Why do people think 14 is too young?

Question

Most people think 14 is too young for sex but I disagree. I am 14 and I have done it three times. I love sex. As long as it is safe and mine always is why is it wrong?

Answer 1

I think 14 is too young but if you do it remember to use protection. When I was 14 I was a dad because I did it without protection.

Answer 2

well, i know plenty of girls that have sex at the age of 14.. i think that it is considered "bad" when a girl is being promiscuous and could contract a disease or whind up pregnant without a babys daddy. im adults fear that doing your "activity" will lead you to a mistake or otherwise.. having sex sometimes has consequences..i guess im trying to say make your own decision about whats wrong or right..obviously you care what people think of you to be on this site asking this question. youre not an adult.. you have probably barely gotten into highschool..you dont want to do something you will regret, or give yourself a bad reputation as a whore(not saying you are one) -ive only been with one person and am still dating that person.. are you even dating the people you are having sex with? not all relationships last.make sure you at least pick a guy that will stick with you no matter what...

Answer 3

It's not "wrong" per say. I think the concern is responsibility. Most adults look at a 14 year old and think, "This is the person who can't drink, drive, vote and isn't even in high school yet. I argue with him/her to take the trash out or to do their chores but they want to be recognized as an adult and to take the responsibility of being an adult by having sex."
I think that it is easy to look back at myself when I was 14 and think I know so much more now. At the time, I really thought I knew it all. It is true that experience does give you perspective on the worthwhileness of having sex and especially on who you are having it with.
However, I know plenty of people my own age (mid-20's) who are ridiculously irresponsible with their sexuality.
So my feeling is, if you are willing to take responsibility to raise a child if you concieve one or to safeguard against having one with TWO forms of protection: condom and the pill, if you are willing to get a PAP smear every year to ensure you don't have ovarian cancer, to have blood tests for AIDS, Hep C, have a doctor put cold metal instruments inside your vagina to check that all is well and to face the emotional rollercoaster that having a sex life will give you than hey, you are completely ready to have sex at 14. However, most 14 year olds I know, don't want to take their dog for a walk, much less the round the clock care a child would need, so I am skeptical.

Answer 4

Because you are not yet mature enough to deal with the consequences of your actions. What if the condom breaks? Are you ready to become a parent at 14? I did it at 17 and it's very hard. Or worse, what if you get a STD or AIDS? Your entire life will be over,literally. Nor are you ready to deal with the emotional issues that goes along with it; most adults aren't always able to deal with them. What makes you think you can? And you are having sex just for the sake of doing so; it should be with someone that you are in a mature, commited relationship with. You need to sit down and talk to your parents about this.

Answer 5

because your child. and your doing adult things. if you think you should be able to do that then why don't you stop going to school and work for a living. btw if you do that you wont have anytime or money to go out anywhere cos all you time and money will go into work and bills. your not responsible for that now so you shouldn't be having sex. also do you really want to raise a child at 14? im 21 and pregnant with my first and there is no way that i was ready for this even five years ago. wake up. your still a child. so act like one.

Answer 6

Because if u get pregnant u will have to immediatly take on a big responsibility which may in turn be dropping out of school, getting a job that may be hard to find at ur age...ur life will completely change, although a baby will bring u happyness but at ur age u are a kid. If u wanna do that stuff do it, but think of the consequences, & u did ask the question so don't throw a hissy fit over my answer girl.

Answer 7

Let's see because your not married for starters. Now if you could marry off teenagers at 14 in the USA it'd be fine. But since you can't it's not ok. STDS, condoms breaking, HIV, teen single mothers, pregnant teenagers. Those are all good reasons to wait. And the fact that most 14 year olds can't get a job to take care of their babies.

Answer 8

Because, hunny, you are deff. way too young. I was like you at your age. I only hung out with guys and it ALWAYS led to sex. Forutnately, i found good friends that helped me get out of that.
This whole having sex so young got me called names that upset me a bunch. I just hope that you can understand that you are too young. Be a kid and don't grow up too fast. Im 22 and I've been living my whole life like that and never really had the chance to be a kid. You will have your time to grow up, but for now, dont ruin your childhood.

Answer 9

i think 14 is too young. I was 15 when i first started having sex and at your age you are not gonna listen to anyone.I know I didnt. I am now 21 and when I look back I wish I would have waited. I made alot of mistakes as a teenager. But you have to make mistakes and learn from them. Just protect yourself and her too. Theres a lot of STD's and you are way too young to have a baby.

Answer 10

Because it's a tender age. It's not the matter of being safe, it's the matter of knowing about it. I believe kids these days are too mature and know too much. Also, sex is for people who are MARRIED. People who are in LOVE and are bonded together should have it. 14 year olds don't know love. It's called hormones and crushes. The thing is, they're too MATURE and foolish and DUMB to listen to anything their parents have to say. They were kids too you know. They had to deal with peer pressure too.