How do you toughen yourself up emotionally?

Question

Hey,

It's been bothering me a lot recently how easy I am to set off and get upset. I can cry about practically anything, happiness, sadness, anger, and it is so easy for me to become angry, just little tiny things can piss me off no end and it's getting me down.

Friends that I have had a while now I just snap, or go in moods, simply because of tiny things like 'they don't want to come out tonight'.

I was raised an only child and I am guessing I am probably spoilt as... It annoys me most when things do not go my way.. I realise I am getting angry but at the time I do not care. I hate it. I really do.

Is there any excersises, physical or mentally, that can be done to help toughen up someones emotional side? I have nothing against showing your feelings or emotions but god... I show them far to much, I need to regain control...

Answer 1

Before you attend any classes or do any exercises you first have to figure out what is setting you off.

If something little sets you off, figure out the thought process that went along with the emotional response. Usually you'll find that an extreme emotional outburst at something trivial is linked to something unrelated.

For example if you've just gotten out of a bad relationship, been dumped, or been having trouble with friends, family, etc., your anger and sadness can manifest itself in other ways. You might experience mood swings, snap at friends for no reason, sleep more or less, eat more or less, etc.

When you get angry breath deep. Breathe deep a number of times, as many times as it takes for you to calm down.

Whether you've been spoiled or not doesn't really matter. You can choose to act spoiled or not act spoiled at your own will. The best thing you can do for yourself is work hard and maintain a positive attitude. Self-control can be self-taught, it just takes patience.

-Best wishes

Answer 2

What your looking for is emotional maturity. Being aware is really a good start. Stay conscious of your actions, be aware of irrational behavior. And consider the mentality of your feelings, before you act on them. Will going off like this make me look like a jerk, emotionally immature, or foolish? Do I want to display thies qualities to my peers? Will my behavior, hide who I rally am? Train yourself to think before you act, and you'll probably grow past most or all of it. Being emotionally tough is a whole different thing.

Answer 3

See a doctor. You could very well be bi-polar. Medication can control that.