I will be graduating from college in May and I have no idea what to expect. Do you usually stay in touch with your friends or do you drift apart from them? Also, what do people do for fun once they are no longer in college? Is it hard to make new friends?
2007-03-22 13:15:02 · 6 answers · asked by mandy 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
When I finished school I was very fortunate. There was a job waiting for me as soon as I received my degree. Unfortunately though, it was not in the same city I attended college. My close friends and I kept in touch by snail mail for a long time (computers were not common at all back then). I was busy with my new life and my friends got a life of their own. After about a year of corresponding by mail, we drifted apart. I believe, had the computer been a common house hold item as it is now, we would have remained friends forever, because communication would have been so much better and simpler. As for making new friends, you will meet new people and make new friends easily at your work place. Fun? Well that's up to you and your choice of friends. Not much will change all that much. Only you will receive a pay check! You will still be the same person you are. You will have friends and places to go and see as always. Good luck on your new path of life. I wish you well.
2007-03-22 13:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definately depends on a couple of factors. First, how far away from your friends will you be? If you move really far away, this will put additional strain on your current relationships. I moved over 1000 miles from my college and only one of my friends lives within 100 miles of me now, and even that seems pretty far away. But, it also depends on how close of a friendship it is too. I am finding that the only friends that still make an effort to stay in touch with me are the ones whom I was really close with. Casual friendships tend not to last as well, especially combined with long distances.
Finding new friends can be a very hard thing to do. My advice is, unless you are moving back home or to an area where you currently know people, work for a large company that has young people your age. I moved to a new city where I knew nobody and found a job working with a small, small company with no people my age. It has been very difficult to try and make new friends. Even a large company isn't guaranteed to have people you like being with, so be prepared to try and join some social activities. This can include sports at your gym if youre a guy, or fitness classes at the gym if youre a girl. But, you have to make it a regular thing for people to get to know you and want to continue to be your friend. I don't want to make it sound overly difficult, but it's certainly not like college where you have a roommate and hundreds of new students who are all looking to meet new people too.
Now, for the good news, is that the real world isn't as bad as some will make it out to be. Adjusting to a 8-5 or 9-5 job can be very difficult and demanding, expect to get a little depressed or frustrated your first year out. But, it does get a little better once you get adjusted. One thing that I've realized is that it's important to go out and do things after work, no matter how tired you are. It is very easy to get home at 6 after 9 hours of work and driving home through traffic and just say "I'm too tired, I think I'll just sit home." Assuming youre not overly in debt and are making enough money to have a little fun, there is lots to do, just like in college. Go to gyms, go see movies, go out on the weekends, etc...
Don't worry too much about it though, just take it as it comes along and make the best of it!
2007-03-24 14:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by infinite484 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I've seen it go both ways. Some people meet with their friends on a specific night of the week and have a guys or girls night out (and have been doing it every week for the last 5 years). Some people live in very different places so it's hard to stay in touch. You can make new friends, you'll be meeting new people at work.
2007-03-22 13:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After college, you will most likely find a job and make friends with your co-workers. Of course, your college friends will still be there but the funny thing is you are more likely to stay with people at your socio-economic level. It may not happen right away but some of your college friends will excel while some will struggle. Depending on where you will be in life, you are more likely to associate with people that you can relate to, in other words, people that serve your interest rather than having common birthplace of alma mater. You may already have noticed the gap with your high school friends. Remember your friends who didn’t go to college? How often do you hang out with them?
2007-03-22 21:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by gradjimbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you lose touch b/c lives change and people grow apart. you'll end up making some great "work" friends and some of those become real friendships. being in the real world is better and you do the same things for fun as in college. just as you get older and more mature, priorities change.
2007-03-22 13:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Debt!!! Full of Debt! That's if you didn't have mommy and daddy paying or a FULL scholarship.
2007-03-22 13:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by kks78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋