Question for mom's out there?

Question

I have a good friend whose oldest son (10) is acting up. Problem is, she is sharing it with the public - ya know airing dirty laundry and such. First off I think the boy is fine - just needs attention. Second I think it's totally wrong for mom to be bad-mouthing her son in front of people (he isn't present). Do you agree? How might I approach this topic with her?

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

If she is your good friend you should be able to tell her straight out... I am your friend and I am here for you when You need me, But I think this situation between you and your son needs to be talked about amongst yourselves or with a professional who will give you advise to how to handle this the correct way. It will only get better if its handled the right way, and get worse by doing nothing but just complaining about it.
good luck

Answer 2

I'm not a Mom but tell your friend to watch that show Super Nanny to get some good parenting advice on kids acting out. Her son either wants more attention and definitely needs some discipline.

Answer 3

I agree with you, she should not label him as a bad kid or anything like that b/c that will only make him feel that she expects that of him and no matter what he does now she has already sabotaged his reputation with her peers....that makes me sad that she would want people to think bad things about her son she should talk to him about why he may be acting out....I would bring it up to her by maybe saying "geeze don't you think that "joey's" problems should be more of a private issue between you and him and maybe just your closest friend.....labeling him just isn't right....you don't want to give people the wrong impression of him"....wow good luck

Answer 4

Back in the 90's I counseled a boy of 11 whose mother would any time she got angry with him either bite her hand or hit herself in the head, one time with a iron skillet, but it esculated to her throwing things at him and calling him foul things. As a minister I am obligated to report suspected child abuse and this was a clear case of it. I reported it and they removed the boy. Sadly at the age of 15 the boy was returned to her and within a year he killed her because of her continued abuse and he is now on death row for murder. I went to see him and he told me that first week he wanted to go back to foster care but that they "the system" refused. Instead it got worse again and he lost all his ability to handle her abuse. It is sad, tell her that what she is doing is harmful to her son and you think she would be best to seek family counseling and possible therapy for the boy. Sounds to me like she has issues too.

Answer 5

tell her to stop airing her dirty laundry, tell her if venting is necessary then she needs to keep it in the family,. it doesn't make her look good as a parent to complain about her child after all , a child learns from the adults.

Answer 6

The kid is acting up and stuff. your right he probobly does wan't attention. Don't be afraid to hurt her feelings because saying crap about her kid is wrong and your supposts to love and care for your kids. She is apparently not doing a good job.

Answer 7

sounds like that is her way of looking for advice to help him. She don't want to ask flat out cause she don't want to seem like a "bad" mom cause she can't figure out how to control her kid. the best way is just sit with her and ask her if she is wanting help. if you don't think that is going to be it. and she normal airs everything out then she just thinks that is ok to let everyone know what he does.

Answer 8

first of alll i think the lady wants to yap out the mouth. u should telll her that shes making herself look bad

Answer 9

tell her if her son is acting up so bad maybe she should disipline him and spend more time talking W/ him instead of about him

Answer 10

what a *****.