Fear of intimacy...what do i do?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Is this usual? Has it occurred before? If so, you may need to sit down with someone to discuss your history in relationships and the things that trouble you and why...maybe this will answer some of this question and shed light on your fear and an objective counselor can help talk or work through it.

We've all had this fear I believe, at one time or another in our lives, about someone...It seems very human, but if its repetitious, then perhaps you need to delve further into trying to find out what's hanging you up.

goodluck!

Grace

Answer 3

Your fear of intimacy comes from, being afraid of what others will think of you, physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Try not to be to self absorbed into all the details about yourself, because you will over react on them. The more you think about the details about yourself, the more you react to them.

You also need to realize that your not going to be rejected all the time. And that if someone wants to be close to you, and your happy with that, then maybe focus on your partners qualities, and not your own, to help you get through it.

You won't be able to enjoy who your with, if your focusing on your own. Let him, focus on you, and you focus on him.
Try that, and each time it becomes easier, when you do it this way.
Control how you think, and don't let your mind get the better of you by running it for you.

Answer 4

don't worry about it, i was the same way. When the right man comes along your heart is taken before you even realize what happened. The physical side of things (if that's what you mean) will come in time. If he's the right guy he'll wait till your ready and slowly help you face your fear and come to terms with it. You'll be fine. Try not to worry so much.

Answer 5

if you have a fear of intimacy, just let go of it and allow yourself to be loved. It's not so hard. you know the saying, "it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" ?? that's a true saying. Why deny yourself one of life's most beautiful things just because you have hangups in your head?? just let go, if you get hurt, hey so what?! you learn from it right?

Answer 6

Yeah PPL Will Let Ya Down...Just Don't Let Urself Down...Your 360 was Nice ...Don't Be Afraid To Live,Lifes Too Short Not to Make The Most Of It...

Answer 7

you should just get up the courage you cant go on in life being afraid of intimacy!! just suck it up and go on in life

Answer 8

I would say find a good counselor. Can you give any more info?

Answer 9

Talk to your mother.

Answer 10

seek counseling