I need some opions, I was married in november last year to my parter who iv been with since i was 13. (now 30.5)I am friends with my girlfriends boyfriend. ( she went through painful split from her husband who cheated on her 3.5 years ago) . He is a older guy 41. Buy the problem is I am constantly thinking about him. He comes to me for advice about my gf! and we just hit it off so well. We have so much in common, as him and my gf dont! We have coffee once a week to catch up! My husband knows of this as they used to work together all the time and knew each other before him and I did.. I cant stop thinking of this person. I dont know what to do, Do i tell this male (considering he is a friend) how I feel or Do I just push my feelings and thoughts aside, I have always been the level headed straight one that everyone comes to for advice but now that its my turn , im stuck! I love my husband but this other man is totally differnt to my husband ! Please if you need more info just ask,!
2007-03-22 11:44:55 · 8 answers · asked by hungem76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I must add that I have never cheated on my husband before we were married or since, We both have total faith in each other, He can go and have coffee with my girlfriends and that doesnt worry me and the vice versa, Its just that this other person treats me totally different to what my husband does. I would NEVER NEVER sleep with another person while im still married or with my husband.
2007-03-22 17:27:40 · update #1
You are not stuck, you need to stop having contact with the other guy, it is not fair to your husband. How would you like it if he was carrying on this way? I doubt that you would.
2007-03-22 11:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a person with a vivid imagination and seeker of romance. Therefore, your day dreaming about this other guy is invalid and you need to rechannel your husband. Adultery always begins with a seed thought planted in the mind and the more you think about it the more it grows until finally you become so enticed you act on it. You're inviting trouble in your life and marriage and it will cause lifetime damages. Talk to your husband about your feelings, not someone else's man!!!
How would you feel if your husband was getting the hots for your best friend? Please stop and pray and occupy your time doing something more productive. You should be having coffee with your best friend, not her boyfriend. And if she isnt available, then have coffee with yourself and talk to Jesus about your feelings.
Hey, if your best friend cant trust you around her man, what woman can? Dismiss this guy from your mind and work on improving your relationship with your own man. Late, you will be so glad no one knew your thoughts but you and Jesus.
A private shame.
A private repentance.
A private cleansing.
A private restoration.
2007-03-22 15:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and infatuation are totally different things. Sexual attraction and infatuation together are a very strong force. Make no mistake. If you persue this man you will hurt everyone involved deeply, and if you really are in love with your husband the one you will hurt the deepest is yourself. You are simply infatuated with the other man, and/or sexually attracted to him. If you truly love your husband the wisest thing for you to do is to STOP having coffee once a week to 'catch up' with the other guy and START working on your marriage. You need to identify what is missing in your marriage that makes you look for it elsewhere! Otherwise, get a divorce before you go opening doors and trashing hearts around you.
2007-03-22 11:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a wife and you don't know what to do
about your continous thoughts about this other
man. Come on let's get serious here, you need to
think about your husband and leave this other guy
and his problems to him. You seem to be more
than just thinking about him as you wish you could
be with him, so before you go there drop the sit-
uation and be with your husband and stick to your
wife committments to your husband. Shame on
you.
2007-03-22 14:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want me to tell you?
that you want someone here to give you the go ahead to be
a deceitful liar
cheater
dishonest
someone not to be trusted
you are on the way now to all that
just stop seeing this guy
or if not
get divorced first
before you ever carry on with another
2007-03-22 13:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity killed the cat. All you are feeling is curiosity for this person. Once and if you have this person, you feelings will change for the worse, so don't even go there.
2007-03-22 11:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't carry on unless you're divorced
2007-03-22 11:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i have to say is dont break your vows, they were'nt made to be broken.
2007-03-22 11:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by ya girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋