Hardest question ever- is my wife cheating?

Question

I am currently in Iraq. I have been gettting some info from home. Some from my family, her family, my friends and her friends. Oh, and people from the area I am based. She never stays home. She was supposed to move in with her mom, but she got there and changed her mind. Went back to NC and got us another place. She has nothing to do with the people back home and only knows a handful of people in NC. She used to send me packages all the time. Not anymore. She used to send me letters ALL the time. Not anymore. She got a cell through someone else . The phone bill has been running $400 bucks a month. I asked for a copy of the bill- there is a phone number on there almost a thousand times. They text each other all the way through the night. That's why the bill is so high. I called it - a man. People have asked her questions and she tells different people different things. She does not answer her family and friends' phone calls. She thinks I have no idea what is going on.

LUVBARG as crazy as that sounds it does mean something to me. Does it have anything to do with a certain place and also a specific moment in time? If so e-mail me.

Answer 1

Soldier, keep your pistol oiled up. Sounds like you'll maybe using it on your next leave.

You need to ask her what's the deal. Do you have children? Couldn't they be the cause of it? Have you called multiple times? Is it always a man that answers?

It does smell fishy but you need more evidence before you leave her. With your military contacts, I would think you should be able to have that number traced and find out who the owner is.

Find out if someone you trust has the time to go where she's living, play deep cover on her and follow her around for a couple of days. If she's meeting some dude, it won't be hard to figure out. They will need a camera and plenty of time their hands. They just need to catch her with him, staying over night and showing forms of affection (kisses in public always work).

Thank you for your service.

Answer 2

What doe's your gut say. You got some facts. Her cell phone. When you called a man. She don't send package no more. The same number over and over and though the night. What doe's that tell you? People can say a lot of things and you can't believe every story. But you got prove something is wrong. And those are the facts. She calling this person all thought the night. Come on now you know she is cheating. You need to man up and call back this man, and ask him how do you know my wife. Don't go off the handle because your not going to get any answer if you do, so act right and you might get the truth. Forget about if she has no idea that you know something, just call that man, like today. Stop guessing because that going to drive you crazy. I know you might not want to know, but why keep yourself in the dark. And after you call this man and talk to him she going to know that you know something. And she might tell you the Truth or she going to tell you he just a friend and she lonely because your gone. Don't buy into it. There's not a friend in the world who your going to call that many times and thought the night. There's a interest between her (your wife) and this other fellow. And you know it.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear your so far away and getting this news. Things are bad enough over there without having to worry if your wife is being faithful. I could tell you a hundred reasons why she is cheating, but deep down you already know. We all have a gut feeling about things , but you also have some proof, high phone bills, no or little contact with friends and family, and the man answering the phone. Granted she probaly was lonely you being away, but its no excuse. You shouldnt worry right now about all that, but concentrate on your duties in Iraq and arriving back home safely. Emotional drama will affect your performance and judement over there. Take care of all this when you get home. Be safe.

Answer 4

Have you called the number on the bill? She must not be very smart to provide you with the bill if she is cheating. I would get a separate account and put some of your money there so she can't spend it all. Sorry to say hon but sounds like she is screwing around...and I am sure you know that is fairly common with military wives.
My husband went to Iraq as well and I went straight home to his family so that he wouldn't have to worry about that kind of crap or hear any rumors. I loved being with his family and I was never where he couldn't reach me to talk by phone or online.

Answer 5

She's cheating. I'd bet money on it. No one runs up a $400 a month cell phone bill or talks to/texts the same person that much unless there is a relationship. Unless of course she is talking to her best bud "catherine" for that long out of loneliness. But I doubt it.

You need to get your paperwork in order, and move money from your bank account(s) to a new account to prevent her and another man from cleaning you out, then just present the facts as you know them to her and ask her if she is seeing another man. She might not admit it at first, but over time you will find out the truth and in the meantime at least your moeny is safe and you won't come home from a war completely broke. Good luck. Thank you for serving our country!

Answer 6

she sounds like she is cheating man, I'm sorry. you know her love isn't there if she can't stay with you while you're doing what you're doing. It's not like you're in jail for a year or something, it's your job.

My husband is in Iraq right now, I wouldn't ever cheat on him. I send him crap all the time. Just yesterday I sent him 5 cans of easy cheese. his fave thing ever. If you REALLY LOVE someone, you can wait. she doesn't sound like she's waiting.

why don't you call that number and ask the guy straight up. when you get home, beat his *** and dump the girl, but only if you have evidence. cause she could just be a fun girl who likes to go out and talk on the phone.

Answer 7

I feel so bad for you. Your doing teh hardest thing ever and she got lonely. Thats exactly what happened and she doesn't know how to tell you. If I were you I wouldn't concentrate on her. Try to get over your feeling now. You are probably going through the worst feelings ever. The easiest way to get over this kind of pain is to accept that it happened. Not to keep pondering what was wrong with you. The pain is so deep and I hope youll be okay. this is not what should be on your mind over there, so far way from anyone you can go to for support. I am a woman and I feel that she is not being faithful

Answer 8

As hard as this may be to take in there is a possibility that she is cheating. Especially if they are texting all through the night, and talking that much.
I think if anything you should confront her and I know that losing someone is hard especially out there but if she is cheating on you, than you might as well get out now.
If she is than if anything be happy that you found out. I know that it can hurt but she is not a good person at all if she is cheating on you and while your in Iraq.
Just remember that God does everything for a reason and he will never throw you something you can't handle. She is not the right person for you if she is going to that kind of stuff to you. That is terrible and a sin and really hurtful and wow I think it is so horrible.
Anyways, you really need too find out so you can stop worrying about it and begin a healing process. =-[ I am so sorry if she is. So sorry.
Remember things will get better. Pray. Pray. Pray. God is always there. No matter what.
God Bless You.
I wish you the best!

Answer 9

Sure looks like she is! I would not pay four hundred dollars for her cell phone calls to her bf! Did you ask the other guy what does he have to talk about with her so much and why is he even talking to a married woman? Have you spoken with her about this? You need to confront her calmly! I will pray for you! Some people have no morals! I am sorry this is happening to you! You deserve better than being treated this way! God bless you!

Answer 10

Sorry hun....she is guilty as sin.
No doubt about it. Now what?
I would divorce asap, cause she is not going to admit anything as she is drawing quite the paycheck at the moment.
A girl I know at work did that to her hubby while over there. She took some of the money and went on quite the spending spree and vacation with her new bf. It was pretty pathetic.
Time to take care of u and cut her funds off.
She dont deserve u hun. Find a good woman.