people keep their maiden name to keep their identity. I rather have a new name. I wonder how people feel after they get married and divorced countless times with many changing names. I have a friend who got divorced I think 4 times. All kids have different names and all her papers are different. That must be hard.
2007-03-22 22:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by desdemonadeville 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The old me was so naieve. The fun and fancy free girl, knew nothing about walking on eggshells or having sex when NOT remotely in the mood. She didn't know how to fight and win. She didn't know that you could feel alone when someone was right next to you. She didn't know prince charming, turns into Shrek, eventually. Who could tell her, she was not going to get a hug everytime her feelings were hurt? I always wanted to be cinderella. Now if only that dang fairy godmother would show up! I have learned so much. But If I knew theses things then. No man would have wanted me! It's like a catch 22.
2007-03-22 22:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!!!!! I am much more attentive to my husband than my own needs. I am pregnant now with our first child and I try to still do anything I can for him. He is the best to me as well, its a two way street for us. Lots of friends and family admire our marriage and relationship so I see we are doing something right.
I really can't stand the other person I was before I met him, so I don't dwell on that woman. I am much better as I know Jesus now and I really know what it means to be centered in Christ. If your marriage is to be strong in these times, you must have a faith based marriage. The person you marry should make you a better person as well.... God Bless:)
2007-03-24 21:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Denise K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change whether they're married or not. But if your in a good marriage and love who your with than usually you like the person you are now. I know my husband brings out the best in me and I love the person i am around him and my son. I would never want to go back to who I was cause i'm a much better person now
2007-03-22 23:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old me was totally different then the new me. It is not because I got married it is because you change in time. I like being married and knowing I have someone to come home to every night after work. I have someone to share my thoughts and tell about my bad and good days. Marriage has its ups and downs but I feel better now then when I was single.
2007-03-22 22:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I got married the first time at 19 and the 2nd time at nearly 30...I've been through a lot of changes and growth over those years...I'm very different....I experienced more personal growth after my 2nd marriage, when I was on my own and independent for the first time, than any other time in my life...it was long overdue!
2007-03-22 22:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not that same timid young lady....not even close. I was 25 when married...I'm now 45 and continue to be single and raising our two children. I experienced life giving emotional and mental growth in all those years and I'm a much more grounded person for it. I am quite happy with who I am. Meek and Mild does not suit me today....thankfully.
2007-03-22 22:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
NOPE....I don't see myself as the same person I once was.
I agree with Annie and sometimes wonder..."If I had the chance to go back in time...YEP...I would have done things differently....But then again....That's what life is about, no?
Learning....sometimes suffering and making mistakes.
I don't miss the "old me"- but I get mixed feelings when I look at old photographs and old friends....
We must remember that nothing is free and that this life is quite short, after all.
Cheers!
2007-03-22 22:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand. I am definitely NOT the same person I was before I married. I still have some of her in me but for the most part she is a distant memory.
2007-03-22 22:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I really don't think I have changed all that much. I still love the man I loved then...I'm still the same person with the same beliefs.....the only real thing that has changed is that i'm a mother now.....and to me that's not a bad change...that's a change for the better....understand what i'm saying?
2007-03-22 22:48:03 · answer #11 · answered by smurfie45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋