Hey why do I feel attracted to sorrow?

Question

I like watching misery and It doesn't affect me the way it should. You know like when people cry or shout about it I just don't feel at all. I feel empty. Please somebody tell me what to do??????????????...............

I don't just mean watching it on TV but I have actually seen some terrible things still I don't feel anything

Answer 1

1. Born abusers
It is thought that some people are born with a deficiency in their brain. The deficiency makes it impossible for them to experience empathy. Empathy is the ability to imagine how someone else feels and it is empathy that causes us to try and avoid doing bad things to other people.
People who are born without the ability to empathise with other people are called psychopaths. There is not, at this point, any treatment for psychopathy.

2. Ignorant abusers
Ignorant abusers grow up in families where they are not taught to value other people as much as they value themselves. Spend an hour or two watching small children play and you will see human nature in action.

3. Trained abusers
Trained abusers tend to come from abusive families. They learn to behave abusively because they had an abusive parent or caregiver. The child who grows up watching one parent abuse another has two role-models. They will choose one of them. They will become like one or the other of their parents. They will become either the one who abuses or the one who is abused.

4.Cynical abusers
The cynical abuser decides it's a dog-eat-dog world and they are sick of being the dog who gets eaten. Many times such people have been burned by women like the one I mentioned above. She broke the nice man's heart and ended up with yet another man who abused her. Her rejected lover was left thinking, as many men do, that women like abuse.

Cynical abusers can, and will, change back to the nice people they used to be if the person they are with communicates their distress over the abuse and they care about that person. Sadly, however, the cynical abuser often takes up with someone they don't really care all that much about. It makes it easier to be abusive if love doesn't get in the way.
http://www.wordsbykim.com/contents/About-Abusive-People.html

Answer 2

I think it's called trainwreck syndrome. (That's an Internet slang term, NOT an officially documented condition, by the way... I don't want to mislead you.) Seeing all of the damage and emotional hooplah in negative situations causes you to slow down and "stare" in fascination.

I'm like this too. I think you just haven't been through the things that the affected people have, that's why you have no sympathetic response. (I'm just guessing whether you have or not, since that seems like the best possible explanation for such a thing.)

Answer 3

When you mean watching misery, do you mean watching it on movies, the news, talk shows, reality shows, ect. In those situations it's quite easy to feel detached because you're not the one affected. That's not really abnormal.

Answer 4

Perhaps you are a tough person, but think about the people who suffer...What would you feel if you were in their place? Try to understand their point of view too...

Answer 5

i think it means u do not know how to feel other peoples sorrow u lack tht ability, maybe imagine how u would feel if u were in their place, there are many ppl like tht, u just have to try and react, imagine how it would feel

Answer 6

Try to hit one of your fingernails with a hammer and notice the feeling. No cussing now!

Answer 7

You feel that you are lacking in empathy. Exercise: Imagine yourself in the victim's life. How does it feel? Try to imagine what the victim is feeling. This is called "perspective-taking".

Answer 8

Do you feel empty or do you feel numb?

Answer 9

u r a good human being and nothing to do :)

Answer 10

consult your doctor