okay, so, here's the thing. I've known my girlfriend for pretty much my entire life. we're also bestfriends. I love her more than anything, and everything. but.. my mother didn't actually know that I'm gay. and well, she saw us togeather, holding hands, which I don't think is a very big deal. but anyway, being that she's completely against homosexuality, she now won't let me see, or talk to her. Not to mention, she's forcing me to go to a phychologyst, to try and "cure" it. But, trying to cure gayness, and my love for her, is like trying to change your eye colour. you can wear contacts, and hide it, but it'll always be the same..
mom has also always told me that it's "wrong" to be gay, throughout my life. and I was totally freaked out when I realized I was, because she made it sound like I was going to hell or something. but, I love her. I can't change that.
What should I do? keep going to the phychologyst? I need some sort of advice..
2007-03-22 08:57:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if it makes any difference, I'm 17.
2007-03-22 11:48:11 · update #1
tell your Mom and the shrink what you just wrote to us "like changing the color of your eyes" and hope they see the light!
2007-03-22 09:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by BANANA 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should have mentioned how old you are... it would help out a little bit. Anyway- I guess age doesnt really matter, but I think you should follow your own heart and do whatever you think is right. Dont let you mother or anybody else try to change who you are. If you are gay and she truly loves you- she will allow you to be gay and not ask any questions. Dont try to change who you are for anybody else. You can go to a phychologyst if thats what you want to do, but like you said, its not going to change your being gay if you truly are. Good luck!
2007-03-22 09:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by ItalianPrincess 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most likely the psychologist is trying to determine whether you are actually a lesbian or not. If you are he/she will probably not try to cure you - if they are legit. Hearing it from someone else will probably enable your mother to accept the way you are. It's just a shock for some parents they see the life they pictured for you gone, such as getting married and having kids etc.
2007-03-22 09:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by Limestoner62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that you love your girlfriend so much and for her to accept you for the way you are. I know that your mom loves you, but she doesn't accept the fact that you're in love with your girlfriend. Have faith that you will live a very happy life with your girlfriend. Love is the greatest thing in this world. Love is love no matter if it's between a man and a woman, between 2 men or between 2 women.
2007-03-22 09:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First how old are you? If your over 18 you can date how ever you want to. And if you are under 18 you can still date haw ever you want to. Its your choice if you want to love a women or not. C'mon, its not your mom's choice. In my opinion I wouldn't keep seeing the physiologist. It ain't going to cure anything. Just tell your mom that its none of her buisness who you date of marry for that matter. Its not her body or her life. Tell her to back off. I'm a lesbian. Hope this helps.
2007-03-22 09:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Micky ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
such as you stated, it is purely been 3 days, of direction it is going to sense loopy painful on the 2nd and sophisticated to think of you will ever recover from it. i prefer to advise you spend a while aside from her, as human beings continuously could while they have broken up with somebody, as you will get it firmly on your concepts that she's no longer your companion and heavily isn't there for you perpetually and you will could discover ways to stand on your very own 2 ft lower back. i'd advise that for a good few months you do no longer see her, you do no longer textual content fabric her, you block her out of your social media. refer to her approximately this previously, of direction, so she is conscious which you're no longer doing this in view which you're mad at her yet by way of fact it is going to help you recover from her speedier. carry out with your friends. stay for your self. Do all the failings which you weren't waiting to do in a relationship. comprehend that that's no longer the tip of the international. faster or later you will finally end up questioning of her as a man or woman you care approximately, yet no longer the main severe man or woman on your existence and not somebody you extremely prefer or matter on. This, with a bit of luck, may be the indication which you will initiate the friendship decrease back up lower back. you do no longer could lose her as a chum, you purely could form of shelve that comradeship for a on an analogous time as.
2016-12-15 06:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by sickels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I have found out in my 50 years of life is it is not always a faze and it is not a choice,You can't change who you are.I have berried too many friends who tried to changed to something they were not.Be your self and do what you can to stay in love.Once you are 18 and on your own,you can do as you pleas.
2007-03-22 12:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if the psychologist is worth his/her wages than he/she will tell you there's nothing wrong with being gay/lesbian.
I'd suggest you contact FFLAG UK for help in communicating with your mother. Here's their website for more info!
http://www.fflag.org.uk/
Good luck!
...and remember...there's nothing wrong with you!
2007-03-22 09:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by DEATH 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are hun. Your mother or psychologist cant change that. Talk to mam, in time she 'should' understand and accept you for who you are, not who she wants you to be.
Good luck. xxx
2007-03-22 09:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by creamball 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well fight for youre rights if youre mom is against it shes always going to be so the only thing i could tell you is to fight for youre rights
2007-03-22 09:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by moniquita 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋