2007-03-22 08:52:39 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
even sex is not cheating!
why are u holdng yourself and him back!
2007-03-22 09:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by i am 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tough call--I'd have to say that it depends on the nature of the conversations.
For example, when my husband was in college, he had to work on projects with classmates, some of whom were women, and this required a deal of interaction with them--sometimes online. That's a perfectly legitimate thing.
However, if your husband is having cyber sex, that's another thing entirely. He might not be unfaithful physically, but he's sure being that way mentally. In my humble opinion, I feel that once he's unfaithful mentally, the physical infidelity is no more than a matter of time.
The best advice I can give you is to talk with your husband about this. Find out why he's spending time talking with women online rather than talking with you. It could be, as I mentioned, something totally innocent, in which case you can set your mind at ease. If not, then the two of you need to explore what might be lacking in your relationship and get help to get things back on track.
Blessings to you!
2007-03-22 09:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by Chrispy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on what he is talking to them about.. and also, whether or not they know he is married.
I see it this way, if your husband is chatting with women.. and they know he is married, and he often talks about you, then there is really nothing to worry about. But, if the females have no idea you even exist.. then chances are, your husband has been misleading them.. whether it be for fun or otherwise.
One way you can find out if they know about you, is just to casually talk to your husband about his "friends" and say that you would like to talk to them sometime too.. because you want to know his friends so that you can be friends as well. If he seems perfectly fine with that, then chances are nothing is going on.. but if he gets all weird about it, then you may very well have a problem that needs to be dealt with.. fast.
Just talk to your husband, and see what's really going on. Try not to accuse him of anything though, cause you never know.. it may be all innocent and nothing more. Just talk to him, and I'm sure everything will be fine.
And remember.. if you just aren't comfortable with his new "friends" online, then tell him. And if he continues to chat with them.. that is very disrespectful of him. It doesn't matter what anyone else says.. if it bothers you, then it's not okay.
I hope everything works out for the best.
2007-03-22 09:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be close. It depends if it goes past just chatting to women on line. As an example, back in the spring of 1994 I met a woman on line. She was married. I'd also met her husband. She and I chatted, and then a few days later started to "hot chat" (as it was called then). We both decided that this wasn't a smart thing to do, so we stopped.
2007-03-22 09:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no, because it would be just like talking in the street or in a bar.
Id keep an eye on the type of convo and the chat rooms though!
Also the fact that you are asking raises doubt in my mind, just let him know how you feel about it before it gets out of hand!
Also you could try similar chat rooms and talk to men to see the type of conversation that goes on, this way you can make a sound judgement yourself, and to see if your comfortable with it.
In addition to this you will have some ammo when you undoubtable do confront him!
2007-03-22 08:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has female friends that he had prior to me that he writes emails and calls periodically. They are just friends, nothing more. I would get jealous if it was a smut thing, you found dirty letters to other women, but people can have friends and it can be platonic. I would inquire in a sweet way, and see what he has to say, you can tell from his face, his tone of voice, his eye contact with you, what the real deal is all about. It is not cheating if it is just friendships, and if that be the case he has nothing to hide.
2007-03-22 09:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~ Yes
~ Yes... I feel the husband IS cheating on you when he talks to a woman 'ON-LINE' on the internet. He's able to pretend to be anyone/anything to someone who doesn't know he's a Christian... married... has children...
~ Yes... he's cheeting if he's making conversation with a woman 'IN-LINE', when you are with him... he should be talking with you... If she asks him a question... it's polite for him to give an answer... or even ask for your opinion.
~ Why invite trouble into your marriage by doing anything that would take away from the love you have for the bride of your dreams... that's why you married her... because you love her.
2007-03-22 09:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by James N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to cheating, there are different forms of cheating. Cheating is not just physical but it also emotional. If your husband is investing emotion into these women he is chatting to then yes he is cheating. I would suggest you sit with him and just observe what kind of interaction he is having with these women.
2007-03-23 22:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it all depends on how it makes you feel... but personally yes I'd consider it cheating. He's getting pleasure from real women out there instead of from you. It's one thing to look at paper women or pixel women or even real women.. its another when guys actually do something about it like talk to them or touch them. I mean we're all guilty of staring... its unevitable! But he's actually doing something about it. Would you not consider it cheating if your guy was to walk up to some woman and 'flirt' with her?
2007-03-22 09:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by itsSCIENCE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the worst kind of cheating!! They are sharing intimate details about life and love with a stranger. Its not usually a one time thing either, they go back. Communication is a big deal in a marriage. If he has to share thoughts and small talk with a stranger, you two may need to think about counseling!
2007-03-22 09:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by nicholettejohnson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it just women or just ppl in general because it could just be ppl to talk to but if I were you Id check on what he is saying to these women and if its something that you arnt comfortable with then put a stop to it and tell him would he like it if you did that too if the answer is no then he will have to understand the reasoning of wanting him to stop.
2007-03-22 09:00:16 · answer #11 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋