What would you take from a bad period when trying to concieve?

Question

My girlfriend and I are trying to having a child together. However, she just had what she called the worst period of her life! It was heavy cramping and alot of bleeding for the entire 5 days! We dont think it was a miscarriage or anything and she just came off it (period) So, for a couple trying to concieve should we be concerned about this going into the next month? And what could that mean? *Having an abnormal period like that. She has irregular periods as is and we have been trying for the last 3-4 months.

Answer 1

Ok, I'm hijacking your post but I have to clear up this misconception that the best time to have sex when trying to conceive is 2 days before/after your period, 4 days before/after your period and even 3 days before and after the 14th day of your cycle. The last one is the closest but the best time to have sex when you're trying to conceive is in the few days leading up to, on the day of, and the day after a woman ovulates.

Despite popular opinion, every woman does not ovulate on day 14. Some ovulate on day 10, some on day 20 etc. It all depends on the woman. The only way you can find out when you're ovulating is if you're charting your basal body temperature (first temp in the morning before you get out of bed), tracking your cervical fluid, or if you pee on ovulation predictor kits. Some women can tell because they have painful ovulations but this doesn't apply to everyone. So, if your GF ovulates on day 10 of her cycle and you're having sex on day 14, you are never going to get pregnant because the egg is already gone for the month.

OK, sorry about that! As for your GF's period, it could have been an early miscarriage, a random bad period or it could be that she has endometriosis. I have it pretty badly and my only symptom is the occasional heavy and painful period, with lots of clots (sorry if TMI). If she continues to have heavy and painful periods she should go to the doctor and get checked out. Endo can affect fertility although it is still possible to have a baby, it just usually takes longer.

I wouldn't be worried about fertility problems yet though. As a previous poster said, 3-4 months isn't that long. It takes the average, healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

It could just be the stress of trying to conceive. If you have been trying for several months, this can become almost as stressful as anything else in life! And stress can cause abnormal, painful periods, or even a lack of period. Have you talked to a dr. or fertilization specialist yet? Also, do you have an ovulation monitor? These can get a bit pricey, but if you are wanting to take some of the guessing out of her cycle, this would be a wonderful investment for you, and may even help eliminate the need for fertility drugs or specialists. And it will also take some of the stress off. You'll know the best days to try to conceive. Was she on a birth control method before? I know methods like the shot can really mess you up, as it took me double the time I took the shot to become "normal" again (took the shot twice, so 6 months, and it took a year to become normal). Also, is weight a factor? I hate to be so personal, but if she is heavier like I am, it may take losing weight to become normal and conceive. The best advise I received was lose 10 pounds and you'll get pregnant. I lost 18 and immediately conceived. (I weigh double what the Dr's say is right for my age and height). Good luck!

Answer 3

i hate to say this, but chances are it was a miscarriage. MANY MANY MANY miscarriages happen before people even know they are pregnant. It takes a lot of work to get pregnant and basically EVERYTHING has to be perfect. Ex. conceiving is only PART of it, after that, the egg must travel to the uterus and plant itself into the lining. Sometimes the egg just floats around and never makes it to the lining, sometimg the lining it too thin or the egg just can't latch on, sometimes it starts to burrow and falls off, etc. All of this happens before a pregnancy test could tell you (since the test can only pick up the hormone that is released AFTER the egg has burrowing completely in the lining. But i would look at that as good news. I know miscarriages are bad, but if that is the case (which is VERY normal, and most people just think of it as a heavy period or a slightly late period) then know that it's completely normal, and that it would mean she is fertile, and she is producing eggs and then your sperm are making it the distance. Also, sometimes a egg won't latch if it isn't strong enough. Think of it as gods way of saying...not this one, but soon.

although i'm not sure that's the problem, but remember in actuallity it might be a good sign!

Answer 4

Could be a very very early miscarriage. When my husband and I got married last April, we started trying for a child right away. I swear the next four were some of the worst periods I ever had. Then finally in August we got our little baby! (Due next month!! Right around our anniversary! LOL.) I do know that it can take some time for the woman's body to stop rejecting (making antibodies) to fight against the man's sperm as a foreign invader in her body. If it was a miscarriage, it's no big deal. The body knows how to take care of itself, and clean itself out and renew itself and try again next time. You shouldn't be concerned about anything going into next month. It may just take some time for your body's to get used to each other before they can work in unison to create that child you're dreaming of. Don't worry! It'll happen for you! I've always had ridiculously horrible periods - it's pretty common - 25% of women report it.... and we have a strong and healthy baby as far as we know!!

Answer 5

If this is abnormal then she really should go to the Dr. But if she was like that before and just came off birth control not that long ago then it could be very normal. I was like that and it wasn't anything out of the ordinary medically (I went in for it). She should make an appt though, it would be the safe thing to do.

Answer 6

It sounds to me as though she had a miscarriage. It is very common to lose the baby the first 5 wks and then the woman typically believe it is just a late, heavy cycle.
So that is good news, she can get pregnant, however she should go to the doctors and have an exam done to be sure that everything else is ok.
Happy ttc

Answer 7

Well, my periods were always irregular and I've even had crazy ones like the one you described. However, I'm now on my second pregnancy. I wouldn't be too concerned, just keep trying! 3-4 months of trying isn't that long, so no reason to be concerned just yet.

Answer 8

The best way to conceive is to map out her cycle, the egg is usually most fertile 14 days after the 1st day of your last period. Tell her to look for the "clear & slimey" mucus when she goes to the bathroom (urinates). This is a sign that she is ovulating and fertile. Not all women are blessed with this, but I was and this was how I could always tell when I was fertile.

Answer 9

If her periods are usually irregular i wouldn't worry to much about it. Start again like in 10days. Most women Ovulate 10-14 days(give or take)after they start their cycle. the first day of her period would start a new cycle. Good luck!

Answer 10

It means absolutly nothing, every month is different, if she had a lot of stress or maybe if she just got off of birth control, then it will change her period. No worries there, my concern is why is she good enough to have a child with, but not good enough to marry?