Hi, im 23 and currently in a relationship with a lovely man. I have a problem though, since i was about 13ish iv found girls attractive, even fantasised bout being with one. My feelings have grew stronger and stronger over the years and i found my self going home with a beautifull woman after a crazy night out. The sex was amazing, i have never felt so good. I want to see her again but i feel so bad for my b/f. What can i do, finish with my b/f to be with this girl? Or stay? PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-03-22 08:42:11 · 22 answers · asked by creamball 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Like most people, you are confused about your sexual orientation? How typical. Your feelings are perfectly normal. If you like both sides of the candy, then allow yourself the chance to lick both sides. If your B/F has a problem with it, then it is just that. His problem. It is your life! Live it!!! Do everything you ever want to do, and when you are in the twilight of your life you will be able to look back on it and smile because you did all those things that interested you.
It is your life, after all. Only YOU can make yourself feel bad for doing, or not doing something. Also you are not alone in how you feel. JUST BE!!!! And please don't tie your sence of self worth to someone elses opinion of you.
2007-03-22 08:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by squirephlem 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 06:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by sickels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your bisexual mate.
A true gay man only finds men sexually attractive.
Normally gay men will say that the thought of a naked womans body makes them feel physcially sick.
A Bisexual man can have sex with both men and women and enjoy this.
If you enjoy sex with both sexes i would say your bisexual mate. Does this girl know about your boyfriend? If she doesn't she may not want to know you. But in her best interest i would say be honest with her and tell her you hae a boyfriend. Dont however leave your boyfriend in the dark. Its not nice to be on the recieving end. Do you love him?
I would suggest you are honest with him about your feelings for women. Dont keep secrets as they always catch up with you at somepoint when you least exspect it.
I think ONLY YOU can decide who to finish it with. Him or Her? It something only you can decide and no one from on here. Its your life so do what makes you happy just dont lead anyone on in the dark. Be open.
Good luck
2007-03-22 12:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mystic Magic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to see her because you are thinking of persuing a relationship then do the right thing and end it with your boyfriend.
You shouldn't have cheated on your boyfriend but I guess you don't need anyone to tell you that.
Sounds like you reallly like this girl and you want to see where it leads.
Lots of women fantasise about having sex with other women, it's normal and doesn't make them lesbians.
Whatever you do, good luck and I hope you can figure this out without anyone getting seriously hurt.
2007-03-23 00:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rainbow-Taster 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if u think u are gonna keep doing this then yeah, end it with him. Cuz, u rather end it with him, then keep going behind his back and cheating on him. Then when u do go with that girl, u wont feel like ur cheating on him, cuz ur not with him anymore. Tell him u want him to go with a girl, who would want him only and no one else, so it could sound a lil better!
Good luck
2007-03-23 08:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by hot_rican_4_ju 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question and the explanation below it have nothing to do with each other, so I'll deal with them separately.
Answer to your question: if you enjoy sex with both men and women, then you are bisexual.
Answer to the other stuff you said: the long and the short of it is that you were unfaithful to your boyfriend, just as much as if you had been with another man.
2007-03-23 01:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Flup 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be a good thing to really explore your gay side for a few years and decide later if the lifestyle is for you.
I will hurt your b/f, but he will move on himself.
You have all to gain in your quest of discovery. Enjoy.
2007-03-23 03:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by dtedad-50 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should finish your boyfriend because you will only hurt him more in the long run /it sounds like you like women's more then men so you will grow to hate him if you stay with him because you blame him for you not going with your feelings /or you cloud talk to him about it and see want happens but at the end of the Day you got to try figure out witch you like better men/ women
2007-03-22 08:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your boyfriend about your one night stand and about your feelings for women. If he truly is"lovely" this is something the 2 of you can work through together even if it means you end up just being friends.
2007-03-22 08:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by Bethe W 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Finish with him! It will only happen again. I've been in exactly the same situation,was with a nice guy but I knew deep down something was 'wrong',I knew from being young i was attracted to women,and I was miserable until I finally accepted my sexuality. He deserves to be allowed to find someone that will love him and be sexually attracted to him.
You on the otherhand deserve sexual satisfaction and to be true to yourself.
2007-03-22 08:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋