I am in Middle School. I want to make lots of friend but I can't because I am too shy and everyone thinks I'm a loser cause i have a rolling suitcase and I make fun of myself to get attention.
Help Please.
2007-03-22 14:02:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Look at it this way. School is a set of years of putting up with other kids crap until you get into the real grown up world where opinions of popularity and clothing don't mean jack. The most popular, preppy, and girl getting guy in my highschool ended up parking my car as a valet one time when I was 24. Look what popularity got him. The hottest girl in our school was too hot to date anyone at the school, only out of towners. Worked so good for her, she graduated right on into pregnancy and debt with a cheating husband who traded her in for a more "popular", kidless model. What matters is that are you happy with who you are on the inside. Screw everybody else's opinions. People who let the appearance and habits of others dictate how they behave or dress are people that don't have enough individuality to do it on their own. Why be like everyone else? Be you. Work on what you like to do, like to listen to, like to wear. It will all change over the next 4-5 years and everything you're trying to keep up with right now will be out of date. Most of the high money making people I know in the proffesional world with nice cars, nice homes, and nice spouces all have those little airline cases with the wheels on them. Are they a nerd for having that? Bet ya the're life is a little bit better than the people that are making fun of yours. I see no use for it in school, minimize a little bit and you'll find that the most you'll need is a simple manilla folder. Trust me, I've been there and done that. At the end of the day, your'e going home to yourself in your room. As long as your not feeding, clothing, and taking care of those turds at school, their acceptance of you really doesn't matter. Keep yourself cleaned up, iron your clothes and go to school with a smile and a little joke every day. If you see something funny, talk about it. People like funny, and if you're positive and funny, these people will see you as popular and you'll find them wanting to be like you. Good luck.
2007-03-22 14:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by anubisy2k2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if they so called "popular people" will not be your friends because of what kind of bookbag you have is stupid. I'm also a shy person, so to a shy person from one here is my advice. You are popular. You may not have a lot of friends but it will better to have a few good close friends than a whole lot of friends that you can't trust right? You are popular with who you make yourself friends with. Whether that's a lot or a little, it really doesn't matter. Because trust me you'll open up to meeting new people. It just takes time.
2007-03-22 21:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by The Redheaded Monster 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, get rid of rolling suitcase ( not legal in some schools). Learn to make friends with out making fun of yourself. Just do the things you like (sports? reading? dancing? - find some friends who like the same things. Are you sure you want to be poplular? Make a couple friends, and popularity may not matter. and remember, dont make fun of yourself to get attention. Just keep doing what you want to do, and the friends will suddenly appear.
2007-03-22 21:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by brck4 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok. To get rid of your shyness you can go to some where there is a mirror and talk to yourself. Pretend that there is alot of people there. Then to make friends. try to get a different back pack. Your in middle school hun. You need a different back pack. Then also don't keep making fun of yourself just to get attention. Thats not good. Plus if you want a friend. All you had to do was ask. You got one. Me.
2007-03-22 21:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Briann M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a loser. It is natural to be shy. Nobody is popular, they are just maybe a little of a show off.I have a rolling suitcase too.I just an-ore them.Just to make friends by saying hi at first, then start hagging out with them.
2007-03-22 21:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ethan O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it's hard to not think about that.But you should try not to. I know you've probably heard this before, but when you get out of school the people that you are trying to get to notice you will not matter. When I was in school I wanted to be popular and get a lot of friends also. I think it's something that we all go through. But the reality is that those people that you are trying to notice you are not going to benefit your life in any way in the future. Trust me, I know! Don't stress over what they think of you. Just use it as motivation to prove them all wrong in the end. I hope I helped take care!
2007-03-22 21:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. get rid of the back pack
2. stop worrying if you try not to be popular you might end up w/ more freinds
3.it might seem like popular kids have it all and everyone likes them but thats not true trust ME!!!!!
4. don't be so shy
5. be urself
6. dont make fun of urself all the time
7.be confident
8. it doesnt matter what people think
9. if you like yourself that's all you need
10. i dont have a 10
2007-03-22 21:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kayli (No Entiendo) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make fun of yourself, it's not fair.
just be able to communicate with everyone.
don't act different around the popular people.
aim for being 'normal.'
you're probably not a loser, so don't say that. you just are nervous and a bit shy, that's all.
don't worry about it.
I was quite weird in elementary school.
now I'm normal. and I'm happy with that.
=]
2007-03-22 21:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ellers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop trying so hard, and be urself. i been there, and i also been popular....trust me its better not to be popular...it sucks ***....u always got drama going on. just get some close friends and thats the best thing u can do. it doesnt matter what ppl think of u, it matters what u think of urself. and stop making fun of urself, its really stupid and makes ppl think ur insecure. u'll be fine. just enjoy ur life u got and be glad ur not worse off. if ur biggest problem is popularity, u got alot to be thankful for. trust me, it may seem hard, but its nothing. just believe me please, all u need are a few close friends, and ur solid. u dont see how bad the popular kids have it till u r there...
2007-03-22 21:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be yourself no one likes someone who they think is someone else ... thats confuesing in other words no one likes someone that acts like someone their not because its just like lying well im in middle school and alot of people at my school have a roller suitcase but no one makes fun of then and maybe next year get a regular one so you dont get made fun of ... sry if i sound like a B*I*T*C*H
2007-03-22 21:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by lovxux4ever1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋