Every 2nd weekend, both sons should visit Dad.
Since Feb 2007, Dad doesn't take the little one who hides & cries when it's time to go w/him. At first, I thought it was sad but it looks like he's ok and he doesn't miss seeing Dad - for now anyway.
Still, I feel this is wrong. I tell my sons nice things about their Dad once in a while, hoping it'll convince the 3 yrs old that Dad is nice to hang out with. He should see both his sons.
Should I stop worrying?
Do you think that when the youngest will be ready to go see Dad, he will ask to go?
2007-03-22 13:16:49 · 13 answers · asked by Shaana 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not encourage him. I am in fact trying to convince Dad that a 3 years old should not decide on whether or not he will visit Dad. He is only 3!!
+ I don't talk about Dad other than to say nice things, as I wrote above.
2007-03-22 13:46:14 · update #1
i would not force him to go. when he is ready he will go.
2007-03-22 13:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It may just be seperation issues on the babys end doesnt want to be away from mommy. As long as it doesnt bother daddy just keep doing the right thing by glorifying dad and making him a great fun daddy so that baby starts to see what hes missing out on. It will take some pushing give him a bit more time to grow up a little and he will be daddys little boy after a while and before you know it he will want to be around dad too.
2007-03-22 20:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's 3 years old. He is scared and the disruption to his life every 2 weeks is causing him distress. Why doesn't his dad come to visit him in his home for a change, instead of expecting the children to be shipped out twice a month. His father, who he sees what- 4 days a month-- is a stranger to him.
2007-03-22 20:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are truley concerned about the little one and his dad not spending time together why not have your ex over for a few hours a couple times a week and let him play at your house with him? The child sees the home and mom as security and you shouldn't take that away.
2007-03-22 20:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 3 years old they need to be going to their dads; you have probably set things up to make it so he is scared to go; maybe on purpose, maybe by accident....
unless something untoward is going on at the dad's which is highly unlikely yet possible; you need to get your son all excited about going, telling him how much fun it will be and use the fun exciting voice along with it. Let your son have a relationship with his father, it will pay off for all of you in the long run!
2007-03-22 20:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids at this age make up their minds to do or not do things for their very own reasons, the best thing to do is ask your son why doesnt he want to go see daddy. it could be something very simple, that his daddy did that made him upset and so now he doesnt want to be around him .
give him his time but dont stop him from going to see his dad, let his father know that something is going on with the lil one and maybe the two of you together can figure out away to ease him into going back to visits happily
2007-03-22 20:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have two sons also that go visit their dad every other weekend and my youngest also dint like to go i have spoken to their dad and he says not to make him its been almost 2 months and this weekend he asked if he could go, younger ones sometimes have a harder time adapting than older ones try to stop worrying even though that's hard to do when it comes to our children but he will come around at least mine did good luck.
2007-03-22 20:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't encourage this and don't think it will go away. if you allow him to stay home for longer and longer periods the boy will never feel comfortable.
if he needs a transition go with them to a restaurant and leave early.
do something, anything you have to do.
if he continues to not go and the time rolls by he will resent you and think that dad doesn't love him like his brother.
fix this now.
2007-03-22 20:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, dont force him...maybe try to work something else out..until hes more comfortable with the situation.,
what about going somewhere public..maybe a park? where u can also go..and DAD can meet u there...he can SEE you ...and maybe get some 'play' time with dad...or maybe a restaurant...meet DAD there..
u guys may need to work 'together'..to make this easier for him!!
never force the issue tho..it will hurt him more!
2007-03-22 20:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by lisa baby... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MY ONPNION ON THAT IS YOU SHOULDNT FORCE HIM TO GO SOMEWHERE HE IS NOT COMFORTABLE. I WENT THRU THE SAME THING WITH MY SON . BUT ON THE OTHER HAND HIS MOTHER FELT THE NEED TO FORCE HIM TO GO WHICH IN TURN CAUSES HIM TO ACT OUT ALOT WHEN HE WAS WITH ME. WITH TIME HE WILL DESIRE TO BE WITH HIS DAD
2007-03-23 08:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by OFFICER CAMPBELL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you both divorce? If the jugdes said you have to take him than do it but if you didn't see the jugdes or they didn't say than you don't have too.
2007-03-22 20:24:04 · answer #11 · answered by Emi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋