are you divorced?if so...?

Question

would you suggest singles to marry someone?why?what did you think about your mate before and after marriage?

Answer 1

I was married to a women who cheated upon me. She had the idea that many do today. That being that morals are all up to what you like or want. She also worried more about what she wanted then she did anyone else, her commitments, honoring her promises, etc.

If a person can do without the sex or fight the urges, then they are better off single and have fewer issues to deal with, at least in many respects.

If one wants to marry, it is important that they realize and are fully prepared to live up to the obligations they submit themselves too. It is important that if you are going to marry, you realize the fantasy or snow white stuff is make believe and thats all it is. Your life is not likely to follow that snow white model.

Many today get married, not liking many things about the other person, yet thinking they can change the other person or overlook things or so forth. Never a good idea, for the other person probably is as slow to change as you are. If you know they drink to much or like to fight and you still marry them, dont be a whiner and come around later screaming about them being a drunk or someone who smacks you about. For in a way, you knew what you were getting and joined up on your own accord.

Many are scared. They marry a person for they fear that they will never get someone else. They never realize that there is USUALLY someone else on down the road. There is no reason to settle. If you do settle, you are still obligated to the promises you make in a marriage.

When a person gets married, they need to realize that they have taken on a lifelong commitment and that the mate has a right to hold them to it and expect them to honor it. This is a reason that it is so important to marry a person with the same morals and values.

Lastly, remember: You cannot make another person do anything. They will do what they like or what they think will suit them best. So this is another reason to make sure you like, appreciate, respect the person you are going to marry.

Answer 2

Marriage can be great with the right person. I got married because I was pregnant not a good reason but I did it. I stayed married for 7 years and I did love him.
He cheated and ruined all the good I used to think of him.
Now I still have to see him because he has the kids on the weekends but as far a feelings for him go... I can say I hate the man.

Answer 3

I wouldn't suggest they marry my ex :) But I've since remarried and am very happy. If it's right for you, then marry. Some people are great being single and don't feel they need a partner, others do. I personally want to share my life with someone - all the ups and downs and happiness and sadness involved.
And lastly...I try not to think about my ex anymore :)

Answer 4

I'm divorced twice, unfortunately. My first husband (loved him now I feel sorry for him) was emotionally and verbally abusive to me and our children. My second husband was the complete OPPOSITE of my first husband, which was part of the problem. I am now with a wonderful man and we plan to marry in the fall so...Yes, I would tell them to marry again, but I would temper it with TAKE YOUR TIME. Get comfortable with the "new you". Get your life settled into a normal pace again, and don't focus so much on HAVING to have someone like that in your life. My second marriage came within 2yrs of my divorce and I regret it. I thought it would work because he wasn't like my first husband. Be sure of who you are really looking for, take inventory of your life and what someone else can add to it, and seriously, when they tell you that you should avoid any new serious relationship for 6 months for every 3 yrs you were married (or something like that) listen!!! Know yourself completely first, before you try and add someone new to your life after a divorce. My fiance (yes I am doing this again) "played the field" for two years and then took four years totally away from women finding out who he was, after four years, he prayed for a good woman on his birthday...a week later he met me!!! We've been together, in a healthy relationship for 2.5 years. Taking time for yourself works! There is NOTHING wrong with a sex buddy, as long as you can keep the emotional connection out of if.

If you have children, KEEP THEM UNINVOLVED in your relationships until you know you are with a man/woman that will be around for a while. They don't need those emotional ups and downs and they don't need to see mom/dad in "flings". They figure that all out later!

Answer 5

was divorced after 26 years now remarried
Marriage is not for every one I do not recomend it.
its a personal choise
Before marriage I thought my mate and I were soul mates, and I would have died for him
as the end nearned I loved him with all I had but I could not handle the drinking, or the verbal abuse... If he would have stopped drinking
I may have still been married to him. as I said he was my soul mate...................... Loved him to peices, he was a awesome husband but the drinking took him over he retired from the Army. It hurt something aweful to leave but I could not stand and allow my son to be distroyed from my husbands ignorance

Answer 6

Don't listen to that ***** bride to b, she's a hoe. I truly feel sorry for any fool that gets mixed up with that whack job. Anyway, sure, why shouldn't you get married again. no reason the second time around wont work, just learn from past mistakes and be careful, enjoy yourself.

Answer 7

I'm not against marriage. If both people are equally interested in marriage, can and have had talks about important things:
money, including joint/separate accounts
where to live - city, country, relocation possibilities down the road, rent, buy...
children? how many? will you both work afterward?
and many others, they should go for it.
It's all about respect. Respect yourself, respect each other's privacy, respect the odd and endearing qualities.

Answer 8

my mate was a find woman. I screwed it up but learned from the situation and have been through therapy and am a better man for it.. she lost a good thing. but maybe the next one will appreciate me more..

Answer 9

I'm married and want to cheat. You're never happy married, or not, so do what you want. Use protection and have fun, you live once.

Answer 10

Yes and remarried (happily this time). Before - love and lust. After- hate and lust (I am a man you know).