Sex and men? read and you'll understand?

Question

i was talking to this guy, we were geting a long and suddenly he asks "do you put out?". i was like does that matter? he said that it's important to have sex before establishing the gf/bf officiality so you know what you're geting yourself into...i asked 10 guys and 8 out them agreed. so if i get this for me to get a bf i have to put out??? i dont get that mentality...like what's your position, can you explain this to me plz cause i dont get it!!

to Kyle, I'm 23 years old and i have had good relationships without putting out first but of course i wasnt in the United States when i was in those relationship. so my age has nothing to do with it.

Answer 1

NO YOU DONT HAVE TO GIVE OR PUT OUT...IF THT IS THE ONLY REASON THEY WANT TO BE WITH YOU, MOVE ON, THERE ARE GUYS OUT THERE THAT WILL WNT YOU F0R JUST BEING YOU, NOT FOR SEX

Answer 2

If he asked that directly, he is pretty young or pretty dumb. (A girl puts out when a guy makes her want to--doesn't matter if she's a virgin or a sluut).

The next time a guy asks you that, give him a smart assed answer! Imply (but don't say) that you do or would put out, but not for him. One favorite from an old movie was "Can you hammer a railroad spike through a board with you penis?" If he doesn't answer quick enough, he isn't hard enough. You could say, "I only fcck nice guys--you'll have to try her, she likes guys like you." (then point at someone). When he tries to convince you he's nice, you can do whatever you want--blow him off, make him your pet, or let him have a date.

Just put yourself in control of the situation so you don't get played. Answering his jerky questions for real lets him control you to a degree, and he might talk you into something you don't want to do. Getting mad doesn't help either.

Answer 3

ok, lets be real. Most guys think a girlfriend is a source of sex. Relationships can be worked on depending. Most women think of a relationship as companionship and trust, the sex is part of that. Well guess what, one of you is going to have to give in. Either he's going to wait on you, or your going to give out sooner. But those motives will not change in american culture. If you dont understand, maybe your too young for a boyfriend right now. And honestly if your looking for a good companion, find the local nerd, geek, or whatever you consider socially inadaquate and be his friend. He'll be 100x less likely to try to get in your pants. And you can have your relationship you want. But as long as you strive for the "good looking" "hot" "cool" guy, your putting yourself in that position again. In this life you will NEVER get what you want without giving up 2 things you have already.

Answer 4

most men don't see sex as a big deal. It's like test-driving a car for them/us. You don't want to suddenly find out after a long commitment that you aren't going to be happy. Then again, it could just be him trying to sleep with you without putting any time into a relationship. If this makes you uncomfortable, then don't "put out". Most guys will wait if they feel you are worth it.

Answer 5

Every man that said it was important to establish that beforehand was a pig. Plain and simple. There are nice men out there that truly want a loving relationship and sex comes after that true love is found. Don't settle for anything less-you deserve the best!!!

Answer 6

Welcome to today's values. I believe its time to turn the clock back. If you go along with the thought of the men you have interviewed, then you promote STD's. You must remember that HIV virus has a two year gestation period. That means that every time you have sex, you must start a new HIV watch. get checked 3 times a year for HIV virus. Of course if you are positive your partner has only been with you then have at it. I highly doubt you can gaurentee that if you are not married and these days that isn't even true. Also, condoms do not stop the HIV virus. Remember HIV is the preclude to AIDS and a terrible death. The stadard cracks in condoms are to large to stop HIV. They stop sperm but not the HIV virus its to small. You want some advice? All the guys that want sex first are pretty shallow for a relationship.

Answer 7

That is so gross i can't even begin to untangle theri thought process.

First don't they realize that ( hypothetically) if you DID put out, then that would make you easy, so who's to say you would be sleeping around on him? Did he ever think of that,
oh th is is men we're talking about.



LET THE BOY BASHING BEGIN



Not all me are like that, you must have gotten a lot of horn dogs who don't respect themselves.

Look for a guy that does respect himself, becasue he will respect you. I bet those were the types of boys beleive a womens place is in the kitchen.

Answer 8

i think that if a guy says that he's not really interested in the bf/gf aspect of a relationship.
granted i haven't dated for a while, but i don't think things have changed that much.
keep looking. there are nice guys out there.
not that there's anything wrong with sex...

Answer 9

Wow, first you "had to" have sex before you got married to know you're "getting into", now it's before becoming boyfriend/girlfriend? Where will this end. I think pre-marital sex is a mistake (and note: I waited until after I was married), pre-boyfriend/girlfriend sex is arguably an even bigger one.

Answer 10

those are only immature guys or guys that only want sex. They cant tell you that they only want sex, so they say that they have to do it in order to see if they can be your bf. If someone is really interested in you, he will not ask for sex. He will court you, then become your bf, and then, if it's ok with you, have sex.