My sons dad lives with a woman16 years older than him (same age as his mother btw). She is really jealous of me b/c she knew has feelings for me when she got him. Anyway this is what went yeterday.
My sons dad called & I always pickup(no one else does) and he asked waht we are doing and I talked brielfy about it and passed the phone to my son. His gf was there and she don't like us to be pleasant so she picks up the phone and starts pressing buttons while my son is talking to him, NOT me. I can hear the tones b/c I am sitting next to him and Ithought it was my mom dialing but it wasn't and It wasn't the dad either. She's also picked up the phone before on us but he onlyasked how I'm doing and she flies off the handle.
My thing is I don't care what they do as long as it does not affect my son but that right there ticked me off and it needs to stop. That was very immature and I am putting a restriction on when he can call our son. Would you do the same or what would you do?
2007-03-22 08:20:23 · 8 answers · asked by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We also don't live in the same state, he is on probation, and has not paid child support yet.
2007-03-22 08:21:05 · update #1
The child support thing we are going through it now.
2007-03-22 08:28:08 · update #2
geez how childish, i can t believe she does that., cant believe he would let her get away with doing that. u should talk to the father bout that. id get that straightened out fast, yea id tell him not to call if he cant control that crap, gee how immature ne way thats my 2 cents
2007-03-22 08:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am curious to know how old is the child, but anyway, I don't think that you should put a restriction on when the father should call! What I do think is that your son's father should be man enough to tell his sicko OLD girlfriend to back off, he is the one that needs to set the restrictions when he is attempting to communicate with his child. You as the mother need to let him know that if he cannot control his pitbull (girlfriend) that you won't be allowing your son to go through the stress of trying to have a conversation with him. Talk this out with your ex first before rushing to restrict him from communication with his child. At least he is one of those fathers who is trying to keep the lines of communication open with their kid because in the end it's your son who will suffer and blame you for not allowing his dad to speak with him, so flip the script and have your son see where you are trying but it's his father who has no backbone and cannot control the OLD BAG OF PRUNES :) Good luck .
2007-03-22 08:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by spoiltrini 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very inmature, and I feel sorry for your son. Yes you are right to put restrictions on the calls, because you live out of state, she should at least let him have a pleasant conversation on the phone with his father. I would also tell the father that he needs to tell her to get a grip or they aren't going to be able to talk at all. You are a good mother to let him have correspondence with his son even though he doesn't pay child support, most people (even though it's not right) wouldn't do that. Sounds like your ex just needed a mom for a partner, because he doesn't want to take care of himself. Good luck and just remember to not sink to her level. A father's relationship with a son is very important.
2007-03-22 09:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried about your son, I wouldn't put a restriction on his calls to his dad. Just explain to the son maybe that the woman is somewhat jealous and let that be that. Now the child support is a completely different issue. What's up with that? Call your local child support enforcement and get that settled!
2007-03-22 08:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by A B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a BITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTCH! I'd just hang up. The next time he calls, Tell him to call when the woman is not home. Or use some one else phone. That will make for a more pleasant conversation for your son and ex.
Frankly, I think your son is wasting his time trying to have a relationship with a dad who isn't man enough to tell that woman to back off!
2007-03-22 08:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't blame you for putting a restriction on the phone. I would tell him she has to either be out of the house or at least in another room when he calls from now on. She sounds really immature.
2007-03-22 08:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I many times prefer older men, yet got here across countless them that are the two or extra screwed up than their youthful opposite numbers. i'm commencing as much as contemplate whether age determines various something in terms of adulthood.
2016-10-19 08:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by millie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor kid - sounds like he'd be better off without him. what a shame.
2007-03-22 08:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Virgo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋