Single women .....when U get married .....???

Question

....when you get married, will you take your husband's last name? If not .....why not ???

Answer 1

Nope, not again. I did the first time and I didn't really realize how much it bothered me. I felt like I lost a big part of my identity. I felt so lost. I wanted to keep it, but he acted like such a kid, whining about it how we should have the same last name. Of course, when I asked him to take mine, oh no, couldn't do that. He didn't' want to be embarrassed. It was okay for me to be uncomfortable to pIease him though. remember watching this show on t.v. about weddings in different countries. In one country, they put the bride's maiden name in a bottle and then throw it out to sea. That really bothered me. Why can't a guy take a women's last name? It is 2007, not 1807 anyways. I think it should be up to the women if she wants to or not. It shouldn't be a big deal where people look at her like she's got two heads if she doesn't though. I personally was sooooooo happy to get my maiden name back after the divorce. It's a big part of me that no one is ever taking away from me again.

Answer 2

If I ever got married (and that's not likely, so you may just want to stop reading now *grin*) I would keep my own last name. It has worked for me this far in life... so why pitch it? My name is part of who I am. Choosing to walk through this world with someone does change you... but ideally those changes take place before the thought of trying on a new name even occurs. I'd feel like I was casting off my identity.

Answer 3

I'd use both just because my dad died, and he only had 3 girls (ok, he had 6 brothers, so the name is not going to die away, but still...!). Otherwise, I don't think it's that important. I don't need a name to tell me who I am. I know it's symbolic, but getting married is also a symbol, and I like some traditions. So, his name+ my name.

Answer 4

If you are planning on having kids, I think it's important for the parents to have the same last name, whether they take his, hers, or some combination of the two. I don't like it when married parents don't have the same last name as their kids; I think it takes away some of that family solidarity. I took my husband's name, just because I didn't care one way or another whose name we ended up with, and it was more important to him than to me that we have his name.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I didn't take my husband's last name. I had an identity and a PhD before I married him- I loved him, and still love him, dearly, but I did not feel the need to be defined by him.

Answer 7

I did not change my name because I did not want my identity to be defined by my husband, even if in name only. I agree with the above poster who said that the tradition arises from women being viewed as property. I was aware, however, that in keeping my maiden name, I was keeping my father's last name... which my mother changed to when she got married, so in a way, it's the same thing... (children being defined as property of the father)...
And, no, Mr. Cassius, my husband had no problem with me keeping my name. He knew my feelings before we were engaged and was totally fine with it.

Answer 8

I have no intention of changing my name when I get married. My husband will be free to take my name if he wants, but I do not expect him too and I hope that he shares those feelings.

The custom of a woman taking her husband's last name is a legacy of women being viewed property. Since that belief is incorrect and outdated, there really is no good reason to change your last name.

Edit:
Let me add: there really is no good reason to change your last name, unless you want to, because we live in a free democratic country and are afforded that right.

Answer 9

I'd dump my last name for sure! I've grown up for the past 11 years with my dad's last name while my mom changed hers to my step-dads. It has made for akward conversations when I have to introduce my mom and people call her by my last name.

Besides, if it wasn't so much of a hassel now, I'd change my last name. I don't get along iwth my biological dad and can't wait to ditch his name.

Answer 10

I will keep my own name. I'm already known (and published) in my field under my current name - it would not be to my advantage to change. Besides, my guy is from South Africa, and there's a click in his last name. Most Americans can't prounounce it at all. For that reason, our daughter has my last name.