How do I stop masturbating and getting perverted thoughts?

Question

I'm 15 and I masturbate every day. I really hate masturbating. I want to stop getting cheap thrills by touching my genitals. It goes against my personal values. But it's really, REALLY, hard to stop. The longest time I went without masturbating was 1 month. I also don't want any perverted thoughts at all. In school, a lot of the girls wear VERY mini-skirts. I keep staring. I feel ashamed.

Please do not tell me it's normal or that it benefits one's health. I want to stop permanently.

Answer 1

Well I have bad news about that man!! i was reading about it 5 minutes ago.. they say that this habit is norml.. even if you do it on daily bases..

This Some of the Site i was reading from:
Frequency of masturbation is determined by many factors, e.g., one's resistance to transient sexual tension, hormone levels influencing sexual arousal, sexual habits established during youth, peer influences, health, intensity of the ejaculatory urge,[10] and one's attitude to masturbation formed by culture.[11] Medical causes have also been associated with masturbation.[12][13][14]

"Forty-eight female college students were asked to complete a sexual attitudes questionnaire in which a frequency of masturbation scale was embedded. Twenty-four of the women (the experimental group) then individually viewed an explicit modeling film involving female masturbation. One month later, all subjects again completed the same questionnaire. Subjects in the experimental group also completed a questionnaire evaluating aspects of the film. Results indicated that the experimental group reported a significant increase in the average monthly frequency of masturbation, as compared to the control group. This same group, however, reported that the film had no effect on sexual attitudes or behavior."

It is thought that most people begin masturbating when reaching adolescence. Many scholarly and clinical studies have been done on the matter, and many informal surveys have asked the question. A 2004 survey by Toronto magazine NOW was answered by an unspecified number of thousands.[15] The results show that an overwhelming majority of the males — 81% — began masturbating between the ages of 10 and 15. Among females, the same figure was a more modest majority of 55%. (Note that surveys on sexual practices are prone to self-selection bias.) It is not uncommon however to begin much earlier, and this is more frequent among females: 18% had begun by the time they turned 10, and 6% already by the time they turned 6. Being the main outlet of child sexuality, masturbation has been observed in very young children. In the book Human Sexuality: Diversity in Contemporary America, by Strong, Devault and Sayad, the authors point out, "A baby boy may laugh in his crib while playing with his erect penis (although he does not ejaculate). Baby girls sometimes move their bodies rhythmically, almost violently, appearing to experience orgasm."

According to a Canadian survey of Now magazine readers cited above, the frequency of masturbation declines after the age of 17. However, most males masturbate daily or even more frequently well into their 20s and sometimes far beyond. This decline is more drastic among females, and more gradual among males. While females aged 13–17 masturbated almost once a day on average (and almost as often as their male peers), adult women only masturbated 8–9 times a month, compared to the 18–22 among men. It is also apparent that masturbation frequency declines with age. Adolescent youths report being able to masturbate to ejaculation six or more times per day, while men in middle age report being hard pressed to ejaculate even once per day. The survey does not give a full demographic breakdown of respondents, however, and the sexual history of respondents to this poll, who are readers of an urban Toronto lifestyle magazine, may not extend to the general population.

This may be because females are less likely to masturbate while in a heterosexual relationship than men. Both sexes occasionally engage in this activity, however, even when in sexually active relationships. Popular belief asserts that individuals of either sex who are not in sexually active relationships tend to masturbate more frequently than those who are; however, much of the time this is not true as masturbation alone or with a partner is often a feature of a relationship. Contrary to conventional wisdom, several studies actually reveal a positive correlation between the frequency of masturbation and the frequency of intercourse as well as the number multiple sex partners. One study reported a significantly higher rate of masturbation in gay men and women who were in a relationship. (Sexual practices in youth: analysis of lifetime sexual trajectory and last sexual intercourse. Cad Saude Publica. 2006 Jul;22(7):1471-81. Epub 2006 Jun 14.), (Prevalence of Masturbation and Associated Factors in a British National Probability Survey. Arch Sex Behav. 2007 Feb 27.), (Increased libido associated with quetiapine. J Psychopharmacol. 2006 Jan;20(1):125-7.), (Sexual behavior in lesbian and heterosexual women: relations with menstrual cycle phase and partner availability. Psychoneuroendocrinology. 2002 May;27(4):489-503.)

For both males and females, masturbation is a way to relieve stress, anxiety and even boredom. For many with compressed schedules or frequent travel, regular masturbation enables them to maintain sexual output and performance for when opportunity eventually knocks.

Among some cultures, such as the Hopi in Arizona, the Wogeno in Oceania, and the Dahomeans and Namu of Africa, masturbation is encouraged, including regular masturbation between males. In certain Melanesian communities this is expected between older and younger boys. One interesting twist is the Sambia tribe of New Guinea. This tribe has rituals and rites of passage surrounding manhood which involve frequent ejaculation through fellatio. Semen is valued and masturbation is seen as a waste of semen and is therefore frowned upon even though frequent ejaculation is encouraged. The capacity and need to ejaculate is nurtured for years from an early age through fellatio so that it can be consumed rather than wasted. Semen is ingested for strength and is considered in the same line as mothers milk. source: .

Other cultures have rites of passage into manhood that culminate in the first ejaculation of a male, usually by the hands of a tribal elder. In some tribes such as the Agta, Philippines, stimulation of the genitals is encouraged from an early age. (1) Upon puberty, the young male is then paired off with a "wise elder" or "witch doctor" who uses masturbation to build his ability to ejaculate in preparation for a ceremony. The ceremony culminates in a public ejaculation before a celebration. The ejaculate is saved in a wad of animal skin and worn later to help conceive children. In this and other tribes, the measure of manhood is actually associated more with the amount of ejaculate and his need than penis size. Frequent ejaculation through masturbation from an early age fosters frequent ejaculation well into adulthood. (The clinical outcome of childhood masturbation. Turk J Pediatr. 2000 Oct-Dec;42(4):304-7.)

(1) Cited by Hewlett, B. S. (1996) Diverse contexts of human infancy, in Ember, C. & Ember, M. (Eds.) Cross-Cultural Research for Social Science. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall

Masturbation is becoming accepted as a healthy practice and safe method for sharing pleasure without the strings. It is socially accepted and even celebrated in certain circles. Group masturbation events can be found online in just about any state. Masturbation marathons are yearly events and are occurring across the globe from the U.S. to the U.K. In these events provide a supportive environment where masturbation can be performed openly among young and old without embarrassment. Participants talk openly with onlookers while masturbating to share techniques and descibe their pleasure. Some sources: ,

Answer 2

If you want to stop then try to avoid viewing or thinking about things that are ummm stimulating. If you find yourself thinking about 'perverted sexual thoughts' then go do something else (exercise or something that will get your mind off of it). Pray to God or read your bible if you feel tempted. But if you slip up don't feel bad! I think it's scary that you said if you don't rid yourself of this habit that you'll kill yourself. I really hope you didn't mean it. Just try your best and if you slip up try to figure out what led to it and then fix it and try again. But don't ever ever try to kill yourself!

Answer 3

As you masturbating is very bad thing and it is very hard to stop these habit and it have many side effect if you really went to stop you should believe in god and Jesus and read the holy Bible and you will know all these thing are forbidden then .try to think in god when want to make masturbating and it is forbidden thing in our religion and the god will punish me .

It really forbidden think in our religion but I sorry many people do these thing and dont think abut what is god.

Answer 4

Self-control :)

Answer 5

it will pass... let it be, very normal at your stage of life. Enjoy it

Answer 6

work on your will power