How do you feel about people who imply that a woman who got pregnant....?

Question

should "suffer the consequences" of having a baby and raising it when asked about their opinions on abortion. Is that why we have so many rotten people in the world today, because their mothers were forced to raise them as punishment for some perceived "sin?"

They always add that the baby should not be made to suffer for the "sins" of the parents, what better way to make a child suffer than to force them to be raised by people who resent their very existence?

Answer 1

My favourite pro-lifers are always the ones who refer to a child as a consequence.
I wouldn't go so far as to blame society for it, though.
And any woman who refers to an abortion as the "easy way out" has CLEARLY never had one.
And adoption is not always the best alternative for people either: not that many people actually DO adopt, and there are some who adopt and do it just for the money from the state. Adoptive parents are not necessarily better parents, people. And how would you like to one day find out your parents are not your parents?
I was lucky enough to be born into a good family and have been educated about sex and birth control. Not everyone is that lucky!
Lastly, society puts SO MUCH FREAKING pressure on girls to have sex, be sexy, act sexually...and then the same society condemns them for having the option of having an abortion when their horny sons get them pregnant. Hmph!

Answer 2

Although abortion is not the only option to an unexpected child, it is however sometimes the best result. Adoption seems to be the fair and most pretty way out. However, still it could be and emotional toll on the child when he or she gets older only to find out that his or her mother did not want him or her. One thing is to do such abortion knowing of potential life, however the baby hasn;t reach life yet. It is as simple as someone planting seed for a tree to grow and someone steps on the root. What makes the tree less important:it's not human right. Wrong everything has life. What makes people so different. I am not saying that I agree with abortion however, sometimes it maybe the best resort. Some people are just not people parents and should not have children and yes I do agree in such circumstances they should take precautions, however, mistakes happen.
So if a mother is willing to have a child and put him or her up for adoption I hope she is willing in the future to stand before her child and explain why. Many people cannot accept the fact that their mother and father did not want them and I don't think You would take it as lightly either had Your parents given you up for adoption. If a mother, and in any case it is her choice, is willing to have an abortion because she cannot stand the rain later, and have a good reason for doing so, then I do not think she should be judged for doing what she thinks is safe for both her and her child.

Answer 3

Well for the girl who said about the young girl if she is old enough to have sex she should be forced into raising the child...yeah thats the way to go...let the mother be an immature child themselves trying to take care of an infant and in most cases the father won't be around and if she tries to do it on her own she only ends up resenting the child and abuses or the grandparents have to step in and take care of the child.

Now that I said that.

My father was adopted. My grandparents actually adopted 5 children total. My grandfather is a very wealthy man and my grandparents had the means to support them. My grandmother stayed at home and provided a pretty normal childhood.

My aunt had one biological child and couldnt have anymore so she adopted 2.

I have also thought of adopting in the future. It truly is a great way to help out lives. But theres always another side.

I want to commend the people who are standing up and not just saying its young slutty girls.

My fathers real mother was about 17 when she had her first child. She raised her. She was 37 I believe when she had my father. She gave him up and then took him back and tried raising him again and then realized she just couldnt do it. She said she was too old to start all over again since she had a 20 year old already.

People like that do take the alternative route and have an abortion.

I think it would be sad situation if I was walking my dog and a man raped me and I got pregnant and I was forced into having a child that I didn't want because everytime that baby kicked or cried I would think of that horrendous event. Not saying I would abort but just saying there are situations.

A couple who are friends of mine were married and tried and finally got pregnant. They did the test to see if the child would have down syndrome. Well it came back positive. Well it was a rare case of downs that they said the child would be in a vegtable state. They made a tough decision and aborted it. They ended up having another baby healthy as can be, but theres no way anyone could judge them.

I took one friend 2 times to get an abortion and know fullheartedly it was the right thing for her to do. She was messed up with an abusive drug dealing guy and theres no way she could have raised that child right. The first time she told me the 2nd time she called me at 3am because someone else bailed on taking her. She was very embarrassed. She used birth control.

You don't know whats going to happen but I tell you what there are tons of teenage girls who really do "throw" their babies away in garbages because they are afraid of someone finding out they were pregnant. Nobody taught them about abortion, adoption, nothing.

Thats the problem everyone is so clueless.

How can we judge someone when we havent been in their shoes...you can critisize all you want but another friend of mine who was Ms Goody told me she had had one when her and her bf of many years were falling apart.

Theres no way to tell. Now with that one friend who had 2 no I don't condone that but she is now married and settled and I know she did the best thing otherwise she would have ended up living a terrible drug life.

So please dont judge and lets educate

Answer 4

I see it both ways. My parents were married but really young my dad was gone alot for work and my mom fooled around and got pregnant with me. She wanted to have an abortion to protect her marriage but went to the clinic too late and was too far along to have a legal one. So she had me and then left me with me with my daddy(man she was married to) when I was 6 months old . He raised me alone and never bad mouthed her or prevented me from seeing her but she was not interested. I now have two kids with I would die for. I am glad my mom had me but if a kid had noone to love them it would be hard to cope in foster care. I still have abandonment issues and I knew where my parents were. Forcing a woman to have a baby she did not want can hurt a child much more than not living farther than being a fetus. Then again if she chose to have the baby and put it up for adoption she should write the baby a letter as to why she did not keep that child. For years I wondered why my mom didnt love me ( I met her at 13 and she just said I didnt want to be tied down I was young and wanted to be free)

Answer 5

First of all, to all the people who are assuming abortions only happen because the woman was not careful...

There are plenty of women who use birth control and still get pregnant. There are plenty of MARRIED women who use birth control, get pregnant, and decide that they need to have an abortion. Don't label them all as teenage whores using abortion as a birth control method. In fact, plenty of nice teen girls get pressured into having sex with boyfriends who say they are in love, and accidents happen. (Especially with abstinence-only education!)

Abortion isn't right for everyone. Adoption isn't right for everyone. Raising the child isn't right for everyone. With each person comes a unique circumstance and decision. Just because you feel one way, doesn't mean that everyone else does. You can't know all the facts and feelings, so don't presume that you do.

Answer 6

I don't think a woman should have to raise a child if she doesn't want to, it wouldn't be good for the baby. However I think once she creates a child she has the duty as a mother to make sure that baby is born healthy, and find the baby a loving couple who would raise him/her. If she's not willing to do these things then she has the choice of either not having sex, or using birth control.

Answer 7

Good point. My sister-in-law was born with many birth defects. My Grandmother-In-Law told my Mother-In-Law it was God punishing her form something bad she had done previously. How nice is that? I think this is the same mentality. I know there are a lot of folks who want to adopt, but I don't think there are enough to take care of all the babies that would have been born if it hadn't been for abortion.

Answer 8

Not everyone has proper education on getting pregnant and they should not have to "suffer the consequences". Just like the morons that say that stuff, they dont have proper education in some other "normal" areas!

Answer 9

I dont support abortion but I think adoption is a great idea. That way the baby still gets a chance at life and gets a (usually) great set of parents.

Answer 10

I feel thats a good reason to have an abortion