my hubby jusr fell outa love wid me.he doesnt care about anythin related to me now.he'll talk to em when he wud b in a mood to talk to me....now thst i know this im heart broken he is the only man i ever fell in love wid and i know i wont b able to love any1 ever again.i cant break this marriage coz its either him or no1.but how can i just heal my broken heart.its not easy to face this reality.i didnt cheat or he cheated on me.but he just eventually stopped feeling that way about me.hez just not attracted to me anymore.talking to him about it is no use coz he just gets upset and shouts.rite now he just pretends as if nothing is wrong and talks normal.
i dont know how to make him fall in love wid me again and how to make myself feel better.im so hurt.my whole world has shattred.im feelin so lonely and depressed.plz tell me wat to do.thx
2007-03-22 09:01:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband told me that people who say they " fall out of love" are bullshitters...they just want something else and that is an excuse...I would leave the situation..He doesn't want you there, and seeing him everyday isn't going to help you..once your out you will feel muh better.
2007-03-22 09:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never make someone love you, no matter how hard you try. You know what, the harder you try the more they turn away, you start disgusting them. You might as well give up, tell him your not going to live like this and you think it's best to get a divorce. I know it will hurt but the longer you stay in a marriage with a man that doesn't love you the worst it's going to get. It will take time but when you are by yourself you need to go out with your friends dancing or whatever everyone decides to do. It will take a long time until you completely get him out of your mind day and night. You want die you'll make it even though right now you don't know how you will be able to go on.without him. In fact after you find someone new and even get married again, if you hear his name or happen to see him your heart will still feel sadness. You need to stay away from him and the places that he may show up, You will love again and possibly never think about him but sometimes it will last a lifetime of still having a place in your heart for your husband. Just stay in there and try as hard as you can to get your mind on something else.
Let me wish you the best because we have all been down that road your not by yourself and we still have a soft spot for that first love. My Best to You.
2007-03-22 09:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is no quick fix to remedy your broken heart. You would need to put one foot in front of the other and go step by step, day by day. It won't help you, your hubby or the marriage if you constantly talk about your feelings. People fall in and out of love everyday and that is the reality, like it or not. For you to say that you won't be able to love anyone ever again, is a little immature and premature. You feel this way now because your heart is with this person but once you get over this situation you would be open to loing someone else and having someone love you again. I know it's hard but you need to fix you, do you, find the things that bring you some form of enjoyment and pleasure, surround yourself with positive things and people, go out with friends/family members and have fun . It will get better, nothing lasts forever, not even pain, though it may seem that way at times, but this too shall pass. Good luck
2007-03-22 09:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by spoiltrini 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone want to be near you or talk to you or even love you. That is the cold truth, and I know it hurts because I've been there, but you know what? You CAN love again. It just seems like you can't now because you're hurting. I had to keep repeating something to myself until I believed it. "I do NOT want to be by anyone that does not want to be by ME!" You deserve someone that really loves you and is glad to see you at the end of the day. This is NOT the end of the world. It may be a new beginning for you! It's just scary, that's all, but once you found someone that is crazy about you, you'd be wondering why you made yourself miserable trying to be something to someone that you're not. When you find out how it can be, you'll learn that it's not as bad as it seems. Learn to love yourself. Don't be so dependant on one person. That's where we mess up. Loving someone more than ourselves.
2007-03-22 09:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are not cheating yet but it seems like it's going to that direction. At this point, after all that has happened, it would'nt hurt if you ask professional help. Get a marriage counselor, a priest or pastor if you're a christian. Things would turn out better if both of you work hard towards the same goal. Talk often and casually, no need for the "big talk" men easily shuts down with that. Do it one day at a time.
Lani
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2007-03-22 09:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As difficult as this is, you have to know that you can't make someone love you. If he's moved on, you're going to have to do the same thing.
Believe it or not, your heart will heal. It won't happen tomorrow or the next day, but it will get easier.
Try to find something that will help you take your mind off of your heartache. You deserve to be loved, and as long as you're pining away for tohis guy, you won't find your "real" soul mate, the one who will love you back.
2007-03-22 09:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over him....My husband did the same thing..but i fell out of love with him too. How you get over him is to move on with life. Go to counceling or a support group. File for divorce. Do what you got to do. There are plenty of people out there to mingle with. Go out with a girlfriend on friday nights or do things that you did when you were single that made you laugh. Smile. Yes for no reason. Do this enough and you will start to heal. Later on you might be the one asking HIM for the divorce!
2007-03-22 09:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by new life abundant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, learn to spell. Secondly, do you really talk like you did in this post? If so maybe that could be a contributing factor, maybe he can't understand a word that comes out of your mouth. Lastly, you need to sit and have a heart to heart talk, and for cryin out loud, speak legible, normal, everyday ENGLISH, he'll understand you better, trust me. Sounds like the lines of communication have broken down and you two need to talk.
2007-03-22 09:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by mcbobly2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh forgive me in advance, but sweetie only time & prayer will heal your broken heart. There isn't a pill, drink or cream that will make it any better. Everyday will shed a bit of light of hope on your heart & one day you'll have full sunshine again! God bless & good luck to ya!
2007-03-22 09:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by WOW U all make me feel normal! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all sweetheart, you don't comprehend what love is. women do this way of concern for interest each and each of the time. you like the two one in each of them, so recover from your self and be a sprint mature approximately this. i comprehend you're in basic terms 13 yet you're gonna locate out quickly that alot of difficult shyt is going to ensue and you're able to never even comprehend what love is. Then the completed time you're decrease than this self provoked spell led to by ability of hormones and puberty, you're gonna pass by greater thoughts than you comprehend what to do with. don't get entangled with any guy until eventually you're stable sufficient to comprehend who you're. Love ability which you like your existence and save issues beneficial, the guy who you will fall in love with will see that high quality in you and it will save you alot of soreness.
2016-10-01 08:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by clawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋