Am I ready for a baby???

Question

I'm 19 years old, married, succesful in job and the same for my husband. Yet everyone tells me we are too young to have a baby. I think we are financially able what do you think?

Answer 1

Whatever. don't listen to anyone else. I am also 19 years old, financially stable and married, and trying to conceive. Everyone tells me i'm too young also, but it's your life. I think if you think you are ready, then go for it. Don't listen to everyone else to tell you how to live your life. It's a big responsibility, so know what you are doing before you get into it, but i think all is good. email me if you wanna talk more!!

Answer 2

you can not listen to what everyone else thinks/says if you and your hubby think you are ready then you just might be I was 16 when I got married 19 when I got pregnant 20 when I had him and 23 when I had the second. I am 32 and looking back I am glad I had my children early. By the time I hit 40 they will be adults and I will still be young enough to go out and do all the things I was too broke to do in my 20's. Start a savings account now for future emergancys and have 20-50 dollars direct deposited into it every payday. this way if something comes up you are prepared even if its nothing more than losing a days pay because your baby is teething and wants mommy I say Yes you are young and could wait but then again your young but if you feel you are ready go for it.

Answer 3

Being financially ready for a baby is only a small part of actually being ready. I also have doubts as to how two 19 year olds could really be financially ready, unless you inherited a lot of money. Your life will never be the same after a baby, in many very good ways and some challenging ways. I would recommend enjoying your new marriage for at least a few years before trying for a baby.

Answer 4

I know how hard it is to wait when you want a baby and you think you're ready. My husband and I have been together since high school (we're in our late 20s) and I've wanted a baby for a LONG time. We are now finally in a point in our lives when it is the "right" time. We are both done with school, we both have secure jobs, and we have done the whole party/hanging out every night with our friends thing. I would really recommend waiting until after you're 21 and you get a chance to have "friend" time. Its really nice to have only you and your husband to take care of. 19, in my opinion, is a little young to be starting a family b/c I don't think you have gone through a very important, growing period in your life (early 20s).

But...this is just my opinion and I don't know you, so think about it carefully and in the end, you and your husband are the only two who can make this decision.

Answer 5

I had my first son when I was 19 hes now 10... I was fine with him your married and financially set.. I think some people are ready at 19 and some are not... My sister is 19 now and I don't think she is anywhere near ready.. So I wouldn't listent o everyone else I would do what you think is best that is all that matters.. Just think too the earlier you have them than when they are older you will still be young enough to enjoy life again... lol Good Luck! = )

Answer 6

I think its totally up to you. I am 21 and my husband is 32. Everyone tried to talk me out of having children untill I am older. My husband has a good job but I am still in school. Do I regret it. Absolutly not. I wanted to be a younger mother.I just gave birth to my baby girl 4 weeks ago and being a mother is unlike anything I have ever experienced. It totally will be the best experience you will ever go through. Its your body and you and your husband are the only ones who should decide when to have children. Now that my daughter is here everyone loves her to pieces. Its funny how a baby can change everyones minds. Serious though you will know when your ready to become a mommy. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Age is all in a person's mind. In my opinion if you have the finances and you are married, sounds like you should go for it if you feel like you are ready to have a family. The only consideration I would take is to think about that fact that you are in a good position it sounds like - successful jobs, husband - maybe you should take some time to enjoy each other. Maybe do a little traveling here & there before you have a family that will change what you can do together. Bonding time before kids I think is the best time.

Answer 8

well nobody can tell you what to do when it comes to this. i had a baby when i was 19 and she is the best thing that ever happend to me. but sometimes i wish i would have waited. the best thing you could do is sit down and talk to your hubby. see where you both stand and really sit down and think about it. are you ready to not be able to go out with your friends cuz you have no babysitter, or the baby is sick. are you ready to get up every 2 hrs cuz the baby is awake? there is alot more to think about than just the basics. its very different than babysitting. this little life depends on you for everything. i hope you are happy in whatever you choose.

Answer 9

I think that if you're both ready to have a child and know that you will love that child and provide the child with everything it will need then of course you're ready. Some people think that being 19 years old is too young but that's not up to them. You've lived your life and obvioiusly understand that it will change with a baby. You should try and have one...don't listen to what other people think

Answer 10

I was 19 when I got married (I'll be 24 in Sept.),pregnant @ 20, had my son at 21. And we are doing fine. I'm a stay at home mom so we are on a budget, and if I was working it would really just pay for day care and extra diapers/pull ups to keep at daycare.
There are some things to think about before becoming pregnant. For example, are you going to work or stay at home. If u are going to stay home see if u can make it on one income by trying to live on one income for a month (put your checks in savings) if u plan on working, call and find out the average day care rate (here it is $400/month) and take that amount out of your check to see if u can make it without it. Of course take into account that day care is not your only expense. Good Luck.