Should I move out of my parents' house?

Question

Here are things to consider.
I'm a 20 year old male going to college full time.
I (will be in a couple weeks) make about $800 a month (part time) as a cashier. The job is about a mile and a half from my parents' house. Rent here for a room in a house or apartment would pretty much cost me every penny I make. I have basically no social life (very little friends who aren't even close friends and no girlfriend). I go to school about 15 miles away (easy commute). If I moved out I'd move close to school (far from my job). At least part of the reason I'm so shy and non-social is because my parents kind of sheltered me as a child, and still kind of do. I'm sort of like a dog who was always on a leash, and even after being let off won't go farther than his old leash's reach. If I move out, I figure I will be forced to be social, AND I won't have the fear of my parents' judgment constantly looming over me. What do you think I should do?

Answer 1

I get the feeling you know whats best and your trying to convince others what best too...its really a no brainer that you stay at your parents house. What I think you need to realize is this is not a permanent solution to your lack of social life. I beleive your a late bloomer....what you feel you have missed out on socially is yet to come...pursue your extended education and gradually you will establish a life of your own...good luck.

Answer 2

From your last sentence, it sounds like you are ready to be on your own. However, are your going to be able to afford to move out? Do you have money saved to put down a deposit (some places want a deposit, plus first and last month's rent which can really add up)? Will you be able to afford food and clothes and commute fare and books and whatever else you absolutely need?

And you have to assess just how much is really you keeping yourself from being more outgoing rather than your parents' "judgment"--have you brought friends home (to your parents' house) often enough to truly know whether they have preconceived notions about your friends? Or is it just you? If you're friends are the type to make most parents crazy, I'd be leary about moving out and then having to deal all by yourself with a bunch of too wild friends in your new place. And you know you could be more social while still living at home with the folks--just socialize out of the house (while saving your money). And if you move out now, and then find you cannot make ends meet, will you be able to move back home, if only temporarily? You might also want to consider moving in with some roommates (but check them out well before hand) because usually the rent is lower and then at least you'd have people around so you wouldn't get lonely, and frequently roommates will have friends you can met and maybe socialize with. All things to consider.

Answer 3

To be quite honest, I think it sounds like a good idea moving out. Since you are not very social you might look for a roommate to move in with. If you find a roommate you will be able to save more moeny each pay period. Take into consideration you dont only have to pay rent but utilities and all too. I can understand how it feels to be a dog on a leash. And i can empathasize with your feelings about breaking free. If you are serious about moving out I suggest you keep your job and work for one or two months...get some money saved up. Then while your saving your money look into your roommate options. Not only will it save you money but it will force you to be social. This way you can move out, start being social, and save a little money too! And remember if it starts to go downhill you will always have a place to go home to(mom and dads). Also while your saving up your money and looking for a roommate......start going out. Try being outgoing and ask someone from one of your classes (male or female) if they'd like to hang out sometime....this way your not so intimidated when and if you find a roommate. Hope this helped and Good luck!

Answer 4

well first your scared of leaving home because you probably never left home before right? if i were you i would move out and get a secound part time job and still go to school. get a apartment and enjoy life i tell ya once you leave home and forced out their your communication skills will have to change. you will be more confident and head strong. who knows you might get lucky and meet a girl. she'll think that your a man that has his own place and who knows where it might carry from their. go out get out experience life son. its great when i was 18 i moved out and had the time of my life and still am. its ok too have that fear some times a little fear and hesitation is what we need to make good choices and go along. nows your time son make the best of this life before it ends. and think all of the pleasures and libertys to do what you want to do can happen under your roof and not your parrents house. get a roomate if the bills are too much but be aware of being scammed or took. dont live life of a shut in go out and live it man. you know theirs many programs to look into for housing and such. and theirs a whole world to see friends to make and laughs and good times plus bad but dont worry it makes you strong you need it it will be healthy for you its ok to be scared and unsure you just have not think and just do it man. you can lively up your self and be a man of this life. hey why not life is short bud go out their and live and be free

Answer 5

get some help first from counseling at the school look heres the skinny ... what in the world would make you think you would be forced to be social? instead you could find yourself more depressed yep you are... there are steps to take so that you don't have to overwhelm your self.... safe steps to take while living with mom and dad and hey offer them some money for room and board.. to see how the real world lives and join a club your interested in or take a class that has nothing to do with your degree so that you can become more well rounded and meet different people with different interest but you should go to a counselor or therapist first...

Answer 6

Keep finding an affordable place and move out then!

Answer 7

stick it out until your done with college, it is cheaper that way, and save your money.

Answer 8

You answered your own question: move out.

Answer 9

IF YOU WANT TO GET LAID MORE MOVE OUT NOW......INTO A DUMPSTER OR CARDBOARD BOX IF NECESSARY