I've found that people tend to walk over me emotionally. I am by no means a push over, I am a force to reckon with when I lash out. But generally, I"m sweet and mild mannered. Why is it that people will say and do just about anything to you when you're bending over backwards to keep things running smoothly all around you?
2007-03-22 09:50:38 · 13 answers · asked by honeygirlc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi, I have asked myself that same question for years but there is no real answer to that question. It hurts like hell when you have a heart of gold and everybody just looks at you like it's your duty. God if people would only appreciate you eh!
I have been away from my family for awhile because it's nothing but a headache and friends no thanks, I find that I can help a stranger and I am way more appreciated and that my friend feels great so.....
Just keep your head up and those people that are just taking advantage step back from that a bit until people learn to appreciate the things that you do for them and if they don't open their eyes and start being grateful, then just kinda back right up from it and don't feel guilty about it, I know it's hard but you need to think about yourself to.
Good luck and stay strong.
2007-03-22 15:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people in this world that expect everyone to bow down to them. I have a sister that only calls when she needs something and when she calls she never inquires on how I'm doing. Therefore I have stopped answering the phone.
For the other folks that I cannot stop answering the phone for, I do whatever I can out of the goodness of my heart regardless as to how they treat me or say about me. I keep this as limited as possible, that way when those folks begin to walk over me, I keep smiling because I know that I've done what I wanted regardless and if it wasn't for me, they would be without. Every now and then, you need to rock the boat a little and show them that without you, they wouldn't have anything. Try it.
2007-03-22 10:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me thats been my problem over time too. I think alot of times someone sees kindeness as a sigh of weakness, but so untrue!! I see it as someone with a huge heart and thats a quality not everyone can actually say they have. Tell this so called friends who push over you that you have too much class behind you and find better friends. Cause really friends like them who needs enemies in life, there is enough struggles in everyday life than to have to juggle such fake people who only want to hurt someone than help them. I hope this advice helps you some. Having a heart full of kindness is better than having a heart full of weakness.
2007-03-22 10:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by krazykat4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think people often times hurt the ones that care about them the most because they're always there for them. People have a habit of taking advantage of those they truly need. in your case, sometimes things aren't going to go smoothly all the time. if it means having your feelings hurt, stop bending over backwards for those types of people
2007-03-22 09:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ababe7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you keep doing your best to make your life positive you are going to rise above those people that are working to make you upset. Its less effort for them to hate on you then for them to do what you do. You can not stop them from talking crap, but if you can remember those words your going to be alright.
2007-03-22 09:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by ramrodclaude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easier and comes about naturally, with people that have an emotional attachment. AND you are in contact with the more!
2007-03-22 09:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control all things around you (so stop trying) and you teach people how to treat you.
2007-03-22 10:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we hurt the ones we love because we dont know any better. We have little brains and even bigger mess ups.
2007-03-22 11:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by citizenparticular 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People want what they want, and they'll do anything they can do to get it even if it means taking advantage of people.
2007-03-22 09:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by S G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they know you will always be their for them...We all do it sometimes it's on purpose and sometimes it's just human nature.
2007-03-22 09:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋