After a divorce and some time has past. Is it ever Ok to just call up one day and say I miss you and I still love you? Especially if you feel there is a chance that they may still love you but are being stuborn due to pride, anger and pain from the breakup?
2007-03-22 08:16:28 · 13 answers · asked by PuckDog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is everyone here so jaded? Arent the best happy endings when 2 people who loved each other figure out how to make it work?
2007-03-22 08:17:48 · update #1
Why would it not be OK ? If it's how you feel, it's how you feel. The one thing no one can say your wrong about is your feelings, feelings do not require justification. Do some research on How many people re marry a previous spouse, it happens. Good luck , if its meant to be , its meant to be, if not , it will never be.
2007-03-22 08:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by EGOman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there's nothing wrong with it. So many times I wanted to call my ex (well where still married but separated, now 7months) anyways I also wanted to tell him I loved him and miss him too. But you have to give it time. If he is still mad or to stubborn he might just say something to you that's going to be real hurt full. Just the other day was the first time I saw my ex after 7months and we still love one other and One day we will be back together but first we need to work out the pain, and anger. If I was you I would start first to be a friend to him and save all the love and missing him later. Let him say it to you first, maybe, it depends on the saturation between you two. But give it time and start off just as a friend. Ask him out for coffee or a beer or whatever he likes to do. Almost like a date. And don't break up hard times or what went wrong between you two, leave that alone and you will see how far that will get you it will feel like a first date. But if you bring up old things you going to find yourself and him arguing. Start off as a friend don't try to be his lover. If there is a chance it will happen. BE FRIENDS FRI-ST. I grantee it will go a long way.
2007-03-22 15:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that as long as neither of you is in a relationship, then go for it. If you don't, you may always wonder if they still have feelings for you, and things may change....they may enter into another relationship and you won't be able to tell them (or at least shouldn't). It may just work out for you two. If you do get back together, make sure to work on whatever it was that caused the divorce. And if they truely don't love you anymore, then you have closure. Good luck.
2007-03-22 18:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Katie R 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is OK to tell your ex you still love them, especially if you do. Even if they don't feel the same, you should. What have you got to lose? Just don't have your expectations set that if you do than you will get back together and live happily ever after (nice if it does) but be prepared for the worst and if it turns out in your favor, than celebrate!
2007-03-22 15:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by sandibum 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It never hurts to do that...unless one of you are in another relationship. If you are both still single...try spending some time together like getting lunch or haveing a drink. Who knows. I wouldn't come right out and say it though.
Good luck.
2007-03-22 15:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ammikins 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
so i have had this very same urge. it has been my experience that it is okay to tell them how u feel but if they have moved on, even if u don't believe it, u must accept it. they may still love u but not be in love with u anymore. protect yourself, tell how u feel but keep your hopes to yourself off the bat
2007-03-22 15:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by green_vette76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i won't just call and say "i love you". from the sounds of it, its been a while since ya'll last talked. i would try and reconnect on a friendship level and take it from there. hold off on the i still love you part until you find out how they feel. but be prepared emotinally if they don't feel the same way.
2007-03-22 15:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by JellyBean Bri 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No its not okay. People need to move on with their lives and what you are talking about is not healthy for either one of you. you may still have feelings but you don't have to act on them.
2007-03-22 15:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you think there is a chance, I don't see why not. Just be prepared in case they don't feel the same.
2007-03-22 15:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda J 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I WOULD ONLY DO IT IF I KNEW FOR SURE THAT THE OTHER PERSON MIGHT HAVE THOSE FEELINGS.
IF I SUSPECTED THAT THEY DID, AND NEITHER ONE OF YOU WERE INVOLVED WITH ANOTHER PERSON, THEN DO IT. WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE?
2007-03-22 15:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋