I am a 20 year old female trying to conceive but it seems oh so hard I am desperately seeking advice please?

Question

It is now being a constant head-ache for me and causing problems in my love life.

Answer 1

How to get Pregnant Faster – Top Ten Tips

1. Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.
2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.
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Answer 2

do not try so hard. if you are tense and got your mind only on making a baby you can not enjoy the baby making "process"
My hubby and I tried for a year with our second child and just when we decieded to stop trying we went on vacation and had fun being silly and talked about maybe getting fertility testing done when we got back. My son got sick and I put the testing off. Then I got sick with what I thought was the same thing but I stayed sick for several weeks when everyone else was over it in a few days. I finally went to the doctor and found out I was pregnant and from the dates and stuff it happened while on vacation. Remember creating a child is a loving process so do not let the I want to have a baby take over the romance side of love making

Answer 3

Don't try as hard. My hubby and I talked about a baby and two weeks later we had conceived. We didn't think we would get pregnant that quick either. So you never know what might happen.
Also, I don't know if this will work for you, but this is what I did.
I counted my period as Day 1 and then counted days 2,3,4 and then started counting all over again. I must of hit my fertile time because I got pregnant.
I suggest you get married too if you aren't right now. It's better that way.

Answer 4

At 20???Why?

Answer 5

you are trying to concieve at 20?? How about getting a life, having some fun. Take up some hobbies, go to college, travel, hang out with friends, and save having a kid until you are a little older!

Answer 6

I myself had problems getting pregnant, my hubby and I tried for over a year and still, nothing.........I had to go and see a fertility doctor and found out I had endometriosis, and after surgery 9 days later...................PREGNANT! After that it was a piece of cake so my advice would be have sex every other day and if at a year you still havent conceived then see a doctor.

Answer 7

Sorry if this is harsh, but you are WAY too young to be desperate to conceive. If this is a way to save your relationship, IT WILL MAKE THINGS WORSE! Wait until you are older and have been in the relationship longer...then have kids.

Answer 8

I went off the pill in September and tried very hard to get preggo. I got preggo in February. It will happen and no amount of stress or thinking about it will stop you....good luck.

Answer 9

People are such idiots what they dont realize is it's not AGE thats determines if your ready for a kid or not it's MATURITY. If you feel that your willing to completely change your life to donate time to a baby then go speak to a gyno

Answer 10

I honestly think you can strees yourself out so much that you are keeping yourself from getting pregnant. Just enjoy your partner, it'll happen. I believe that nothing in the world will help you concive unless it's ment to be and nothing you can do to prevent it either. Good luck.

Answer 11

maybe its the guy!..i was with my ex for 3 years and hadnt ever been pregnant,,them inute i got with my hubby now : i was oh so knocked up!...or just stop trying , cuz it will creep up on you...good luck!