Teen Pregnancy.?

Question

I'm a teen. & I'm responsible. I have support & I think I want a baby. I want to be able to have a baby now & when I'm in my late 20s early 30s I want my kids to be able to take care of themselves that way I can go and get a career. I won't drop out of high school I make good grades. I just feel like I want it now. & idk why. If their are any teen mothers or mothers that were teen mothers please talk to me.

I believe I will be able to take care of a child. I know my mom will be there for me and I knw my boyfriend won't leave me. We've talked abt it and everything. We've been together over a yr and we both knw that we aren't going anywhere and we will be together.

If I need to be talked out of this then please someone start talking and if I dont then let me knw what yall think.

THANK YOU :D

Answer 1

Just how do you plan to pay for this child? If you are sooo mature and responsible, then move out of your parents house, get your own house and start paying the bills. That will determine responsibility. Obviously you are too young to have a baby, because your mentality is that you want something and you want it now, which shows blatant immaturity. Do you have any idea how much a baby costs? And I mean without any help from the state or WIC, because if you are so responsible, as you say you are, you can afford a house, the bills, food, clothes, diapers and formula. Get a grip. Stay in school, use protection (better yet, abstain) and don't even think about a baby again until you aren't a child yourself.

Answer 2

Dont do it!! I know it sounds like a dream come true.. and believe me it is, but you have your whole life to have kids!! And who says you cant start a career, and then have kids? If you really want to be responsible then you wouldnt want to rely on your mother to help you!! If you want a good career you need to go to college, how hard do you think its gonna be to go to college with a kid? Will your mom watch the baby every day when your in class? And if she does that for you do you really want to spend that much time away from your baby?? What if you have to go to a major univeristy? Is the baby going to live in the dorm with you? because most colleges dont go for that!! If your boyfriend loves you then he would want the best for you, which is NOT to have a baby so young! DO you realize how expensive babies are? Between just a crib, a car seat,,a stroller, diapers, clothes, health care.. your looking at THOUSANDS of dollars easy... can you afford that?? OR would you rely on your mom for that? Does that sound responsible? TO make your mom pay all that money so you can have a baby? What if you have pregnancy complications and you are forced to drop out of high school to have the baby?? You will be a year behind High School graduation!! ( i had to quit my last semester in college because I kept going into pre mature labor ) These are just a few of the many questions you need to sit down and ask yourself... You are so young.. live a little first... have a baby later.. having a baby in your late 20's is not bad, and many career women do it!!

Answer 3

i don't think you should....its harder to start out struggling and making a career and life for your child than to make a career and then have a child. You want to really be married.....if not real close to it. you need two people these days to raise a child, even though its hard to come by. I'm going to be 20 in a few months here and im 3 months going on 4 months pregnant right now. I have an okay job paying 12 an hour but come child expenses and other bills for providing clothes, diapers/milk n things for a child...i know i'm not going to have much left.....i'm lucky to be engaged but even so we will be struggling enough together financially. and although a child is a blessing, if you are with someone, additional problems/issues may come up with a child coming or beging in your life. you can't have a baby to just anyone either. may sure the man you are involved with and make a family with shares the same idea of family values with you. U have the rest of your life to make babies, sweetie. Some people mature quickly and who knows, u may be able to handle parenthood....but just take a serious look at reality....for real. let me know what u decide....best wishes - Nik..........

oh, and as far as you commenting your relationship, me n my fiance did not argue or disagree about much until we hit our 2 year mark in the relationship........dont count on him saying he wont leave. men change their minds everyday.

Answer 4

I had my first when I was 15. I thought that it would be fine, i had been with my bf for 4 years! but once my daughter was born everything changed. He's gone now, doesn't pay childsupport (and has another girl pregnant) and I had to drop out of school my junior year b/c I needed to work full time to support my daughter and it was too much to handle it all. (I also had an awsome family who supported me as much as they could at the time, but there is only so much they can do for you) my advise to you is.... please wait. You're life is just starting and you can go so far, it's not impossible with a child but it is ALOT harder. And men come and go, even if you're in love with this guy (true love, not lust) you are both going to change alot over the next few years, and odds are you will grow apart no matter how hard you try to make it work. You should wait until you're out of collage so that you can support your child. I have to scrape by every month on my bills b/c I havn't gone to collage yet. HOpe i helped

Answer 5

Do yourself a favor and finish high school and get a career first. I was 21 when I got pregnant and I can't imagine having a baby as a teen. Even at 21 I sometimes felt like I was "tied down." Not that I had anywhere to go or something better to do. I definitely don't regret having my daughter. Believe me, it is a HUGE responsibility! I was about to graduate with an associate degree when I got pregnant. One thing I always told myself is that I didn't want to have a just a job, I wanted a career. I want to have a job that my daughter could proudly tell her friends about at school. I didn't want her to be embarrassed that I worked at Kmart or Wal-mart or some fast food place. I have a very supportive family and was very lucky to have their support and love. While the father and I broke up before my daughter was born, he is still a part of her life. PLEASE WAIT!!

Answer 6

I think that you are lacking attention and love because i do not know of any teenagers or even myself when i was a teen even wanting a baby.
I would finish your schooling NOW while your young. Your only young once so i do not know why you want to force yourself to grow up before you have too.

I will tell you Boyfriends come and go. He may be with you forever or he may up and leave at anytime and i will tell you this a baby will not hold any guy to you.

If you cannot even take care of yourself now (money,housing and food) then how are you going to take care of someone else? Your mom should not have to raise your kid. Your a kid yourself!

I was with my boyfriend (now husband) a year before we even had sex and we had been together for 6 years until we had our son and even though we did not get married until last year we have been together for 12 years. We are now both 27 and expecting baby #2 and it is hard and we are financially stable and all that comes with it.

People do not always stay together so you need to think about that.
I would wait if i were you but if your ready to say goodbye to your life for the next 18 years then follow through with your thought. Are you going to be able to pay the following bills on your own---- rent, electric,cable,insurance payments,water,phone,car payments,medical coverage,diapers, clothes,formula and so much more?

If not then stay in school and have kids when you get married to your boyfriend because like you said he isn't going anywhere's.
Hope you make the right decision.

Answer 7

First I'd get married to your current boyfriend. Therefore first you are definitely 100% for sure you can stay together for a while. Because if it doesn't work out then you just get divorced. But it'd be harder on the child if your guy's relationship doesn't work out. I do support your decision, after all women used to get married at 15 and have several kids by the age of 20

Answer 8

If you're not ready to be married, then you're not ready for a baby.

If you anticipate needing your mom's help raising the child, then you're not ready for a baby.

If you and your man cannot financially support yourselves, then you are not ready for a baby.

...and if you're not ready for a baby...you're not ready for sex.

I don't want to sound mean, so let me offer you this bit of comfort - the world has changed so much, these days you can access office computers from home! There are so many career options these days that will also let you be at home -

I'm a graphic designer, and once my baby is born in August, I'm totally planning on going into business for myself - working as little or as much as I want, on projects I want, from my home...I'm really excited to do this and raise my child - I'm 25, I've graduated college, I've been married for two years, and the timing is just right for me to do these things.

best wishes

Answer 9

First of all you have no idea what will happen in the future! i was with a guy for 2 years when i was in high school we thought we would be together forever. I really don't think you or your boyfriend are ready for a child as you are still a child yourself. I also don't think it is fair for your mom she is done having kids and now she is going to have to help raise another child. Who is going to take care of the child when you are in school? How are you going to pay for daycare it about $500 every two weeks. also how are you going to make that $500 every two weeks cause you will be in school. how are you going to feed and clothe this baby???? I honestly think that you have alot to think about. I really really really think you should wait enjoy your child hood don't make it worse for everyone around you that will have to support you for the rest of your life!!!!!

Answer 10

Don't do it. I have been a teenage mother and it is extremely difficult!! Believe me if you think that that baby will love you and give your life purpose, you are wrong. Children are very selfish and very demanding. I went to a school for pregnant teens and remained friends with some of the girls for the past 14 years, none of them are still in a relationship with their children's father, including me. Wait until you are older and not so dependent on your family for support.