He said he was going away for a week for business. We had a really bad fight and he never came back. When is it legal for me to get rid of all his stuff. I left him numerous messages telling him to tell me what he was going to do with it. Some were text messages. I know he is alive and well, because his g-ma called to see how I was since we had broken up. (that was rough concidering I didn't know we had.)
He is just ignoring me and refusing to answer my calls. He answer once when I blocked the number and hung up on me when I attempted to speak to him. It has been almost 3 weeks. I don't have any idea where he is or is living or anything, so I have no other information than his cell phone #. Despite the fact that I am broken hearted and completely at a loss for what to do emotionally, I am torn up over the idea that he has left all his stuff here without informing me of his intentions.
I don't want to get rid of his stuff, I want him (despite how messed up this is.) but...
2007-03-22 14:48:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
if he isn't coming back to me, I can't find closure staring at his stuff all night long.
2007-03-22 14:49:35 · update #1
oh, I guess the biggest issue for me is that I want to keep some of it. Like the 50inch TV. Is it mine yet, lol.
2007-03-22 15:00:21 · update #2
or, actually I more so want the much needed $ I could make off of it and some of the other things.
2007-03-22 15:01:46 · update #3
also, if you read me previous question, it would give you more insight on why this is so hard. He sort of is involved in this cult like situation...(in my opinion.)...some serioud mind control is going on.
2007-03-22 15:05:36 · update #4
Call one of his immediate family members. Tell them you don't know what to do with his things. Maybe they can talk to him and find out for you. Be the middle man. Or you could rent a storage unit in his name for 60 days. Leave him a message or text him. Tell him to pay for the storage unit and get his things. If he doesn't pick it up within 60 days the storage unit will get rid of it! Good Luck!
2007-03-22 14:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a game darling. You are playing it too.
So he gets someone to call you to find out how rough tis been and he leaves his stuff there because he knows it is annoying you.
Well, it is you rmove. You can stay annoyed and leave him a message that you discard it if he doesn't pick it up within 7 days... then leave it on the footpath. That will bring that part of the game playing to an end....
Or you can stick it in a cardboard box somewhere and put it out of sight and out of mind... and go and find yourself a more caring lover... that will change the rules somewhat as the next guy might be thinking more about you than about what to do next to keep this game rolling....
Whatever you choose to do, while you each keep role playing within this game you have going.. .things won't look up for you.... and it is all up to you.
2007-03-22 22:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases the "law" requires that you must provide in writing sent to him that he has 30 days to accumulate and pick up his stuff. Note - If you do this make sure it is a certified letter in which he has to sign for and you'll get the receipt of signature. After that 30 days has passed the stuff is legally considered yours. Then you may choose to do with it what you want. Sell it, donate it to a shelter, randomly give to a homeless man. Or text him to meet you somewhere and collect it. Or leave it at his g-ma's.
2007-03-22 22:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him a message on his cell phone that if he wants his stuff to make some kind of arrangement by(specify a certain time) or you intend to give it to Goodwill/Salvation Army (whatever thrift store is around). Now follow through and get on with your life. He is not the only fish in the sea. Men tend to like women better who can take a stand, more of a challenge. And you will have more self respect.
2007-03-22 22:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his grandmother (since she's already called you) and send a message through her that he has until X date to come and get his stuff or you will be donating it to charity. You should probably give him 30-60 days so he has plenty of time to get it. In the mean time try and put it out of sight.
By the way if a guy will leave you that way then you are way better off without him.
2007-03-22 21:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he left, never came back, and has ignored your attemps to communicate with him, I'd say it's time to either donate it all to Goodwill, ebay things that are of value, or just throw all his crap in the dumpster.
I'm sorry that happened to you. Being a guy I know there's a lot of guys out there that just cannot deal with breaking up in a mature manner. They'd rather run away and forget about it.
There's 6 billion people in the world. I'm confident you'll find another and think back on this as both a learning experience and a blessing in disguise.
2007-03-22 21:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Josh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His stuff is not the important part. Your future is the important part. You got some really good answers about how to deal with his stuff, and quite a few people told you the guy was a jerk. I agree.
Why is it that women continue to hook up with guys who don't treat them with respect? Is it low self-esteem? Do some women just not respect themselves enough? Believe me, there are many great guys out there who are fun, smart, interesting to be around and know how to treat a woman with dignity and affection. WAIT FOR THAT. Even better, demand it.
While you're waiting, read that book "He's Just Not Into You," take good care of yourself, do fun things with friends, get a new haircut and a fun new sundress and move straight ahead to the future!
2007-03-22 22:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not want someone like that back in your life!! Just think if he does come back he will no he can walk all over you and you will constantly feel insignificant! you deserve better! As for his stuff maybe call his g-ma, or another relative that you are on speaking terms with and ask them if they will take his stuff for you. AND then move on with your life as hard as that may seem, but its for the best, you can find someone who will not do that to you!!! Good Luck!
2007-03-22 21:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what the law says, but what proof would he have that he left all that stuff at your place? Take it down to Goodwill donate it, and use for a tax write-off next year. Probably don't want to have a yard sale or something then he could probably prove you did have it.
2007-03-22 21:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by fscrig75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a personals ad in the local paper stating that he needs to pick up his stuff... set a date and if its not picked up by then, the stuff would be trashed or donated. The ad covers you, and its a public announcement. If he doesn't pick it up.... get rid of it...any way you see fit.
Be sure you save the ad and your receipt for placing it.
Good luck and sorry about your jerk of an ex.
2007-03-22 21:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋