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Say someone has a job that requires social skills and being in the public's eye and the person succeeds in this job and seems to enjoy what they do. But then one day you discover that the person is actually shy outside of their job. For instance, if you see an actress/singer who is really shy when they're not performing. Or if you see a teacher who is really shy when they're not teaching.

What thoughts come to mind? Do you opinions of the person change?

2007-03-22 10:02:49 · 8 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Business & Finance Careers & Employment

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I tend to admire them even more. Anyone who is able to overcome personal difficulty to succeed in a chosen field is worthy of admiration.

A seemingly obvious but recent example is the contestant Melinda Doolittle on 'American Idol.' She seems quite shy personally, but she simply lights up onstage. I admire that.

2007-03-22 10:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I am one of those people. I am pretty shy and quiet. I model and am therefore viewed a lot by the public eye. I love what I do and when I am on the runway or doing a photo shoot, there is a different side of me but I do not carry myself like a model on a reguar day. I wear sweats and boring hair. I try to look as normal as possible and when someone recognizes me, I'm always embarrassed.

2007-03-22 17:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0 0

no, because they cant be all that shy if their a successful actress/singer.

and teacher, teachers can be shy. but my opinion still won't change because

1) maybe they are trying to overcome their shyness with their career or,

2)maybe the teacher is slightly shy in class anyways

2007-03-22 17:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by MAC 4 · 0 0

being incredibly shy myself, I don't think that's possible. If you have the guts to perform on stage or teach, you can't be shy also. When you are shy you don't have the courage to do any of those things.

2007-03-22 17:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by loveless_sselevol 3 · 0 0

Carly Simon is a perfect example . She has never given a concert because of her shyness.

But has an awesome vocal and many who would love to see her perform ..
My opinion has never changed with Carly she is really awesome regardless.

2007-03-22 17:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I would like to answer this from another perspective. I am a shy person in a non-shy career as well as hobby. I am an educator by career. This involves publicly speaking with students during the day, but it also involves hosting staff development where I teach training sessions for teachers, speak in the community, etc. As a hobby, I sing, play guitar, and write music. I have been successful singing in public since age 12.

I can tell you what some have thought of me in the past. Some have thought I was snobbish because I was too shy to speak socially as opposed to formally. Others were wise enough to know that my "public face" and the ability to speak/sing publicly go hand-in-hand. In other words, when required to speak formally, it is almost like an actor/actress who acts way out of character when compared to their own personality.

I am not shy with what I am confident of knowing. I have the knowledge base to be a teacher, so I exude an air of confidence in my job. I have the confidence in my singing ability as well (being alternate for the TX All-State Choir back in high school backs that up). What I am shy with is social settings because I am not confident in myself. I never know what to do or say. I am too consciously aware of the fact that if I joke around with someone I could accidentally offend them. Past experiences have taught me that. I also have had times where when someone told a story about something and I then told a similar story, they thought I was hogging the conversation. I never know how to truly express an interest in what others are saying because I don't know what to ask, when to ask, whether to ask, etc. I have been around so many different types of people with so many different views that I just don't know how to be social with anyone other than those select few who have somehow managed to get past my shell. I am so afraid of being judged that I dwell on my awkward feelings too much and retreat even further into a shell.

As a teacher, I am assertive and firm, but without having to yell. I am a calm peacemaker by nature. There is a vast difference in aquiring social skills to speak formally vs. informally. When I teach, I am in charge of the "conversation/atmosphere," so it is up to me whether we continue talking about a particular subject or whether we move on. I can handle that easily. In contrast, in a social setting, I freeze up because I am not in charge and don't know what to do. Some people never let me get a word in because unless I rudely interrupt, I have to stay quiet. Then they turn around and complain that I am too quiet. I fight a never-ending battle trying to overcome my social shyness and insecurities. In fact, I am opposite of most people who cannot speak formally but are great socially.

Please don't misjudge others. Many who appear self-confident and self-sufficient are actually desperate for friends who will truly care about them and try to understand them instead of judge them. I am one who communicates so much better in writing because I can take the time to say what I want without so much fear of interrupting, offending, or annoying others. I am also one who had a natural aptitude in schoolwork, but did not develop socially as my peers did. I just wish people would stop misjudging me and start giving me a chance. When I feel like I am being judged, I freeze.

At age 37, I am barely uncovering the secrets of how to not only just be myself but how to feel the confidence it takes to stop being (or at least stop appearing) shy.

2007-03-22 17:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 4 · 1 0

being shy means afraid to talk or express yourself. One can be shy in certain situations that are unfamiliar or uncomfortable, and totally opposite in others. It's pretty normal when you think about it.

2007-03-22 17:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by martin h 6 · 0 0

No my opinion would not change. When a peson does something they love, they often open up because they feel confident.

2007-03-22 17:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by witaldogy2 2 · 1 0

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