My guy broke up with me in January (we still live together) because I betrayed him (not physically) and he feels he can no longer trust me. But then we started "acting" like we were together...I thought we were. Then we got into an arguement one night and he said he can't do this anymore and we are done. But then he is back to being affectionate and we are spending time together again. 2 weeks ago he made this big deal that we have to disassociate ourselves from each other and no more sex ect...but the next day we were back to haveing sex and were inseperable that week, he was being cuddly and affectionate again. Then last weekend he told me that he no longr wants to be in a relationship. That he still loves me and cares about me. He spent the next few nights going out (just to my work) But then Tuesday he was bummed because I wasn't home and he wanted to hang out with me. I have been giving him space, but he keeps coming to me. what does he really want?
2007-03-22 08:55:05 · 21 answers · asked by Ammikins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because he does still care about you, he's having trouble disassociating himself. You still live in the same house! He may truly want to break up, but is having trouble doing so because of your close proximity. He's using you for sex, which is why he keeps coming back. Care more about yourself. One of you needs to move...
2007-03-22 09:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like even he doesn't even know waht he wants. It's harder to figure out because you are still in the same house and you two haven't really broken up. As long as you two are still living together, you're not going to resist the casual sex, although it's in your best interest to not do anything. You guys should definitely split up and move out. Maybe then you two will both figure out what you want. it seems like he still has feelings for you, those just don't go away but since he's unsure, it means he isn't wanting to commit to you.
2007-03-22 16:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is a train-wreck. One of you need to move out and you both need to move on. This constant back-and-forth junk is ridiculous. Sounds like he still loves you but can't trust you....so as soon as there is any bump in the road, he throws in the towel. That is no kind of life. Regardless of what you did, you both deserve more than this.
2007-03-22 16:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake now he's punishing you.
I'm not trying to up set you but did you stop to think there may be someone else?
sound's like he doesn't know what he wants.
I'm I understanding this ,you broke up but you still live together, you have sex with out it being a relationship he keep bouncing back and forth? ( boody call comes to mind)
2007-03-22 16:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not confused about how he fells about you, you are his on call sex girl. He will end the relationship as soon as you stop having sex with him. He is using you for sex and nothing else. If your happy to be his sex on tap then leave things the way thay are.
If you don't want to be treated like his ex slave one of you has to move out and end the relationship for good.
2007-03-22 16:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing with you like a yo-yo. Pull you in for some fun and sex then cast you back out so he can have his single life. If you're looking for commitment from him don't hold your breath. When it comes to love its actions and words together. He's a player who enjoys his head games.
2007-03-22 16:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's high time you stop worring about what HE wants and start doing things for YOU! What he is doing is not healthy nor fair and the only person that can put a stop to it is YOU. Sweetie pie life is too short to let someone put you on the bottom of their personal yo-yo and tug you back and forth to their liking, cut yourself loose and live for you!
2007-03-22 16:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by WOW U all make me feel normal! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like both of you are being unrealistic by continuing to share the same household. What do you expect? Not only is he confused but you are too and it's because you are both still in the same house. Why?
2007-03-22 16:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you staying with him? He's nothing but an emotional train wreck for you. Of course he loves you and cares for you because he knows what the prize is if he plays mind games with you.
Time to pack your bags honey, this is not the man for you.
2007-03-22 16:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't even read you entry but to men action is everything, but women have a hard time seeing that. Women would rather have words, than actions. I am 42 and I still dont get it.
Men = action
Women = words
= why some people go gay= its easier
See the equation
2007-03-22 18:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by keep 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋