We are seperating and it is so hard for us, how can i stop callin him
2007-03-22 08:18:09 · 9 answers · asked by Sad Eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to be strong and not pick up the phone.
It's hard as hell, but it'll be harder in the long run if you don't cut off ties for a little while.
2007-03-22 08:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by trailangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard because I am going thru the same thing. It is very difficult to me since we have so many years in our marriage. The separation is trial and this is time for them to have time alone and see what their life would be without us - We have to THINK they will be miserable without us and realize all we do and how good we are for them.
Keeping busy is the key - it is very hard for me also. I keep my mind on my children and try my best to think it is his loss - I am a great person.
Best of luck
2007-03-22 15:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to work things out? Decide amongst yourselves a certain time and day( or days) for whatever you need to talk about. Find a hobby or something to keep you busy, maybe even a 2nd job. If you have a certain time set aside to talk maybe it would discourage you from calling everytime you felt like it. Maybe spend time with friends, good luck.
2007-03-22 15:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is divorce him. But why don't you ask him what kind of space he wants? What exactly are you doing that he doesn't want you to do? If he just wants to go play golf or something once a week, that is one thing, but if he wants to go out with his friends all of the time, and not be active in your marriage--then you need counseling. Ask him just how much space he needs!
2007-03-22 15:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Audrey C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it hard for "us" if he wants you to stop calling him. That usually means its pretty easy for HIM and just hard for you. I've been through this before, and the only thing that worked for me was to go out with my friends and make them hide my cell phone from me while I was gone. If you are busy being out, then you arent calling him. Have strength sweets... Its never easy, but time will make it better.
2007-03-22 15:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your going to lose him that way...let him call you just to see how long it takes... If toooo long find a new hubby that doesn't need space from the one he loves
2007-03-22 15:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occupy your time!! Start doing things you never got to do because you were married. Join a gym! Start hanging with your girls. Their's plenty to do.
2007-03-22 15:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you want to call him, write a note to yourself remind yourself not to call him. And then throw it away. Your trashcan might get full though.
2007-03-22 15:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by A B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on with your life .
2007-03-26 15:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋