Being a housewive, your dreams?

Question

Hi all...I am 26yrs old, a house wife-got married when I was 24. I have a Bachelor's degree-I have always had these dreams and goals to be a big shot corporate person, to get up in the morning, go to work, come home to my husband and kids (we have one right now). Anyway I used to work before we got married, after we got married, we had to move- well, I had to move- here...to Atlanta. I dont know anybody here BUT my husband. I love and honor him but sometimes I need some air, I wish I could see someone else ( as in friends, not men to cheat) but just be able to talk to someone else but him, you know...
I have got a few job leads online but I cant even make it to the interviews bse my husband has to go work- Qn is...how do I keep my cool and not feel frustrated or feel like I am losing my life...I want to make something out of myself, I want to feel like a young woman- I dont want to hate being married, but how do I achieve my dream without being too ambitious?

Answer 1

I feel with you. I was in the same situation. Mine was actually worse - from Eurpean big city girl to Texas country bumkin.
What helped me was a- start your own business from home - doesn't really matter what - buying and selling stuff on Ebay, candles Mary Kay. Just to get out. I started a kennel 10 years ago and got bigger than ever expected -
b- take classes - whatever interests you - you will meet a bunch of people
c- do volunteer work - ( never worked for me though as I cannot be the lowest on foodchain)
d- join a group - whatever you like - religion, dogs, kids, mother's stat at home
e- join a gym -
Hope this helps you a little

Answer 2

I think that being a stay at home mom is a wonderful achievement. Too many people today have no choice but to work and pay another person to raise their child.
Maybe you should look at this differently. You are taking a break from the corporate world to be not only a wife, but a mother. You will be spending all of the most impressionable years teaching your child about the world and showing them that they are the most important person in your life. That kind of care is priceless. Kids are little for so short a time. Once your little one is in school (age4-5) you can go back to work knowing that you provided the best care for your baby. Think about it!
I am in no way saying that you should not have goals. Goals and dreams are great and I think that you should do what ever makes you happy. If you feel that you need to work, then do it! Find a great daycare facility for your baby and go for your dreams! You need to do what you truly feel is best for you and your family. Good luck!

Answer 3

no such thing as being too ambitious, as long as you take your family into consideration while doing it.

wow. you're going thru a lot. i'm sure a lot of women feel the same way when they move to another city & stay home with their child. is there any way you can get a babysitter for a few hours a week while you go to interviews? sounds like you need some time away from being a wife & mom sometimes. you're still young andentitled to your dreams. just b/c you're married with a child doesn't mean you have to give that up. maybe you can look online for groups of women new to the area who want to meet other women. with all the people i know of relocating to Atlanta, there must be a lot of others in the same boat as you. good luck.

Answer 4

First, the is no "too ambitious". Second, consider starting an internet based home business. That way you can work and be productive, but you are working from home, for yourself. Find something you love to do and turn it into a business. I don't know what your skills are but there has to be something, right? And never let go of your dreams just to please someone else, even a husband. There has to be a middle ground on this issue for the two of you. It might just take a little work to find it. Be honest witih him about how you feel about not working. If he really loves youm, he will want to help.

Answer 5

With a degree you have a much better chance than most of workgin from home at a higher payign job. Your husband will need to keep your baby long enough for you to interview. If he supports you in being all you feel you need to be then he will do that much. I am a stay at home mom, it's all I've EVER wanted to be and I am complete with being "just" that, but if I could work at hjome I'm sure I woudl take the opportunity, if nothing else to be somebody else besides, "Mark's wife" or "David's mommy" or "Leah's mommy". Sometimes I do miss beign just "Betsy". Good luck in your search.

Answer 6

You need to remember that you're an individual and not just a married person. You have to take care of yourself and your dreams in order to be any good to your family. Just tell your husband exactly how your feeling and express to him how important it is to you. And maybe you could just get a job part time for a while and see how it goes and see if you still like it as much as you thought. Ease your way into it that way you and your family can adjust. But there's nothing wrong with pursuing something for yourself at all and your husband should support that. Just don't forget about your family in the process. It will be all about balance! good luck

Answer 7

You need to talk to your husband about your feelings and your wants. Yes you can be a Mother, Wife, and have a job doing what you love. It is rather hard at first because when you come home you have to cook and clean and take care of the children as well. You should be able to do whatever you want to in life and nobody can tell you NO!!

Answer 8

Find a babysitting service for your child on the days you have interveiws.You have every right to be as ambitious as you want and have nothing hold you back.I suggest you head twords you life-long dream otherwise you'll always have a void.as for your social situation try getting out of the house on weekends or maybe join a local club,get to know your neighbors and those all around your neighborhood.
Best of luck to you!
Brittany

Answer 9

So being a good mother to your child and a good wife isn't making something out of yourself? I guess you women these days want to have a career rather than take care of your family. Why don't you just throw your kid in daycare and go to your interviews? That's what you'll be doing once you get a job, what's the problem now?

Answer 10

Is there someone who can watch your child while you go to interviews or go looking for a job? A relative? A babysitter? Dont give up your goals and ambitions just because you are married and have a child. God bless and good luck