i am 41/2 months pregnant and my bf is working in another country. i looked at his myspace and he was messaging some girl (who lives where he is working) i asked him and he denied it. almost 2 weeks later i see that he messaged her telling her to ignore any messages from me. not to answer my questions about how they know eachother. and she messages back with her number. he said a guy he works with called her and they all went out. he claims he left early. well i told him i was done. that we were over and he lost it. he claims he didnt do anything with her and he lied so i wouldnt get mad but that he was just chatting. he is now on an oil rig and called me from a phone that is in front of everyone. he was crying and begging me to take him back. i know he loves me. but i dont know what to do? a lil help please!!!
2007-03-22 15:13:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you love him, you can try counselling. There is the possibility that he cheated on you, but there is also the possibility that he realizes he was wrong and genuinely wants to be with you and do the right thing and help you raise your baby.
If you really don't think you can trust him again, though, make a clean break, but don't try and keep his child from him. Set up custody now, and make sure you file for child support (for your CHILD - not for you).
This is why I think myspace and internet communication only causes more harm than good...
2007-03-22 15:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him!!! Well depends do you think that negative of your self that you will need further pain caused by him with the same actions again, again and again. It never fails give them a chance now and you will continue to give them chances until you and only you have had enough. Besides if he has nothing better to do then be on myspace looking over other girls profiles apparently hes not that concerned about you in the first place.
And this comes from a man....We are all dogs I've mad the same mistakes in my past and it took years for me to grow up!
2007-03-22 15:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by ThePleasurePlayground.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. He did tell her and tell her to ignore any messages from you, that sounds suspicious. Yet. He could of just told her that because he barely knew her, and your involvement in the whole thing made him feel akward towards her; he didn't want her to freak out or stop talking to him because of you being paranoid. Then again.. why was she giving him her number when it was "the guy he worked with" that went out with her? It's hard to tell if he cheated on you / plans to cheat on you with her or not. Why don't you just ask HER? Tell her you're pregnant with his baby & waiting on him to come back home to you? Most girls won't pursue a guy who has something like that going on.
2007-03-22 16:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by crimsonskies12474 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are NOT married you know....
perhaps some birth control until marriage would have been a better alternative than being pregnant and having a BOYFRIEND messing around on you...
2007-03-22 15:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG, I am so sorry, I think he was cheating on you. Don't take him back!
2007-03-22 15:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Matilda C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP THAT DAG ON FOOL HE DON'T WON'T U
P.S. I DON'T CARE IF SOMEONE REPORTS THIS ANSWER THIS IS THE REAL TRUTH***
2007-03-22 15:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by lil mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you cant trust him anymore, and that lying to you is WHY you cant trust me...
2007-03-22 15:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋