I have a friend who just had a baby 3 months ago and the guy she had her baby with left her. we live in ny he moved away to atl. she has no way of getting in contact with him or anything.......now all I want to know is if that ever were to happen to me what information should I know. I know my boyfriends info but the one thing I dont know is his Social Security number......I have access to it but I always bypassed it because there was no need for me to know it. BUT now after what happened to my friend I want to be very very knowledgeable about what to do in the event this happens to me. I know it wont but hey at one point she thought the same way too. let me know what options I have if my child's father leaves and let me know what she should do in her situation. TO ALL IGNORANT PEOPLE KEEP YOUR STUPID @$$ RESPONSES TO YOURSELVES. I ONLY WANT USEFUL INFORMATION...............THANKS
2007-03-22 11:51:34 · 9 answers · asked by Might Be a Mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Been there done that...what you basically need to know in order to go after him for child support, or to have his rights revoked on the basis of abandoment, is a last known address, and of course name, date of birth, and if possible a last known employer or location of next of kin. The SS# is always helpful but not a requirement for you to have (local agencies can get that info). I know that you feel a little bad preparing for the worst, but it's better not to be blindsided. My oldests father left us when she was 4 months so I know it can happen. Best of luck, and remember always to hope for the best...your guy might not be the same as your friends.
2007-03-22 12:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely take the time to jot down that social security number. Its just one way that you could help track him down. I hope that he doesn't off and leave you because every child needs both parents. Just get his ssn and don't worry about this right now. Remember if you are stressed, your baby is stressed. I am sorry that this happened to your friend and I hope that she will be able to track him down and get the support that she is owed. Tell your friend she should talk with a lawyer right away. Congrats on your baby and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-22 12:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know their address and date of birth they can usually be tracked down. A social security number can help but is not always necessary. Once they are tracked down you can have a paternity test performed and then you can petition for child support, or they can waive all rights to the child and have no future claim the child.
2007-03-22 11:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about what happened about your friend. Sadly, that's how some men in this world are and deserve to go through hell for doing something like that to that woman and his child. I think that you should talk to your boyfriend though, you know just like a little chat about this whole thing. Be sure that he's going ot be there for you and your child. In all honesty, just because it happened to your friend doesn't necessarily mean it will happen to you. Just talk to your boyfriend about it, he may find it very great and reassuring that you go to him and tell him how you feel about it and that you're just a little nervous about what he'll do. Just talk to him, talking helps everything. I hope that it all works out for you. Good luck to you.
2007-03-22 11:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right on with the ssn. Should he ever try a disappearing act, his new employer will have to report his employment via his ssn. Also, do you know all his relatives and friends in other states that he might run to? I hope that you don't ever have this problem, but I think you are right to be safe rather than sorry.
2007-03-22 11:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you file for child abandonment or child support rhey ask for all of the identity questions and where they lived last time you had contact with them I allways kept in touch with my sons grandmother so I had access to all of his info wheather he liked it or not hopefully they can track down the deadbeat father of you're friends baby by his name and state alone . good luck!!
2007-03-22 11:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by tasha l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say have at least the 'entire' name...first/middle/last...Date of birth. Meet the family so you can at least tell someone to give him a message of whats going on. if you feel you need more than that, get that SSN #. I have the SSN for my baby's father...at least if he runs you have something to give to the child support office to dock that pay check.
2007-03-22 12:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by missdarkstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel like your boyfriend is going to leave you anytime soon you need to have his social number. but you also have to realize that you and your friend is two different people and just because something happened to her does not mean it's going to happen to you. remember a relationship is not a relationship without TRUST!!!!!
2007-03-22 12:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop sleeping around and you won't get knocked up. Then you won't have to pull this crap.
2007-03-22 12:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by nighthawk_842003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋