she is my best friend, and she makes me happier than anyone else....
is this ok?
can a relationship still be successful and healthy if sex is not a major priority??
2007-03-22 14:38:40 · 7 answers · asked by Taken by a Texan 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
it's not that i am not attracted to her anymore, but we both work long days and by the end of the day we just want to sit on the couch together and watch tv.
we still go on "fun" dates..go out to dinner, have a few glasses of wine and have good convo...the sex just isn't the make or break
2007-03-22 14:52:11 · update #1
I think it's important to have a healthy sexual relationship because it's a good way to connect on other levels. I have found in the past that once you stop having sex for a period of time because of stress, crazy schedules, or just being too tired. It's easy to get into a rut. I would say just make an extra special effort or try something new, the desire will come back. If you are both as equally happy as you say then you are pretty blessed and I wouldn't do anything to hurt that. Sex is important, because it shows you desire your partner, but having a deep emotional relationship is the main goal. I've you've tried visiting a sex shop together (getting toys) or other things to spice it up you might consider a sexual theripist if it says an issue on your mind.
2007-03-22 14:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by ○•○•Cassie•○•○ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times in relationships that are long term sex becomes less a priority. Not forever but in cycles. It may come back stronger than ever and than go again. As long as you are communicating and on the same page then don't worry. Try to rediscover what it is that attracted you to one another in the first place. Try going on fun dates like when you first met.
Some people aren't as sexual as others. We are all so different. If you are both happy and fulfilled and satisfied with the relationship then I suppose it can be successful.
If one of you wants more then perhaps a long talk is due.
After reading you additional comments I don't see why you are worried. You sound like a happy married couple. (whether that's good for you or not is your choice) When life gets hectic sometimes we have different priorities. If you are happy then just relax and enjoy each other any way you want.
2007-03-22 14:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"lesbian bed death" seems to be fairly common among long term lesbian couples. I think after a certain length of time, you start to know each other so well, that sex doesn't seem as high a priority as the more mundane, routine things.
You might want to try to add a little "spice" back to your sex life. Try doing romantic things once in awhile to make each other feel special. Or try recreating your first date, or take her to the spot where you first kissed. It comes and goes in stages. Usually as couples (both homosexual and heterosexual) get older, they tend to mellow and they just become happier with enjoying each other's company. The sex becomes a little less frequent, but that doesnt' mean you two don't still love each other. There's more to love than sex.
2007-03-22 14:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe people can drift apart sexually. romantic love that includes sexual activity should be constant.. could be your body is going thru changes so that your sex drive is not as strong as it once was...
but to answer your actual question, can a relationship survive without sexual activity? well yes, but only if both parties are comfortable with the arrangement as to the lack of sexual activity..
but i'd strongly encourage you to seek guidance from a doctor to make sure your hormones are not imbalanced.. no reason to not want sex.. and no reason to live with a lack of interest in sex..
other thought, maybe you only love her as a friend.. yet could potentially desire sex from others? if this is the case, end the relationship so you can both find new partners for whom you are sexually attracted to..
2007-03-22 14:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe so, but u need to ask urself why has she drifted apart? and why have you. Is she seeing someone else, or are u both waiting for marriage? i think if she back up from any sexual contact then it coul be more serious then u think...holla
2007-03-22 14:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by thomas c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Do you think straight couples have sex all the time?
2007-03-22 14:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why the blue phuck you telling us,,go get her or go get laid brother
2007-03-25 18:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by Norweiginwood420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋