should i be concerned?

Question

Hi
Im a girl and ive been seeing another girl now for about a month. she is the first girl ive ever been out with, i usually go out with boys, so this is all new for me.
i really really like her and love being around her and keep thinking about her all day,
we've, for want of a better way to put it, 'pleasured' each other a couple of times now and she seems happy enough but i just didnt get anywhere, if you know what i mean.
ive never had sex before, even with a lad so i dont know if that is anything to do with it, but do you think i should be worried that a girl cant do it for me, even though i want to be with her all the time
oh and by the way, im 24yrs old, so consider myself quite mature, im not sum little school girl with a daft crush

Answer 1

If you are 24, then you're old enough to approach her about it. If you're comfortable pleasuring each other, then just say you have a lot of fun doing that, but tell her you fantasize about what you really want... go into detail, make it hot, and I'm sure she'll give you what you want. Good luck.

Answer 2

Perhaps you're answering your own question?
It sounds like you're not sure about your sexuality or, perhaps more likely, you just aren't sure how to handle the idea that you maybe a lesbian or at least bi.
Perhaps it's suppressed guilt that's stopping you letting go? Ask yourself some questions: Does it happen if you masturbate? Have you never been with a man because of a lack of confidence or because you've just not felt that way about any men? Think about how you feel in different situations and compare - It may give you some clues about yourself.
You maybe mature in years but from the little you've said it doesn't seem like you're quite there emotionally. That's ok - you're not alone, it's wasn't so long ago you would've been considered the "normal" one.
Don't get hung up about anything. - Whatever your sexuality, you can relax. It's allowed.
If you are fulfilled in a relationship then that's all that matters -don't let anyone tell you differently.
The only thing I would ask is that you consider the feelings of your partner too. It's not fair stringing her along if she's got deep feelings for you - and if she hasn't got them then maybe you should think about whether you're prepared for her to move on some day.
Don't let things just drift on for both your sakes.
The fact that you're asking is a good sign. The www is probably not the best place however - There are just too many weirdos on here.
I know you'll find a way and I wish you all the very best.

Answer 3

I know some women dont like the idea of this but have you ever played with yourself. Finding out what turns you on and what makes you tick is a good idea. Then next time you and this girl get together to can take her hand and show her what you like. Trust me this usually works.

You need to know your own body and what makes you tick before someone else can do it for you.

Have you got any sexual feelings for men? Dont worry if you havent babe, try using sex toys with her. If your abit nervous of an penertration hurting, you can always try it with yourself first and at your own pace. It definatly helps to relax when your with her. Try having some gentle music playing lightly in the background next time, your be suprised how this can help relax you.

Answer 4

Relax, hon....girls very often have to learn how to get there...straight or gay...it takes time to find the path. I suggest that you do it yourself and you may find how to get off that way. ONCE you know where to look, you will be able to do it more and more.....practice makes perfect. It matters not whether it is with a boy or girl, it takes experience for most . Sadly, some women never find it, but it is there. We are all human. Guys seem to find it by accident or word of mouth, but girls seem to be more reserved about these things. Masturbation is probably the quickest route to learning how to find it...do not rely on someone else being magic, for no one knows what works on you as well as you do. Good luck

Answer 5

Have you spoken to your girlfriend? You should talk to her about it. She might have felt the same the first few times, you never know. Everything takes time, if you have never been this close with a girl or even guy then things might not be as easy as you expected. You need to work together on it, try different things until you find something that works for both of you..

Answer 6

Your 24 years old and your still a virgin?!? WOW!!! You don't see that very often these days. Well I would say just take your time with it... maybe you are too tense or nervous while having the relations?!? Try to relax and don't concentrate so much on having an orgasm, just enjoy the moment. I wouldn't be alarmed as MANY woman cannot have one... maybe you need to get some toys involved. You are probably not getting enough stimulation.

Answer 7

you need to talk to her let her know that you are a virgin and how you feel.

I'm also a 24 virgin too good for you i get a lot of stick from guys because i am and always feel like they are pushing me. So if you feel ready and she doesn't feel ready don't push her you will only lose her.

if she feel the same and your comfortable with it then go right a head.

Answer 8

Dont worry take every day at a time and enjoy yourself and go where your heart leads you. Good Luck

Answer 9

Hiya chick, dont worry to much as its all still new. Talk to her, get her to try new things. Tell her what you like, where 'it feels good'. Try to get to know how eachothers body works. Once you'v done that, you'll be amazed. Good luck hun x

Answer 10

Don't worry yourself! I'm 100% straight but still havn't been fully pleasured by a man! (Don't tell my boyfriend, hahaha)... Good luck, I'm sure it'll happen one day!