Ok, I used to date this guy when I was 14 or 15 and he was 21 or 22. I told him that I was older than what I was so we broke up. Now, at 19, he finds me on myspace AFTER 6 YEARS. We talked for a couple of days and then we met up. I currently have a boyfriend now. I was in love with this other guy that I was with when I was 14, but he broke up with me because I lied to him about my age. Now six years later he wants to be back with me, but I told him I have a boyfriend. So we meet up and have sex. Now its like he's saying he wants to be friends because I told him I feel guilty about sleeping with him knowing that I have a boyfriend. But I really do love this guy alot..more that I love my current boyfriend.
So he has been blowing me off lately. What does this mean? does this mean he doesn't want to be bothered, or he needs time to think. Just last week he was saying he wants to be with me, now he's saying lets take it slow and be friends. What should I do?
2007-03-22 09:31:12 · 11 answers · asked by Simorah Serenity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I mean, we both said that we wanted to be together, its not like he just said ok, i hit it, now im not talking to you anymore. we have been talking after that, but i feel as though he is confused because now the mother of his kids wants to get back with him. I also feel weird because even though I slept with him, at the time it felt good, he knew at the time I had a boyfriend also. But when you are in love with someone, and dont see them for years, what are you supposed to do? especially when you are with them and sitting close to them and having fun with them, and they love you the same way you love them? But I don't know. He still says he wants to be with me, but we just need to slow down and be friends. I don't want to feel like I am being taken advantage of. I just want him to either tell me yes, I want to be with you or no, I just wanted some sex, i manipulated you so move on. All i want is him to be straight forward. Then i will move on.
2007-03-22 09:53:16 · update #1
I think you should break up with your current boyfriend because obviously it'd be a waste of time to have a relationship based on a lie and keeping him as kind of the back up guy... its not fair to him. This other guy that you really love is probably pissed that youre making excuses about your boyfriend when hes not even the one you love. Go back to the guy you love and tell him its over between you and your boyfriend and that you didnt do it for him but you did it because you didnt love your boyfriend but that you have been getting these really strong feelings for him again. Youre pouring your heart out here but you gotta do it and if he still acts like a jerk then just go solo because it probably was just not meant to be.
2007-03-22 09:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by itsSCIENCE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have to know this guy to tell you that he has used you. You think you love this guy, but does he love you? How can you love someone who doesn't even partly share the same feelings as you? Lets be honest here, he didn't message you 6 years later to just be friends...he's finishing what he couldn't do 6 years ago. He's blowing you off because he got what he wanted, trust me. A lot of women go through this, it happens every day. The more women just up and give it to a guy the less they will respect us. If this behavior continues they will assume they can have anything they want. Please, do not cater to this ego of theirs. You don't need to have sex to get what you want from a guy. There's no guarantee you will get whatever it is you want...You are so much better than that. You told him you had a boyfriend but he continued to pursue you, and he's not up for all the blame because you went through with it. You should be smart and strong enough to say no, this is wrong. Again, a lot of women go through this. Please, take this advice and do not call him anymore. This doesn't make you a whore, you are not dirty, and this IS NOT who you are. This should be a lesson learned. Just be glad you are alive...go get a STD and HIV test and live happily ever after and choose more wisely.
Have a nice day!
2007-03-22 16:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking in general, yes it is possible to be "friends".
However, I wouldn't do that in this case.
If you quit your current guy for him you will be a candidate for "what comes around" or Karma or whatever you call it.
This guy who used to be your boyfriend sounds like bad news. He will probably cause you more harm than good.
You are probably thinking of him so much because you knew him when you were younger. Those that we love in youth tend to haunt our memories.
He is also playing games. He quits you, then wants you back, then has sex with you, then blows you off.
Do you really need this drama in your life? Drama is exciting but it makes for a hard time in a relationship.
Do what you want (you will) but I would just leave this guy alone.
2007-03-22 16:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by honeysistagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing sweetie your big mistake was lieing to him you should have told him the truth in the first place, because trust me honey lieing don't get you nowhere but a broken heart and you don't wont that because it starts up to much mess. another thing once yall had broken up and you have moved on with your life with your other boyfriend you should have left it that way cause the moment you saw him you should have said your hello's and good bye's and left. because by you talking to him,and meeting with him,and having relations with him just made things worst for yourself cause now you fill guilty for having sex with him and i can understand why he drew him-self away from you cause you lied to him about your age, then you told him you have a boy friend and i think what was running through his mine was i know she still like me so i'll just take advantage of that and let her think i still like her and then "bam"! i have scored then i will make up lies to get rid of her. So sweetie if you and him did do something well you can forget about your realtionship with your boyfriend cause boys talk and that will get back to him. so to be truly honest tell your boyfriend the truth before it get any worst and let that dog of and ex-boyfriend of yours go cause that was a long time ago okay. oh by the way next time sweetie think about yourself before you go doing something you will regret in the long run okay cause, you i mean your life is worth more than a man.
2007-03-22 17:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but it seems like this guy is only in it for *** he doesnt care about you, I'm not saying this to be a ***** or anything I'm telling you this because its the truth and its happened to me many times before. You should stay with the guy that your with and tell him the truth about what happened with this other guy and hopefully you guys can work it out. If not I hope that you learned from your mistake and can find a guy that you wont hurt. Good Luck!
2007-03-22 16:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means for you to take a hike because he got what he was out for. It is not a good idea in being friends with an ex.
2007-03-22 16:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by biggkali215 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...my space is an emeffer! second, sounds as if you just had "closure" whether you like to see it that way or not. he wanted to see what was there, he did, he's done. hope you haven't burned your bridges with the current one......
2007-03-22 16:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he either used u
or when he had sex with u he started to think it wasnt right to do this
so he left
2007-03-22 16:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used you. Stay w/ your current boyfriend.
2007-03-22 16:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MADE A HUGE MISTAKE WHEN YOU SLEPT WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-22 16:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by aais 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋