How do I become happy again? Help please.?

Question

My dad left me when I was 6 yrs old. My two brothers died before they were born. My mom is working and I never see her ever. In school, girls are complete bitches to me when i do nothing, but be nice to them. The one guy that i trusted listens to that girl and everything she says about me when it's not true and i don't have the courage to speak up because I can't be mean. What should I do? I feel like leaving this world for good. Maybe I'm just a mistake.

Answer 1

you should never think you are a mistake. if people at school are mean then you should consider joining a club outside of school or something like that to meet people this way you can make real friends not like the people at school.

Answer 2

I believe that you were created by Jesus Christ and I know that He never makes mistakes. I suggest that you find a Christian church somewhere that you can be a part of and meet new people. It will not matter if you are Christian or not or have never been to church, if the church is good, then you should be accepted there. I'd also suggest that you read the Bible and begin to seek God out. It is only within these boundaries that you will find the true happiness that you seek. You sound as though you are at the end of your rope, and I promise you that by doing these things, your life will be better. God delights in helping those that He loves, and He would be more than gracious to hear and assist in your cries for help. He is always ready and waiting. Trust me, suicide is not the answer. You are a human being that deserves to be happy and live life to the full, not throw it away because of a hard childhood. You should always search for something better, and strive to make the best of what you are given. You are worth so much in God's eyes. He died and rose again because He loves you, and because He did this, you have the opprotunity (just like everybody else) to ask forgiveness and ask Him to be your Savior. Again, this will bring you the happiness and joy that you crave.

Answer 3

Life is full of ups and downs. You are not a mistake, there are things you do for others, that they will not comment on, because it is not in thier interest or nature to speak up. As far as mean things go, it happens. Growing up is learning how to deal with the bad as well as the good. It may never be easy, and some seem to get more bad luck than good, but that is never a good enough excuse to "leave the world for good" Take stock in who you are. Do you draw? Paint? Sing? Play an instrument? Doodle? Work on cars? Build things? What are the strengths you have, and what can you do to enjoy yourself? Being a socialite is not for everyone (personal experience) and there is nothing wrong with spending time alone, and doing the things that you like to do by yourself. (insert comment here.... just dont do illegal things or things that can wind up hurting you physically, mentally, or financially)
You have a lot to contribute, whether it be advice to another friend in 10 years when they have a need to cry on your shoulder, or perhaps you might be the next Picasso or Einstien. Remember that each day is new, different, and even if it seems the same, it IS a different day so look for the changes and outcome ahead of you.
Good luck.

Answer 4

I totally know how you feel... My gramma had 3 strokes and then died when I was 9. My mom is an *** sometimes and my dad always works. I have 1 gramma I really love but my grampas are a drag...

Anyway dont leave the world for everones sake!
Tell this guy flat out your situation and how you feel if he is a true friend he will understand. Also, as for the girls just flick then off cause your probably better then them... My suggestion on to be happy join a sports club or outside activity and make new friends and go places and do things with them. dont give up hope!

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P.S= "The who world can be a better place if you chose to make it that way."

Answer 5

YOU ARE NOT A MISTAKE. First stop reliving the past in your head. None of it is your fault. Everything is a stepping stone to something else, even if it's awful. Read about how others have overcome the worst of situations. I read about Oprah Winfrey's life story. All people go through bad things. None of us gets through life easy. We come into the world hard and we go out hard too. It's life. It's not easy. Try doing things that make you feel good as long as you are not hurting yourself or others. Maybe you could talk to a doctor, but if not, then, someone you can trust. Maybe a church person. If you like to sing, go to church and sing, nobody will hurt you there. Find safe ways to make yourself happy and forget what all those bitches past and present treat you like. If someone is bad to you when you were nice to them, turn your back on them and keep trying. Read. Education is your ticket out of a bad situation into a good brand new life. We all feel like you do, at times, but everything passes. Read Oprah's life story and your mind will get off these things and you will feel empowered. Get a library card and read at the library. It's usually a sunny uplifting kind of place. It can take your mind to better places. I promise.

Answer 6

I tell ya, if everyone who had a tough, tough beginning decided to check out because they might be a "mistake" we would have a VERY empty world. I am not making light of your sadness; it's real and it's heavy, and the social trials and tribulations involved in growing up don't get ANY easier generation by generation.... BUT I can tell you that none of what you have going should be enough to put you down for the count.

(Let me see, my own story - 2 brothers also died before they were born; dad died when I was 2; one of my mom's boyfriends hog-tied me and left me on top of a cabinet; stepfather took a chainsaw to the inside of the house, beat me up and put my mom in the hospital; I was the "fat girl" in grade school and junior high.....and so on and so on and so on. Now I am a successful attorney; have lots of friends; a wonderful man in my life....and so on and so on and so on...)

But enough about me. I just told you all that in hopes of showing you that it isn't all about what is going on with you NOW. It is all about what you are doing with yourself for the FUTURE.

Your mom is probably doing the very best she can. Take a look at her life and see if it turned out the way she expected. I kinda doubt she is unscathed by the fact that she lost two pregnancies and her husband left her ...I suspect she is struggling. You might see if there is anything you can do to make HER life a little easier and then, in turn, that could easily bring the two of you closer together. (And if you decide to do this, it's not a one-time deal: whatever you do should be something that you will continue to do FOR her.)

As for your "friends"....bottom line is that people will disappoint you. You are all growing up and trying to see what kind of person you are going to be. Integrity is going to be tested and built....along with other attributes like honesty, compassion, empathy, reliability, .....girls who are "complete bitches" one day may well grow up to be good people later on. (And they might become "raving bitches" as adults......) Boys who seem trustworthy now may fail when it comes to being tested, but then may - as adults - become phenomenal men. All you can do - ALL you can do -- is be the kind of person YOU would like to have as a friend. No matter what happens to you, be the best you can be; never stoop to bad behavior; carry yourself with poise and grace - even when you don't feel it. The more you do it, the more the feeling will become natural to you.

You have to have faith in yourself --- not in the guy at school; not in the girls who can't see beyond their noses; YOU are the one who will carry you through this life and once you learn this - once you realize that your worth and value is not to be measured by those around you, you will suddenly find yourself surrounded by people who are just like you - people who like you and whom you like. (It's actually kinda amazing how this happens - can't plan it; it just happens.)

"If you can keep your head when those about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you; if you can trust yourself when all men doubt you and make allowance for their doubting, too....." This is from the poem "If" by Kipling. Look it up - memorize it. It is about becoming a man, but the reality is that it is about becoming an adult. It will work for you, too.

No one is a "mistake" the way you think. We ALL think we are doing it (getting through this life) by using smoke and mirrors...... but it's not true. Just BE the change you want to see in your life and, eventually, you will be walking along and suddenly think, "Omigawd, what is this feeling ? I think.....I think....gee, I think I am happy!"

Answer 7

You need to stop feeling sorry for your self!!! Stop getting stepped-on is that how you are gonna be for the rest of your life. Buy your self a new dress get all cute and hit a club,go dancing. You need to start to worry about your self because if you don't no one will. Life is to short to be sad. Go out have fun.

Answer 8

Stop worrying about everyone else and focus on yourself. And consider joining a support group (through your school, local YMCA, etc.). Talking to other people who feel the way you do will help you cope.