He's definitely not hitting on me but it still feels weird. And I wasn't going to say anything but then he sent me an inter office memo about training stuff and said the word honey in the memo. So I have proof if anyone asks but it feels weird to say something to him. We are both therapists and he's so educated I would think he would know it is not appropriate. So would you just say nothing since it's not sexual in nature or what would you actually say that doesn't come across as me being a woman who burns her bra so to speak?
2007-03-22 13:23:04 · 10 answers · asked by Serinity4u2find 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I would tell him that you prefer your friends call you................
Or tell him you prefer your colleges call you............
G♣♣d luck
2007-03-22 13:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by ☆♥•´`•.¸ ;-) •´`•.¸ ♥☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what you need, a possible awkward situation at you new position. If you say something to him, he is going to feel embarrassed, and possibly think that your "stuffy". If you don't tell him that it is bothering you, then how is he to know that you don't like it?
I would take the inner office memo and make two copies. One, I would give to the persons boss as he/she needs to be the one who corrects this behavior. The reason I would go directly to the boss is that they should have the training on dealing with this and it will keep you out of the situation. If the inner office memo had more than one person cc'd on it, then the person calling you Honey won't know who to blame as anyone could have turned it in. Even if he finds out it was you, having someone call you HONEY in an inner office memo is degrading.
The other copy I would take home along with detailed written notes regarding who, what, when and where you spoke to regarding this matter.
Even though you don't think he was trying to pick up on you, he needs to address you in a manner that you like. Good luck to you in your new job.
2007-03-22 20:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by marilynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one of those people who are really ugly inside, you go around looking for ways to stir up problems.
Why don't you get a job somewhere else and quit trying to make a big deal out of nothing, ur probably pretty, but really ugly on the inside.
2007-03-23 00:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by brian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not sexual harrasement necessarily. If you feel uncomfortable, feel free to tell him. If this behavior continues after you have voiced your concerns, then it can be construed as sexual harrasement. That's what I'd do, address the issue first with the guy before escalating with management.
2007-03-22 20:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by TXgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it. It's a man's world so just accept it and move on, you can only fight the battles you can win, don't be a trouble maker over silly crap. Make the stuff count in the end.
2007-03-22 20:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by katie d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may call everybody honey and not even think about what he's doing. I do that, too.
If it makes you very uncomfortable, you can tell him that. If it were me I would just say that I'm uncomfortable with being called honey in the workplace and ask him to please call me by my name.
2007-03-22 20:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Donna T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain you would prefer to keep the language on a professional level.
2007-03-22 20:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by rlogan5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just calls everyone that and doesn't even realize it. Say something if it's making you uncomfortable! He's a guy, he can take it.
2007-03-22 20:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time it comes up..correct him..you are obviously not comfortable with this behaviour..but be sweet about it..Good Luck..
2007-03-22 20:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by Gargirl™® 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexual harrassment
2007-03-22 20:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋