My cousin who is 33yrs old has been married for less than a year and is getting a divorce and is 5 months pregnant. The thing is she makes EVERYONE (except for a few people) believe she is a "goody to-shoes". She has moved back home and her parents are very controlling of her and keeps her in their sight. Well I know for a fact that my cousin is a pathological liar and was cheating on her husband. And based on the time that she got pregnant she was split from her husband ..so there is a 50/50 chance its not her husbands'.Her parents dont know this! My cousin puts me down behind my back and tries to make me look bad...but really it is her that lives a dark-sided life that she thinks no one knows about. So should I spill the beans on her?
2007-03-22 09:20:35 · 29 answers · asked by jbe2176 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should tell her ex about the possibility that child may not be his. I know he'd want to be aware at least.
They could keep it between themselves at that point if they choose to act civilly about the situation. But that's up to them.
Talk to your cousin first though, ask her to tell him or you will because you feel at least he should know. Assure her that you will not mention it to her folks, that's her choice. But let her know she doesn't need to be talking about you behind your back.
At least say, if she has an issue about you, to talk to you about it directly.
Otherwise she does not need to play ridiculous games.
I don't think it works ignoring the whole issue. This will teach her that there are consequences when she does wrong and should be handled appropriately.
If she's going to live as an adult and make those kind of decisions then she should handle the consequences as an adult too. Makes sense to me.
2007-03-22 09:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by dmh7593 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, telling the truth should not be something you should avoid or should be worried about. While being honest isnt always easy and it sure wont make you popular, it will get you something more important, respect. Well, it will get you respect provided that honesty is your usual policy and that you dont just use it as a club or to get even.
Now, nothing says that you have to present the truth in any particular manner either. What would be wrong with writing a letter containing all the things that you do know of her (things you actually know to be true), copying it and getting copies to some people that should know how she is and the crap she pulls, like her parents?
2007-03-22 09:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look no matter all the drama that has gone on, the best thing for you to do is to keep quiet. You do not even want to get involved with this. You will cause so many enemies it would be unbelievable. Sooner or later the truth will come out, and it is not your place to get involved with someone else's business. Trust me the best thing you can do is to walk away, keep quiet and you will be so glad that you did. Sometimes the best thing said is nothing said at all. Walk away from your cousin and do not have anything to do with her at all. Life is too short to get involved with these kind of drama filled issues.
2007-03-22 09:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Walk away from this person. Besides, the truth has a way of coming out with time. She won't be able to hide the fact that the father of her child is not her soon to be ex husband.
Take the high road and walk away. You'll be glad you did.
2007-03-22 10:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop an anonymous note to the soon to be ex and let him know he might want to consider a paternity test of the child after it's born. He should not be on the hook for a child that is not his own and should not be deceived into thinking it is his, he DOES deserve to know. Just don't let anyone know it was you that let him know and do it like I mentioned, anonymously. After all, I would have loved that when I my ex was cheating before she left finally.
2007-03-22 10:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by mcbobly2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 08:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally would tell him,that is if it was for the right reasons.don't tell if it's revenge but the wellfare of that baby is to know who it's father is.it wont be fair to the baby or the x.she might even try to get child support from him.it's complicated but a lie that big wont stay burried forever,isn't better to tell now while the hurt will be minimal??it's worrying you so i know you will make the right choice.good luck!!!!!!!
2007-03-22 09:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you one to stoop to being childish and immature? Because that's exactly what it is that you are thinking of doing? Are you an adult? If you are then get past the Middle School mentallity and grow up.
2007-03-22 11:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? She's a looser. Just ignore that she even exists and move along with your life already. Life is too short to be so concerned about your looser cousin.
2007-03-22 09:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her ex about the possibility. Why should he grow to love and bond with a child that she may tell him in a few years that it's not even his. Her bad karma will come back to bite her..
2007-03-22 09:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋