I dont know if its because of my sexuality, or because of my shyness, but I have SUCH a hard time becoming friends with other guys, and I know i need to because thats the only way im going to meet that one special person! any help or advice? thanks
2007-03-22 08:15:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When I was younger, yes. I was very shy and had a hard time believing anyone would want to talk to me, so when they did, I usually just clammed up. After I got past that, it was fine. As such, I would say it's because you're shy and you need to break out of that. Easier said than done, I know, but start slowly. Go out and meet people. Generally, they'll do most of the talking and you'll just have to respond intermittently.
2007-03-22 11:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by JW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! I have very few male friends... gay or straight. Frankly... I have three male friends who are straight and they are the greatest guys that I could ever want in my life. Especially my friend H... he is just great.
Otherwise though, I have such a group of "girlfriends" that it is ridiculous. Where I live, most straight men are of the misconception that gay men are out to get them into bed or somehow convert them.. and I'm sure you've experienced this.
I'm not a "guys guy" so to speak... as I'm not into sports and I don't do many of the things that are considered to be a male priority. I like shopping, I don't like NASCAR, I like home decorating and remodeling. While I'm not afraid to get out and get my hands dirty... I'm not a "laborer"... and I just find it difficult to forge and maintain a relationship with men.. gay or straight.
2007-03-22 19:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Brandon M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. I am outgoing and happy and talkitive so I have a fine time making new friends.
If youa re shy the best way to keep things going is to become a good question asker and a good listener.
God gave you two ears and one mouth so you can listen twice as much as you can talk.
Get out there and mix it up. Get invited to parties where you will meet even more people, host a party and invite friends and tell them to bring friends!
2007-03-22 08:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I find myself in the exact same boat as you. I'm not necessarily looking for sex partners. I, unlike many gay men I have met, don't believe in casual sex. Therefore, due to shyness, and my sexuality, and the fact that most are just looking for sex I haven't found anyone either.
2007-03-22 08:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by The Eight Ball 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have trouble with some guys, mainly because they tend to think I'm too girly just cuz I'm gay (which everyone who knows me well don't think so, including guys) but otherwise, no, talking to other guys is just as easy as talking to girls. I just don't talk to people I just meet, like, I'm extremely shy around new people because I don't know what they're into... what to talk about... what'll offend them... you know...
2007-03-22 09:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by jedilounge1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was never HARD 4 me 2 make friends.. but i stright so whats the differnets you have low self esteem find it and you will win your true love
2007-03-25 18:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Norweiginwood420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be your problem, but I've known several bisexual and gay men who have trouble being friends with straight men because they're so shallow.
2007-03-22 08:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Joa5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself if they can not accept you for who you are then their not your friends sweetie
2007-03-22 09:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋