What could possibly be wrong with a 7 year old girl who?

Question

sh%*s her pants...you ask her "do you need to go to the bathroom" etc etc she says no..and later on she stinks and is walking funny..and when you ask her she denies it!!! It is obvious she is lieing...when you tell her to go to the bathroom and clean up she cries and practicly refuses to...she will after a long cry alone in the bathroom. this is not physical...it's mental but what is wrong? she was seeing a therapist weekly but this went on for years. I don't know if she is still doing this...she was a exboyfriends daughter.

I guess her mom being a mentally ill (she hears voices..evil ones) and her dad being in prison for a few years didn't help matters any.

Answer 1

I have a niece who does the same thing.
Although in psychology they teach that it is a defense mechanism for molestation, that is not always the case.
My niece suffers with irregular bowel movements because of the food she eats. First she was constipated from dairy products and this caused her to have pain when straining. For some reason it was easier for her to potty in her pants or in warm water in the tub. Her mother was told to give her more fruit and eliminate the dairy products and she did. This caused her to have diaherria. She could not make it to the bathroom and it burned from being on her skin. She was irritated often in her private area and did not want to be wiped off with tissue. She had to have water poured over her bottom and a soft towel to remove the bowel. Since diet was not helping, the doctors used several types of medication to try and help her with the bathroom problem. They ended up mixing safforn oil in her juice in the morning and it helped solve that problem.
Maybe not so much a therapist as a digestion specialist maybe needed too.

Answer 2

I had a similar situation with my step-daughter. She's 8 years old and had been potty-trained for a good 5+ years, yet she started wetting her pants. We ruled out molestation (first thing that popped into my head when considering her mother and her character judgement), but it still kept happening. She never did it when she was around her dad and me. We figured it was for attention. We got her talking, and relieved some of the stress she was under and now everything is okay...not perfect. She does have problems with her bladder at times, but it's much better. Hopefully the child is better.

Like someone else had said, if you're getting angry or embarrassed about it, the problem will only get worse. Good luck!

Answer 3

most causes are either molestation, emotional abuse while being toilet trained causing a fear of the toilet, mentally handicapped or she has a health problem. Have her physically checked first. if it is emotional she may have been too young to remember what happened to her to be able to tell. A lot of patience,and kindness will go along way. Basically retraining her toilet without anger, and she may need a person she trust to go to the bathroom with her. If it is mental the only thing you can do is put her in diapers.

Answer 4

I have little experience with this but I do know the worse you make the child feel the worse the problem will get. She knows what she is doing, just not why. I see it as a defence mechanism. I pray the poor little tyke received the help she needed.

Answer 5

maybe she didn't want to go to the bathroom cause she was embarrassed that she might stink up the place and after everyone new that she went in her pants she was even more embarrassed.

Answer 6

she needs a different therapist. I've heard it's a self-defense act that results from molestation. which would explain her crying when you tell her to clean up. have her wear depends and don't be mean about it, until she gets past this

Answer 7

She needs to continue therapy and maybe change therapists. Obviously, the first one didn't do the job.