I'm due for my ultrasound in a couple days.... but the appointment I chose was a bad day. My husband wont be able to make it cause he was schedule to work since three of his co-workers have requested off. He wants me to reschedule the ultrasound so he can be there.. but I've been waiting for so long for this... This will be my first one and I will find out the sex of our child. SHOUL I WAIT for him or just go on and do it and have him look at the picture instead. I'm so excited to know...
2007-03-22 12:18:08 · 40 answers · asked by ~mother of 2 beautiful girls~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It took two to create your child, thus all decisions relating to it should be made by both partners. Think of how excited you are to see the ultrasound, how would you feel if you couldn't be there at the moment your child is viewed for the first time. It's not as though he wants to go golfing instead of going, he is out earning a living for you as well as the child you carry. There should be a reward for the love he is showing in the act of supporting you both by working. You should wait and see it with him.
2007-03-22 12:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by meraphetamine 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do what you can to reschedule. My husband is active duty Army and I've had to move a lot of my appointments around, but if he wants to be there do what you can to let him.
My husband honestly looked bored during the ultrasound, but his face just lit up when the tech said we were having a little girl. It was well worth whatever it took to have him there to hear the gender at the same time as me. Like someone else said, the gender won't change, you can wait a few more days. You need to include him in as much as possible - there's a lot of the pregnancy that only you can experience, so let him in on what you can!
2007-03-22 14:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if it were him having the ultrasound without you? Probably heartbroken as I'm sure he feels too. reschedule.. you can wait a couple days. At my last appt they said they would do a quick ultrasound to see the sex but my husband was working. I risked not getting it done but leaving the office to pick him up from work and then going back to the office. I told the nurse: I would rather not have one at all than have one without him. Remember, its his first baby too.. You have a special connection with your baby because he is growing inside you. The ultrasound will be so special for your husband and will help him connect more with your pregnancy.
2007-03-22 12:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you have waited a long time for an ultrasound, but hon if this is the one where you could possibly find out the sex of your child then yes I really think that he needs to be there. Those were the only 2 ultrasounds my husband was at because they are the most important. I think he would be heartbroken if you got to see and find out if it will be a boy or girl. It is a tremendously emotional and exciting experience that I think you need to experience together.
2007-03-22 12:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by berryflvr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I always schedule my appointments-even the check-ups- on days that my husband is off. He likes to be there. I went in when i was 17 weeks because my doctor wanted to do some test on my cervix and i told him i wanted to go alone and he was fine with it beacuse it was a girl thing. BUT it just so happens she wanted to measure my cervix and while doing that, she asked if i wanted to know the sex of the baby! I was so excited of course i said yes, i had been waiting for this! When i told my husband, he was a little dissapointed that i found out w/o him. And i felt bad about that! But he got over it. He understood. I think you should re-schedule tho. It's a very special appointment for BOTH of you!!
2007-03-22 12:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by KSH 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it would be EXTREMELY mean to go without him! He helped create the little life didn't he? Why did you not check on his scheduale before you made the appointment? I ALWAYS check my husband's scheduale before making important appointments. You may not even be able to find out, you really should prepare yourself for that possibility! Otherwise you might be crushed. I have NEVER (in 4 pregnancies) been able to find out the sex at that first (20 or so week) sonogram. Most of the time the baby will not cooperate lol. Also, there is the possibility that they could be wrong when they tell you. Don't rush out and buy all pink or all blue right away.
2007-03-22 12:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If I were you, I'd change the appointment. He had a hand in making the baby too! I scheduled mine on a day my fiance was definitely not working. Men don't get to experience the baby as much as we do..no flutters, no kicks in their tummies, no back aches...they must feel detached from the baby. Having him there will make him feel more involved, and if you love your husband, why would you deprive him of this special moment? It's selfish to think he isn't as eager as you...
2007-03-22 13:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait....
He will appreciate that you went out of your way to include him. It's a very enjoyable experience for dads to see their child for the first time, especially on ultrasound.
When my husband and I went, we dedicated a whole day to it. It was extra special because he really wanted a boy and the ultrasound revealed that it was a boy! It was a good day indeed! Went out to eat, did a little boy shopping.
Anyhow, as I was saying.. Wait it's well worth it! = )
2007-03-22 12:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by LOVE 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
i would change the appointment. It is an exciting time and you cannot wait to see your little one, but its a moment to be share together.
Reschedule so that you both can enjoy the excitment of seeing your little baby together.
Good luck
Carla
2007-03-22 12:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you even need to ask this question. Is there any reason why you WOULDN'T want him there? He must be crushed that you didn't want him there enough to reschedule as soon as you found out he couldn't make it. Just please try to remember that this baby is as much his as it is yours, and although you may feel more excited then he seems to be, he's super excited too and just showing it in a different way.
2007-03-22 13:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by Rosie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋