A firend of mine asked me to post this question for her.
Mkay, so I'm gay, and I have a girlfriend. Things are not exactly peachy, she lives far away and we barely talk anymore. So I'm concidering breaking up. But where I live theres this girl named Sara (name changed) who I like A LOT, like when I think of a love song she pops in my head. So anyway, the only problem is shes straight and I think shes catching on to me liking her. SO, what should I do?
2007-03-22 11:44:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I DON'T FEEL ALONE ANYMORE!!! Im glad Im not alone, but I hate that your going through something as such. Im a gay guy, and im single though, but either way, I have a crush on a st8 guy who I think is catching on as well. as someone who is going through this now, im going to try my best to answer this.
I've like this guy for 3 years now and I have never told him. He always smiles at me and stuff, talks when we have time, etc. He has a girlfriend though, so I know he is str8. Im shy so I would never have the guts to ask him out. You however sound like you have confidence, first thing you should do is find out if she is homophobic. Then if your friends, tell her. Be honest. If she isn't homophobic and she is your friend, you just need to let her know. And if she says she doesn't like you back in the way you like her, it will crush you like your nothing, but you are something, and you'll get over it! So if she was to say no, then [Like I said, its gunna hurt] just say ok. If you look hurt and if she's a good friend she'll ask whats wrong.
Key is to be honest. Only in the Gay Community, Honesty is sometimes worth hiding. In your case, get to know her like I said then slowly in your own way tell her.
2007-03-22 12:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by Me..................... 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your friend, 'Sara', is a straight girl-- and, to be quite honest, there isn't anything you can do about that. You can't manipulate her to become Gay-- that's not a nice thing to do-- and you can't change her attitude towards loving women the way you do, unless she is actually Gay and just hasn't discovered it.
You could tell your friend your feelings, but it might not be the same afterwards.
Chances are that your straight friend 'Sara' isn't secretly Gay and going to want a relationship with you.
All in all, there isn't anything you can do, except forget about it.
2007-03-22 18:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this is a one in a million thing, but i have been completely straight my whole life. i date guys and lots of them. and then last summer i worked with a girl that was a lesbian. i had no idea that she had a crush on me, but we were very good friends. when i found out, it took time, but i realized that i felt the same. we've been in a relationship for over 4 months now, and i really love her. it wasnt something i ever would have considered before, and might never consider with any girl other than her in the future. but it has worked out wonderfully so far, and she has aloud me to experience a world i never would have otherwise. so it can happen, and good luck. i would just give her space, but let her know how you feel if you think she would be comfortable with it. stranger things have happened. good luck :D
2007-03-22 19:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by alittlelost 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok i thought you would like this story.
i read it in cosmo girl a little while ago.
"Roxanne and i lived acrossthe street from eachother, and we had been friends sharing everything. She said she thought gay perople were weird, so i couldn't tell her that i liked girls or that i was crushing on her. When she finnaly asked me about my feelings, i addmitted how i felt. At first she acted a little strange, but she eventualy asurred me that it was ok, and we never brought it up again. A few months later, we were at her house, and my parents called and asked me to go home. As i got up to leave, she grabbed my hand, pulled me into her arms, and kissed me. I felt like i was going to melt! When she stopped kissing me, she whispered, 'i love you,' and then let me go. We've been dating for a year and were so in love." - Isa.
so there is hope.
2007-03-22 18:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lexa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's always a chance the "straight" girl is "bi" because a lot of women don't admit they like other girls. I am bi but don't go around telling it to everyone just b/c I'm not ready for that or feel like I should. I flirt, but that's different.
2007-03-22 18:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to see a shrink because you obviously have some physcological issues along with moral issues. The best advice I can give you is to seek professional help and then invite Christ into your life. I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.
2007-03-22 18:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by cave man 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think you can change a persons sexuality the person is just naturaly drawn to one sex or another I think you should go to some gay bars in your town and find a girl that will do it for ya
2007-03-22 18:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing. Enjoy your crush in your imagination. I've crushed on many a gay man in my life, but in reality they have to stay just very good friends. That's the way life is.
2007-03-22 18:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to leave her be. My straight girl crushes have only ended in my frustration and their discomfort. I'm trying to get over one right now.
2007-03-23 08:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by pjonkml 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well Honey
you need to understand that she is straight and that's not going to change. Ya i know its hard but you need to get over her and leave her alone.
2007-03-22 19:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋