Should I tell my friend how I feel about her?

Question

I met my friend 2 yrs ago and I really want to tell her the truth that I liked her. I feel that I should let her know about how I've been feeling about her. I just wanted to get it off my chest because she wants nothing but the truth. I want to be friends but let her know how I felt about her. I don't want to ruin our friendship over what I've been feeling. Please any reply.

Should I call her or tell her in person?

Answer 1

If you are as close as you say you are chance are she feels the same way.

Most women even in this day and age like the guy to make the first move.

Just speak to her openly and honestly.

Let her know that regardless how she feels, you will remain friends.
Let her know how good it feels when she is around, how you enjoy her company and your talks together.
Sometimes young boys are so so shy and come across as immature and only after sex.
If this is not so let her know, let her know that your friendship is safe.
She has relied on you as a friend for 2 years, losing a friend regardless of the reason can be hard.
So assure her this is not the case.

Answer 2

I've been in this situation myself. In my case, I told my friend how I felt...but I made the mistake of telling her I "used" to have feelings for her even though I did at the current time. I was vague, she didn't really understand what I was getting at, and she eventually straight up ask what I wanted (which I never answered without beating around the bush).

In any case, I knew my friend was accepting of same-sex crushes. She had other gay or bi friends so I wasn't taking a huge risk. I also had the feeling we would still be friends if I told her (which was true). I have to admit, some things did get weird. She seemed more uncomfortable hugging me than usual and sometimes it seemed like she was trying to make me jealous by rubbing in her experiences. But it also seemed like she was unsure of her own feelings towards me and she would sometimes allude to more-than-friends things.

Anyway, I guess my question to you is: How does your friend feel about same-sex crushes and relationships? If she's cool with it, she'll probably be flattered. Your friendship might get a little uncomfortable at first, but it may even get deeper because you told her your true feelings.

You have to be really close to your friend in order to do this. I think it's good that you waited two years into your friendship to tell her, even though she wants you to be honest. I've kept crushes on my friends to myself in the past because I didn't think I'd be taken seriously or I didn't know them well enough to gauge their reaction to such a confession. It seems like you have come to the point where you're ready to tell her!

Also, don't assume she doesn't have the same feelings for you, but don't assume she does either. Just tell her how you feel and ask how she feels about it. Don't say "I know you don't feel the same way, but..." Leave it open-ended. Maybe she never thought about it but now that you mention it, it's on the table. Give her some time to digest what you're saying and don't panic.

I hope it works out for you! :]

Answer 3

If she is a true friend, she won't care if you 'like' her. My friend did the same thing to me, and that just made us closer. I still love her to death, and she's still my best friend. I think you should tell her. It'll make you feel alot better to get that weight off of you. Hope it all works out. :)

Answer 4

YES