Back Stabbing Friend!?

Question

i had a friend who i trusted with everything. Well i found out that she is saying nasty things behind my back and im being discluded from the rest of my friends. (my class has 4 other girls). How can i play reverse phsycology to make her feel horrible!?!

Answer 1

why would you want to lower yourself to her level.
just be yourself...everyone will know by the way you are what kind of person you are no matter what someone else says.

be cool...

Answer 2

Well I'm sorry about your friend, but I do not think some reverse psychology or revenge is going to make the problem go away. In fact, I think it's going to make this much much worse. What I suggest you do, is to talk to your friend in an honest way. Do not yell or scream at her though, because she will just shut you out and possibly ignore you. Speak as calmly but firmly as you can how you feel about what she did, and that you are very hurt. Say you trusted her but to have her stab you in the back just proves how bad of a friend she is to you. Conclude with, I thought you were a good friend, but I guess you are not. I didn't want our friendship to end this way, but this is how it is. Then see how she reacts. If she denies everything, well that further proves how disloyal and inconsiderate she is. Good luck!

Answer 3

Why do you want to go to that effort? It would be better to try and rescue your relationship with the others. Have you confronted her about her gossiping?

Go and tell her: I hear that you have been speaking about me behind my back, I am really disappointed in you as I trusted you a lot. I am giving you one chance to stop and to change your ways.

I believe you may have to give up this friend and possibly the other ones too; my heart goes out to you and I hope you will soon find a much better friend.

Answer 4

first of all EVERYONE has back stabbing friends.
that's just a part of life and normally people don't realize how much of a friend the person really wasn't until after they move away from the person- personal experience!

Be the better person. If someone wrongs you- you forgive but never forget....okay?

Just don't go retaliating because that'll just cause major problems for you that you don't need!

Answer 5

well, first off, DONT say anything nasty about here. who cares what she says...well, i guess you do. if she says nasty things, don't pay attention to it. ignore it at school, then cry when you get home. pray about it. here is a serenity prayer i found when i needed it most:

God, grant me serenity to accept the things i cannot change, courage to change the things i can and wisdom to know the difference

now, if people question that you really did some of those nasty things, simply answer "no, why would i do that?" and change the subject. if people try and bagger you about it, then pay no attention to it there, and cry when you get home.

Answer 6

don't do that - just stop being nice to her - if she can't support your friendship on her part, then make it obvious that its over and that the priveledges of your side of the friendship (honesty, secrets, favours, etc) don't exist anymore... keep distance from her but first let her know how much she has hurt and betrayed you - she'll feel guilty

Answer 7

don't sink down to her level, instead ignore her the other girls are not your real friends if they can leave you so quickly. make new friends. girls like that always get what they deserve,

Answer 8

Just get a new friend and leave her be.

Answer 9

tell her you have this REALLY aweful freind who keeps telling people stuff behind ur back, her name is ______, and then be like : o wait, thats you! i thought i was talking to your boyfriend.

she will freak!

Answer 10

Make new friends and don't let it get to you.