A friend of mines was brutally assaulted and raped 3 months ago.. she was tested for any STD's she was clear, there was semin found inside of her, but she was taking birthcontrol so no one was thinking she'd be pregnant. Well come to find out she is 3months pregnant and deeply depressed she doesnt know what to do.. her father wants her to get rid of it her mother wants her to keep it, shes extremely afraid of what her baby symbolizes.. I told her as being the best friend I could be.. I would support her decision and support her, but I was wondering what you all were thinking, maybe you can give me some ideas of how to talk to her and to help her through this sad time..
Thanks
2007-03-22 14:27:11 · 13 answers · asked by Lex 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
To be honest this is not a question you should be bloggin anyone about. What if this gets back to her? Will she accuse you of betraying her trust? Be very careful of what you disseminate out to the public. It's no longer yours once you press the send button.
Your friend should seek counseling...period. I'm not sure of what her age is but, that would be something for her to consider. Also consider this the world as she already knows can be a very cruel place. Will she be able to put up with others for making the decision that she makes? Will she be able to separate the assualt from the child? Or will she be reminded of it by looking at this baby? Kids don't ask to be here and in this case neither did she. I wouldn't go the abortion route neither cuz God said kids are a blessing regardless of the idiot who does such a thing. He also says not to murder. What you and your friend have to realize is that God can take something awful and make it beautiful and use it for his greater glory. It all still boils down to being her call no matter how much advice you seek so get her some help make sure her family is involved and go from there.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-22 15:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by shilandriat8@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to make that decision on her own... I think after the first tri-mester she has no choice. (abortion is only permitted the first 12-14 weeks of pregnancy is most states). I cannot believe being raped noone offered her or recommended the morning after pill! If she decides to have this child remind her it is NOT a symbol of what happened- it is a blessing and gift from god. Everything happens for a reason- but I guess it all depends on what you believe.
2007-03-22 21:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pro-choice, so I support any decision your friend makes. If it were me, I'd get an abortion because raising a baby is not easy alone. She should have a partner to fall back on, not some rapist who could care less about her. Also, why ruin the rest of your life? I would wait until I am ready for a baby.. just my thoughts. Good luck!
2007-03-22 21:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by untilyoucamealong04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it should have more to do with whether or not she would be a good mother at this time in her life. The rape will be with her always, and the child won't symbolize that for her, he/she will be her baby. But she should approach this the same way she would if she got "accidentally" pregnant by a boyfriend. Does she want a baby now? Is she serious with someone else who would resent the baby not being hers? Is she willing to accept that the rapist might have paternity rights on her baby? If she is single can she raise a child on her own? Is she done with school? Just from the brief, if Mom and Dad are giving her this much input, I don't think she's ready for a baby. But really, if she wants one, maybe this is the time.
2007-03-22 21:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by JM 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sorry to hear about what your freind is going through..
I personally believe abortion is immoral no matter what the circumstances. She should carry the baby, but after she delivers the baby, she should put it up for adoption. Abortion will make it worse and can cause extreme guilt and possibly suicidal thoughts.
Good luck . I hope everything works out for her.
2007-03-23 17:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by like.woah.<3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels like this child will bring back painful memories (which many who experience what she went through do) it sounds like it would be best to put the child up for adoption. Abortion would just make the memories worse.
2007-03-22 21:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She needs to think about the child's life. Something horrible happened, but something beautiful could come out of it. Don't let rape result in murder. Think about the child's life. You need to gracefully encourage her to do something she will never regret, not something that she will always wonder about with regret.
2007-03-22 21:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to make this decision herself. You're a good friend to just be supportive whichever way she chooses. I have my own opinion, but that doesn't matter here. I sincerely hope it doesn't tear her family apart, whatever she decides.
2007-03-22 21:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Brian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about what your friend is going through. She has to face a tough decision.
2007-03-22 21:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could give it up for adoption.
2007-03-22 21:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋