the more I tried to confront him ,the more he avoided me. I know he lied to me because he was ashamed. I even tried to be forgiving just so he would talk to me about it, but he won't even talk to me. He had another ex call me and ask me what I wanted from him??!! Why would he do this? Why cant he talk to me about any of this?? We were very close, and I thought he would have been able to tell me anything, but he wont now.
Can anyone please give me advise. The last message I told him that it was ok, I just wished he had told me the truth. But nothing. Is he ashamed, embarrased? Will he ever come around. At first, I was angry and I told him how mad I was, very shocked, but the last message I told him that no matter what, I only wanted him to be happy and I hope it all works out for him, even if I did find out all this stuff.
2007-03-22 12:22:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
We are both 29 yrs old. I know to leave him alone, I just want to know why he is being this way
2007-03-22 12:26:52 · update #1
Also, he knows how much he hurt me. But he became more defensive then try to console me.
2007-03-22 12:28:13 · update #2
Dear Mia,
I have seen quite a few postings from you and they're all about this guy who is being so awful to you. I feel really bad about what you're going through. He has obviously done some awful things and you seem really sweet, like the type of person who does not deserve this kind of treatment. Mia, I think that this whole situation might boil down to the fact that you really didn't know this guy as well as you thought you did. He somehow managed to "fool" you and that was not fair. I know that you are very hurt by all of the actions that have transpired since your "break-up". But let me tell you this: By holding on to these feelings, you are allowing him to still maintain some sort of "power" over you. You don't want that, do you? I know that you have to "mourn" the loss of the relationship, but you must somehow find the strength to emotionally "release" him. It is only then that the healing can begin and you can start to "breath" again. You know, be happy and experience life to the fullest. Just think about it, okay? Best wishes to you, Mia. I feel for you. Take it easy, you hear?
Peace and Blessings,
Cherish
2007-03-22 13:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Cherish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to think of intently approximately the thank you to proceed. What good would it not do to confront him? in keeping with risk you're hoping that he will promise by no ability to lie lower back. in keeping with risk he will inform you that he's not seeing his ex. yet you do no longer understand no count if or no longer he's telling the reality. the only concern that concerns is not any count in case you believe him or no longer. It would not sound such as you believe him. Do you particularly must be in a topic the place you're questioning no count while you're being cheated on? in case you have purely been relationship for a 12 months, and you have already had a separation, and you recognize that he lies, why proceed? existence is a lot extra exciting while we are no longer demanding approximately no count if or no longer somebody is out cheating. good good fortune.
2016-12-15 06:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he is somewhat embarrased and knows that you are hurt. The problem is that he doesn't want to deal with it or talk about it with you. You said the two of you are broken up and you found out these things after you broke up, so that tells me that right now, he is done with it and isn't going to budge. I think the best thing to do is to learn from this....the good and bad, and go on with your life. You told him that you wish him happiness, so enough said. Don't call, email or text him, don't drive by his house or try to contact him at all. He will realize what he's done & what he's lost one day. Pick yourself up and move on.
2007-03-22 13:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've guessed it already, he's ashamed. He might be willing to tell you after some time passes, but if you really need to talk to him immediately, sometime communicating through another person can make things a little simpler... but be careful, it could also make thing worse. Like you said, just leave him alone for a while, so he can sort it out on his own.
2007-03-22 12:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by ktcougarus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not ready to talk about it yet. Leave him be. If or when he is ready to face his deamons, he will let you know, especially if you were close. You are broke up now, it is time to let it be. Let him know you are there if he ever wants to talk about it but that you accept it was difficult for him and if he would rather not talk about it, that is okay. He had his reasons for not telling you, perhaps he thought it would hurt you, perhaps he was ashamed, whatever they were, he felt they were good enough to hide it. Respect his wishes if you did so care for him. Support his decision and allow him and you to be happy NOW. Good luck,
2007-03-22 13:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by elimayme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mybe he dosen't want to ralk about it. but try 2 confront him if u are tryin to get wit him again other then that leave him alone 4 some time. after all u all r over and done wit!
2007-03-22 12:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by It's barbie bytch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋